Comments on: Bullying In The Family http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/ Bullying Guide: Learning about and dealing with bullying Mon, 16 May 2011 16:19:13 +0300 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: tarmstrong http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-259 tarmstrong Mon, 24 Jan 2011 19:13:14 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-259 I also thank TVAL for what was shared. I understand and I have moved on because, you want to stay and let it roll away but for some reason, many that bully love the fighting and anger. I don't understand,*!? But, I stopped trying to figure out why. I also thank TVAL for what was shared. I understand and I have moved on because, you want to stay and let it roll away but for some reason, many that bully love the fighting and anger. I don’t understand,*!? But, I stopped trying to figure out why.

]]> By: tarmstrong http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-258 tarmstrong Mon, 24 Jan 2011 18:56:09 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-258 Catherine is telling the truth. I have went through a whole lot of painful (quietly) for years upon finding out that I wasn't the child of one of my parents. Well, it didn't matter to me; I just love them anyway. But over the months and years, I realize that it truly mattered to this parent. The things that this parent said, say and did and does has and did make my mouth hang open. But, I continued to forgive and show that I just love you. The parent continue to get worse. In the year of 2004, I lost one parent and since it has been worse. Now, instead of the mistreatment from one parent; its now a whole extended family (lying the works). I continued to go around until 2009.Yes, it was hard to do but, when I was present and there it was worse. I really thought I was LOVED.... Catherine is telling the truth. I have went through a whole lot of painful (quietly) for years upon finding out that I wasn’t the child of one of my parents. Well, it didn’t matter to me; I just love them anyway. But over the months and years, I realize that it truly mattered to this parent. The things that this parent said, say and did and does has and did make my mouth hang open. But, I continued to forgive and show that I just love you.
The parent continue to get worse. In the year of 2004, I lost one parent and since it has been worse. Now, instead of the mistreatment from one parent; its now a whole extended family (lying the works). I continued to go around until 2009.Yes, it was hard to do but, when I was present and there it was worse. I really thought I was LOVED….

]]> By: TVAL http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-240 TVAL Thu, 30 Sep 2010 17:03:37 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-240 I do feel for everyone who has commented here and for those who have read and not commented. I have suffered from Family prejiduces because of who my parents are. There is no winning for losing. Once a group or someone pigeon holes you, UNFORTUANELY...There generally is no way of turning them around. I know I have tried and wated 27 years trying. I have looked up and researched..bullying, mobbing...be it at work or in the family. The only thing that works is the hardest thing to do....LEAVE. Rumors, gossip, lies, name calling, put downs etc. It will not stop, and it is unjustified. My son and I moved and are starting over in a new State and City. It is hard. But, there really is no other way. Most people will not admit to wrong doing. They will down play it at best. They will always twist it that you are overly sensitive to their abuse. The only way to stop it is to get away from it. We have joined a very nice Church and are making it our new Family. We know to be careful of certain personalities and to avoid them. Go where you are celebrated...not where you are tolerated. It is lonely at first, but you must be strong and courageous. You will not change others...and if they had a heart they would not be abusive or hurtful in the first place. In your heart, you know this. Hope reigns eternal...(YES) but you must realize that without your sanity, you are not good even to yourself. And abusive people are crazy makers and you can NOT beat them at their own game...ESPECIALLY if you are out numbered. Move and rebuild carefully. It may sound unreal...but it is the only way to preserve your sanity and HEAL. I tried to talk to my Family about the hurtful gossip and psycho analizing....but it did no good. It is a Family tradition and there have even been suicides...still no one wants to change the hurtful game of denial and picking people apart and creating stories to back up their behaviour. Long story short...look up bullying and mobbing, you will see that there really is no stopping it...just getting away from it and starting over. Advice..Pick the people you allow to be close to you carefully. Healing is hard...but, possible! But only by getting away from it. Please do your research and do not waste your time trying to change people... I do feel for everyone who has commented here and for those who have read and not commented.
I have suffered from Family prejiduces because of who my parents are.
There is no winning for losing. Once a group or someone pigeon holes you, UNFORTUANELY…There generally is no way of turning them around. I know I have tried and wated 27 years trying. I have looked up and researched..bullying, mobbing…be it at work or in the family. The only thing that works is the hardest thing to do….LEAVE.
Rumors, gossip, lies, name calling, put downs etc.
It will not stop, and it is unjustified.
My son and I moved and are starting over in a new State and City. It is hard. But, there really is no other way. Most people will not admit to wrong doing. They will down play it at best. They will always twist it that you are overly sensitive to their abuse.
The only way to stop it is to get away from it.
We have joined a very nice Church and are making it our new Family. We know to be careful of certain personalities and to avoid them.
Go where you are celebrated…not where you are tolerated.
It is lonely at first, but you must be strong and courageous. You will not change others…and if they had a heart they would not be abusive or hurtful in the first place. In your heart, you know this. Hope reigns eternal…(YES) but you must realize that without your sanity, you are not good even to yourself. And abusive people are crazy makers and you can NOT beat them at their own game…ESPECIALLY if you are out numbered.

Move and rebuild carefully. It may sound unreal…but it is the only way to preserve your sanity and HEAL.
I tried to talk to my Family about the hurtful gossip and psycho analizing….but it did no good. It is a Family tradition and there have even been suicides…still no one wants to change the hurtful game of denial and picking people apart and creating stories to back up their behaviour.
Long story short…look up bullying and mobbing, you will see that there really is no stopping it…just getting away from it and starting over.

Advice..Pick the people you allow to be close to you carefully. Healing is hard…but, possible! But only by getting away from it.

Please do your research and do not waste your time trying to change people…

]]> By: richard http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-236 richard Sun, 01 Aug 2010 04:11:38 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-236 My brother has always been allowed to control our family. Whatever he says, goes. Whatever he wants, he gets. He has stolen money, he has sold drugs, he has never worked a day in his life. The worse part is that he is so arrogant about how successful he is, and my parents always protect him whenever anyone tries to point out that he is nothing more than a liar. I have avoided, will have to continue to avoid family gatherings to avoid the sick feeling when he starts picking. If I show up, he makes a point of starting something. The sad thing is, his own son is so much like him...wonder if it is not genetic? My brother has always been allowed to control our family. Whatever he says, goes. Whatever he wants, he gets. He has stolen money, he has sold drugs, he has never worked a day in his life. The worse part is that he is so arrogant about how successful he is, and my parents always protect him whenever anyone tries to point out that he is nothing more than a liar. I have avoided, will have to continue to avoid family gatherings to avoid the sick feeling when he starts picking. If I show up, he makes a point of starting something. The sad thing is, his own son is so much like him…wonder if it is not genetic?

]]> By: Jean S. http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Jean S. Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:21:11 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-234 I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON"T DO IT> I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON”T DO IT>

]]> By: unknown http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-231 unknown Tue, 30 Mar 2010 18:46:07 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-231 i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time ... i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out... i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore... i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time … i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out… i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore…

]]> By: VIRIDIANA http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-228 VIRIDIANA Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:08:22 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-228 I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE'S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON'T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE’S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON’T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED

]]> By: bullyfre http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-186 bullyfre Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:37:24 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-186 i have problems at home and iam 11 years old im being bullied by my cousin from jo'burg he thinks he can take advanges over me because of his size. we sleep in the same room but choose to sleep at the lounge. he just came from holidays now that hes back i feel miserable.i try to tell my mother but afraid to tell dad.i know violence is never an answer but was thinking building a contraption to beat him. i have even tried fighting back to him even though hes 17 yrs old,i even tried getting 50,000 volts to zap him but afraid of what my father would say. whenever hes around i feel miserable sometimes i pray he would go back to jo'burg but does not happen what should i do? i have problems at home and iam 11 years old im being bullied by my cousin from jo’burg he thinks he can take advanges over me because of his size. we sleep in the same room but choose to sleep at the lounge. he just came from holidays now that hes back i feel miserable.i try to tell my mother but afraid to tell dad.i know violence is never an answer but was thinking building a contraption to beat him. i have even tried fighting back to him even though hes 17 yrs old,i even tried getting 50,000 volts to zap him but afraid of what my father would say. whenever hes around i feel miserable sometimes i pray he would go back to jo’burg but does not happen what should i do?

]]> By: Sharon Russell http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Sharon Russell Sat, 05 Dec 2009 07:07:08 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-126 empowerment of men over women never works, neither does falsely formed new relationships, children become displaced, confused and lose their sanctity of peace, nurturing and fundamental rights to life, when a father leaves a relationship to endeavour in other romantic pursuits, the child left behind feels emotionally responsible for their own mothers, siblings not to mention financial income, its called being dumped and in my experience the father who did try to take-over inadvertently broke a bone in my neck - sickly, back damage, near paralysis and awkward gait not to mention stength of holding up ones head, so please dont expect any recompensence of sorror over ones mental relations, unfortunately for them the victims ie. the children grow up and unless youre completely dumb should hide your arse and KEEP OUT of no-go zones and that includes getting bodily parts stuck in virginal females. empowerment of men over women never works, neither does falsely formed new relationships, children become displaced, confused and lose their sanctity of peace, nurturing and fundamental rights to life, when a father leaves a relationship to endeavour in other romantic pursuits, the child left behind feels emotionally responsible for their own mothers, siblings not to mention financial income, its called being dumped and in my experience the father who did try to take-over inadvertently broke a bone in my neck – sickly, back damage, near paralysis and awkward gait not to mention stength of holding up ones head, so please dont expect any recompensence of sorror over ones mental relations, unfortunately for them the victims ie. the children grow up and unless youre completely dumb should hide your arse and KEEP OUT of no-go zones and that includes getting bodily parts stuck in virginal females.

]]> By: elaine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-118 elaine Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:14:13 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-118 I would like to say that i am a mother of 8 children who are all adults now and i am so upset at the way my eldest daughter has turned out, she hates me so much that she has had me beaten up by her so called friend and she tells lies about me all the time, according to her i am an alcoholic and she reared her 5 sisters and 2 brothers, i would like to say that i am tea total and was a 24/7 mother never left my kids with no one but their father when i had to. this girl tries everything in her power to destroy me, she has had members of the family join in her destruction against me and hates it if her sisters talk to me she rings them and gives out to them asking what were they saying to me and what was i saying,then she gives them a piece of her mind, the girls seem to bow down to her to much but no matter what they say she blames it on me. will she ever be able to leave me alone? I would like to say that i am a mother of 8 children who are all adults now and i am so upset at the way my eldest daughter has turned out, she hates me so much that she has had me beaten up by her so called friend and she tells lies about me all the time, according to her i am an alcoholic and she reared her 5 sisters and 2 brothers, i would like to say that i am tea total and was a 24/7 mother never left my kids with no one but their father when i had to. this girl tries everything in her power to destroy me, she has had members of the family join in her destruction against me and hates it if her sisters talk to me she rings them and gives out to them asking what were they saying to me and what was i saying,then she gives them a piece of her mind, the girls seem to bow down to her to much but no matter what they say she blames it on me. will she ever be able to leave me alone?

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