Comments on: Bullying In The Family http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/ Bullying Guide: Learning about and dealing with bullying Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:21:19 +0300 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jean S. http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Jean S. Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:21:11 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-234 I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON"T DO IT> I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON”T DO IT>

]]> By: unknown http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-231 unknown Tue, 30 Mar 2010 18:46:07 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-231 i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time ... i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out... i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore... i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time … i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out… i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore…

]]> By: VIRIDIANA http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-228 VIRIDIANA Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:08:22 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-228 I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE'S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON'T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE’S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON’T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED

]]> By: bullyfre http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-186 bullyfre Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:37:24 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-186 i have problems at home and iam 11 years old im being bullied by my cousin from jo'burg he thinks he can take advanges over me because of his size. we sleep in the same room but choose to sleep at the lounge. he just came from holidays now that hes back i feel miserable.i try to tell my mother but afraid to tell dad.i know violence is never an answer but was thinking building a contraption to beat him. i have even tried fighting back to him even though hes 17 yrs old,i even tried getting 50,000 volts to zap him but afraid of what my father would say. whenever hes around i feel miserable sometimes i pray he would go back to jo'burg but does not happen what should i do? i have problems at home and iam 11 years old im being bullied by my cousin from jo’burg he thinks he can take advanges over me because of his size. we sleep in the same room but choose to sleep at the lounge. he just came from holidays now that hes back i feel miserable.i try to tell my mother but afraid to tell dad.i know violence is never an answer but was thinking building a contraption to beat him. i have even tried fighting back to him even though hes 17 yrs old,i even tried getting 50,000 volts to zap him but afraid of what my father would say. whenever hes around i feel miserable sometimes i pray he would go back to jo’burg but does not happen what should i do?

]]> By: Sharon Russell http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Sharon Russell Sat, 05 Dec 2009 07:07:08 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-126 empowerment of men over women never works, neither does falsely formed new relationships, children become displaced, confused and lose their sanctity of peace, nurturing and fundamental rights to life, when a father leaves a relationship to endeavour in other romantic pursuits, the child left behind feels emotionally responsible for their own mothers, siblings not to mention financial income, its called being dumped and in my experience the father who did try to take-over inadvertently broke a bone in my neck - sickly, back damage, near paralysis and awkward gait not to mention stength of holding up ones head, so please dont expect any recompensence of sorror over ones mental relations, unfortunately for them the victims ie. the children grow up and unless youre completely dumb should hide your arse and KEEP OUT of no-go zones and that includes getting bodily parts stuck in virginal females. empowerment of men over women never works, neither does falsely formed new relationships, children become displaced, confused and lose their sanctity of peace, nurturing and fundamental rights to life, when a father leaves a relationship to endeavour in other romantic pursuits, the child left behind feels emotionally responsible for their own mothers, siblings not to mention financial income, its called being dumped and in my experience the father who did try to take-over inadvertently broke a bone in my neck – sickly, back damage, near paralysis and awkward gait not to mention stength of holding up ones head, so please dont expect any recompensence of sorror over ones mental relations, unfortunately for them the victims ie. the children grow up and unless youre completely dumb should hide your arse and KEEP OUT of no-go zones and that includes getting bodily parts stuck in virginal females.

]]> By: elaine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-118 elaine Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:14:13 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-118 I would like to say that i am a mother of 8 children who are all adults now and i am so upset at the way my eldest daughter has turned out, she hates me so much that she has had me beaten up by her so called friend and she tells lies about me all the time, according to her i am an alcoholic and she reared her 5 sisters and 2 brothers, i would like to say that i am tea total and was a 24/7 mother never left my kids with no one but their father when i had to. this girl tries everything in her power to destroy me, she has had members of the family join in her destruction against me and hates it if her sisters talk to me she rings them and gives out to them asking what were they saying to me and what was i saying,then she gives them a piece of her mind, the girls seem to bow down to her to much but no matter what they say she blames it on me. will she ever be able to leave me alone? I would like to say that i am a mother of 8 children who are all adults now and i am so upset at the way my eldest daughter has turned out, she hates me so much that she has had me beaten up by her so called friend and she tells lies about me all the time, according to her i am an alcoholic and she reared her 5 sisters and 2 brothers, i would like to say that i am tea total and was a 24/7 mother never left my kids with no one but their father when i had to. this girl tries everything in her power to destroy me, she has had members of the family join in her destruction against me and hates it if her sisters talk to me she rings them and gives out to them asking what were they saying to me and what was i saying,then she gives them a piece of her mind, the girls seem to bow down to her to much but no matter what they say she blames it on me. will she ever be able to leave me alone?

]]> By: Dee http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Dee Sun, 09 Aug 2009 19:53:02 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-115 I have been bullied by my mother in-law for the past twenty years. She started making rude comments about my family being "white trash" and it has esclated to the point that we do not want anything to do with her or my husband's family,in the past 3-4 years my sister in-law started bullying me through emails, she sends me cruel personal poems and rude jokes that are without a doubt directed at me and so far I have not responded but I would like to know what legal action I could take against her. I have been bullied by my mother in-law for the past twenty years. She started making rude comments about my family being “white trash” and it has esclated to the point that we do not want anything to do with her or my husband’s family,in the past 3-4 years my sister in-law started bullying me through emails, she sends me cruel personal poems and rude jokes that are without a doubt directed at me and so far I have not responded but I would like to know what legal action I could take against her.

]]> By: Melissa http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-112 Melissa Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:30:57 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-112 In reference to Catherine's post in Sept '08...did anyone ever respond to her? My situation is almost identical. My nephew is a bully to my son (physically) & after approaching my sister twice nothing has changed. It's impossible to not be around them because we actually live together and they both stay with my mom while we work (my mom doesn't do anything about it either)! It is not too extreme to have those feelings, we feel the same way. We try to avoid them as much as possible. I would welcome any advice as well. In reference to Catherine’s post in Sept ‘08…did anyone ever respond to her? My situation is almost identical. My nephew is a bully to my son (physically) & after approaching my sister twice nothing has changed. It’s impossible to not be around them because we actually live together and they both stay with my mom while we work (my mom doesn’t do anything about it either)! It is not too extreme to have those feelings, we feel the same way. We try to avoid them as much as possible. I would welcome any advice as well.

]]> By: Rosamund http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-106 Rosamund Wed, 22 Apr 2009 21:34:13 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-106 My family have been bullying me for years but it has taken many years to realize this because they have always made me feel like I couldn't survive without them. They frequently put down my ideas when I was growing up and always expected me to do the 'right thing'. Most of my life I have done what I feel I should do rather than what I wanted to do. I feel like I don't know who I am a lot of time now and therefore find it really hard to make decisions. I don't trust myself and still, at 33 years old, ask my family what I should do, all the time. I have very low self esteem although I am told I am an attractive and intelligent individual. I never feel happy with the person I am. I have recently started my own family and am marrying my lovely, caring partner this summer. We have a lovely baby boy. Now I have my own family I understand what it really feels like to be valued and respected. I want to learn how to love myself and have a more healthy relationship with my family if possible, even if this means seeing them as rarely as possible. My older brother who lives near me is particularly bad and has been really nasty to me since I had my baby. For example he rang me right after I had been through a traumatic birth and told me I was a mean, selfish person for not helping him look after his daughter 4 days after i gave birth! I think he is jealous because he is desperate to remarry and have more kids. He has one girl from a previous marriage but his wife left him because she said he was emotionally abusive. He is trying to become very friendly with my partner now and it scares me because I don't trust him at all and feel like he's up to something... My younger, half sister, also bullies me. She is really nice to me one minute but if I don't do something she wants or get in her way or steel any attention from her she can be really mean. Most of my family live in the states and I live in the UK so they are not involved in my day to day life luckily. However as my partner wants me to get citizenship in the USA because he says we might want to live there one day...I need to go and spend a short time there without him and I am scared my family will make me feel really small again. The last time I was there I felt really awful by the end of the trip. My sister has made our sister-in-law her sidekick so now she is rude to me too. I am really dreading going back there even for a short time. I don't want to get the citizenship. I want to start a new life with my new family and leave my old family behind in the USA. However my partner says our getting citizenship needn't have anything to do with them and can be just for us. I believe that if our path leads us back to the USA then we will go as a family when the time is right and we have no reason to need the citizenship. I want my old family to see that I am not clinging to them anymore, that I love them but I don't need them. I want to set myself free from them. I don't want them to bully me any more. I don't think I have the strength...yet. My family have been bullying me for years but it has taken many years to realize this because they have always made me feel like I couldn’t survive without them. They frequently put down my ideas when I was growing up and always expected me to do the ‘right thing’. Most of my life I have done what I feel I should do rather than what I wanted to do. I feel like I don’t know who I am a lot of time now and therefore find it really hard to make decisions. I don’t trust myself and still, at 33 years old, ask my family what I should do, all the time. I have very low self esteem although I am told I am an attractive and intelligent individual. I never feel happy with the person I am.

I have recently started my own family and am marrying my lovely, caring partner this summer. We have a lovely baby boy. Now I have my own family I understand what it really feels like to be valued and respected. I want to learn how to love myself and have a more healthy relationship with my family if possible, even if this means seeing them as rarely as possible.

My older brother who lives near me is particularly bad and has been really nasty to me since I had my baby. For example he rang me right after I had been through a traumatic birth and told me I was a mean, selfish person for not helping him look after his daughter 4 days after i gave birth! I think he is jealous because he is desperate to remarry and have more kids. He has one girl from a previous marriage but his wife left him because she said he was emotionally abusive. He is trying to become very friendly with my partner now and it scares me because I don’t trust him at all and feel like he’s up to something…

My younger, half sister, also bullies me. She is really nice to me one minute but if I don’t do something she wants or get in her way or steel any attention from her she can be really mean.

Most of my family live in the states and I live in the UK so they are not involved in my day to day life luckily. However as my partner wants me to get citizenship in the USA because he says we might want to live there one day…I need to go and spend a short time there without him and I am scared my family will make me feel really small again. The last time I was there I felt really awful by the end of the trip. My sister has made our sister-in-law her sidekick so now she is rude to me too. I am really dreading going back there even for a short time.

I don’t want to get the citizenship. I want to start a new life with my new family and leave my old family behind in the USA. However my partner says our getting citizenship needn’t have anything to do with them and can be just for us. I believe that if our path leads us back to the USA then we will go as a family when the time is right and we have no reason to need the citizenship. I want my old family to see that I am not clinging to them anymore, that I love them but I don’t need them. I want to set myself free from them. I don’t want them to bully me any more. I don’t think I have the strength…yet.

]]> By: catherine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-91 catherine Wed, 25 Feb 2009 22:19:43 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-91 It doesn't matter whether you are a guy, bullying is bullying and it's really wrong. You seem to be in a bit of a state. Tell your story in it's entirety and see if anyone here can offer you some advice. Maybe someone has a similar story to tell and you might got some information from them to help you. It doesn’t matter whether you are a guy, bullying is bullying and it’s really wrong. You seem to be in a bit of a state. Tell your story in it’s entirety and see if anyone here can offer you some advice. Maybe someone has a similar story to tell and you might got some information from them to help you.

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