Bullying In Workplace
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Bullying in the workplace can be dealt with the same as any type of bullying; bullies awe secretive cowards whatever their age. The bully in the workplace will lie to achieve their goal and deceive others around them. They are extremely clever but so are you and you can beat the bully. There are certain things you have to remember when dealing with a bully in the workplace, these are:
* Start to gain control back
Recognize what is happening to you and admit that you are being bullied, there is no shame in it and it’s not something you are at fault for. Criticisms about your work are made to put you down and to get you second guessing yourself, don’t give in to these fears, if you know you are producing work of a high standard and the boss has no complaints then don’t worry needlessly .To do this you are playing right into the bully’s hands and giving them the satisfaction they crave.
* You are not alone
It is important to remember that you are not alone in what you are going through, bullying in the workplace is a common occurrence. Many people associate bullying with children in school but it is a wide spread problem which can occur in some shape or form anywhere.
Bullying in the workplace however usually consists of mental cruelty more than physical violence with the bully wanting the attention or credit you get for the work you produce.
It often happens that the bully will steal your ideas for their own, do not let the bully make you feel shame, guilt or fear; this is what the bully relies upon to keep their hold over you. Guilt and fear strategies are the bully’s best friend for this is how all abusers silence their victims.
* Don’t try to handle bullying alone
Bullies pick on those who are afraid to tell others of the problem therefore it is important to remember there is no shame in asking for help, the bully will try hard to make you feel inadequate and belittle their victim making them believe that asking for help and not being able to deal with the problem on your own like an adult is cowardly. If necessary tell a colleague at the very least or preferably the boss, bullying is harassment and most workplaces won’t tolerate harassment.
* Take action against the bully
Keep a written account of the incidents of bullying, write in great detail what happened and where, including times and dates. If the bully has sent memos, emails or text messages be sure to keep copies of them but never reply to them.
It can also be worthwhile purchasing a hand held mini tape recorder or a phone which has recording capabilities and capture the bullies own words.
Talk with other employees very often the bully will not target just one person but several in the workplace, get together with colleagues and make a stand together against the bully. The bully will be very reluctant to continue with the abuse once they realize they have been found out.
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Bullying In Workplace Question: 1
Workplace bullying - Contractors/Temps? Just curious re UK laws re bullying in the workplace, with regard to contractors/temps. The conventional wisdom seems to be that temp/contractors have NO rights, as they are employees of the agency (or quite often, of their own limited company, so there is an additional degree of separation from the client). But what if you are being bullied by the client - what rights to complain have you got? If anyone has specific knowledge of UK employment law that would be great.
I faced this situation a few years ago, and I hope I never face it again. But I am still a contractor and I know lots of people who are contracting. This situation comes up from time to time, unfortunately. What rights do we have?
Jim - it would be bizarre, to say the least, to insist upon extra 'employer abuse' penalties when at the contract stage. Contracts are pretty much standard, particularly with regard to sub-clauses. I find it hard to believe that the ONLY protection under UK law is what appears in the terms of the contract. There are LAWS against workplace bullying, it is not merely a contractual issue! What I want to know is - do the laws extend to contract workers, and if so to what extent? Is it the same as for an equivalent permanent employee?
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Bullying In Workplace Question: 2
Have you been a victim of workplace bullying, if so, by whom (boss,coworker,subordinate)? I am a professional expert on 'workplace bullying.' In the USA, most workers are aware of 'sexual harassment' & 'hostile work environment' & we have laws against this. "Workplace bullying' is a larger, more umbrella term, that includes the entire gamut of all negative, non-supportive, undermining behaviors towards an employee, whether the source is from a boss, a coworker, or a subordinate. Many other countries have strict laws against workplace bullying, in order to safeguard & ensure a more civil, socially just workplace for its citizens. These include Australia, Canada, France, Ireland, Sweden (where original research was done & wpb term originated), the UK, to name a few. Efforts are underway to bring more protective laws to the USA, although change is slow. I am writing a book on the subject, & am seeking interviewees for case studies for the book. Your identity will remain confidential. If interested in being interviewed, contact me. If you are being bullied, do not stay silent.
Answer: See, how does one know if you are an employer trying to see if people are talking against his company? And I find it is never good to talk against a company and fight with them. Many times, you can work with them and you will find that you are not really being bullied. Rather, they would just like things done a certain way. Maybe they don't always have the best way of conveying that information, but they are human beings, too.
If you get talked to, that is your chance to voice your opinion also, and the two parties can mull over it separately and try to adjust to the way the other does things. I have adjusted in what seemed like the most difficult situations ever. I feel bad about myself at times. And yes, at first, I felt I was being bullied and that everyone was out to get me. But they weren't. They said how they felt, I said how I felt, neither made a huge deal out of it, and on we went with the workday. But good changes came out of it.
Bottom line--people aren't at work to play. They're at work to work, and if they don't show up and do the work or if they create too many problems and distract from work to be done, they will be talked to. Eventually, they may be fired.
That's just the way the world works. It seems cruel, but no busy manager needs an employee who is a headache. Moreover, no good will ever come from fighting with everybody, and those laws you speak of won't be enacted b/c certain states allow firings for no reason at all.
Generally, if one does what is expected at work, there won't be a problem. If not, then the person can try to adjust. They are to listen to their superior and do as instructed. That is not being bullied.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 3
workplace bullying? Yesterday I was at work when a woman asked me to come into the office.
She started shouting at me saying that she knew what I had been saying at school and I had got everyones backs up.
I didn't have a clue what she was on about but she was still accusing me of saying that I stand back and let everyone do the work which is not true because I work really really hard, and I would never say that to anyone.
I am 13 and the woman who called me into the office wasn't even the boss.
they only pay me 3 pounds an hour they don't help me when I need help and it becomes over whelming as I am only new to starting work.
My dad said that she could get into alot of trouble for doing that when she isn't in charge.
She also took me out of the kitchen and started shouting at me in front of everyone and I didn't have a clue what I had done and I was crying my eyes out.
Is this workplace bullying concidering my age and they don't give me proper brakes?
Answer: She IS a bully. Go to your boss and say what has been happening. You really must do this. Don't tell her what you are going to do though because she might try to see your boss first and change the story.
She has no right to do this and YOU have RIGHTS....not to be treated this way.
Go tell on her as soon as you can. Explain what happened and say how it made you feel.
Best wishes.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 4
Workplace bullying.....laws? I'm in WI and was wondering if anyone knew the laws regarding workplace bullying? This would include acts such as 3rd party harrassment, slander and intimidation.
Answer: Check with the local lawyers. If there are no specific laws for this purpose, you may seek action for human rights violation.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 5
Workplace Bullying? Well as it says , I feel as if im the victim of workplace bullying and what makes it more upsetting is the person is younger then me.
Im constantly being called names and to me its not a joke but to them it is.
For example i get called Retard cause i dont understand something everything i do im questioned or insulted .
i just wanna get along with them but it doesnt seem its going to happen.
So what should i do try to ignore it , confront them , See my boss etc
Wow thanks for the answers they are alot of help
(If i sound sarcastic im not)
Ill defiantly take these answers onboard
Thanks again
Answer: Dont take it...
I was harrassed a few years back, by a girl who USED to be my friend and all of a sudden she started hating on me.
Everyone told me it was because she was jealous of me...she was just ugly inside and out.
She harassed me about the color of my hair to my clothes to my boyfriend....
I shouldnt have taken that for so long.
So my advice to you is talk to the boss...or your union..do something..because this person needs to be stopped.
If their job is threatened they will def. think twice about bugging you.
good luck and try to ignore the idiot while you are trying to get them in trouble!
;-)
Bullying In Workplace Question: 6
Does singapore have a law against workplace bullying? Have you been a victim of workplace bullying, if so, by whom (boss,coworker,subordinate)?
What if a person listen to their superior and do as instructed and being bullied others then how do you deal with it? Then what will happen to the person begin bullied and how they will face the problem? Surely the boss,coworker,subordinate will believe them and the person begin bullied, no one will believe them and they get extra works, overtime, pay cut - how they drama to be good person - this kind of drama surely the (boss,coworker,subordinate) believe and the person begin bullied, they will quit the job or kill themselve. How to stop this?
I have been workplace bully in many jobs & was force 2 quit & some job i resign by myself because of tat ppl push their work 2 me, e supervisor side them, & their friend help them & i get bully & i didn't get my overtime pay & they get pay 4 doing nothing & tis is unfair. I went 2 my boss & i say what has been happening but e person change e story & act as innocent. The supervisor & coworker support them. Wat's e correct way 2 report tis problem? Who do I go 2 first? Do I contact e helpline or e boss? & if it doesn't work, who do I contact next & wat should i do next?. I can't live my life like tis 4 long, tis is my life. Some ppl can get along with ppl & y i can't? y i am getting bully? How i tell them off, still i get bully by them or get rejected by them & i am always lonely at lunch time & ppl with long face working with me. Which company/factory i go - there is always gangster working with me.
I don't want war, i want peace, friendly & happy working. Tis i told e priest, he told me 2 be a monk & he laugh at me & without helping me. I respect him & tis is how he behave 2 me. Wat a asshole he is. Anywhere i go i have been treated like tis or get bully or begin cheated - why? How 2 be friendly type person & get along in workplace? I am not a friendly type person, i am depressed & not a happy person. I don't have fancy story 2 talk about or able 2 tell jokes - i am e boring & useless guy. I have 2 change my life style - went ppl see me coming, they will invite me or talk 2 me or joke with me. How much hard work i did change my life style & it didn't workout. 10 years i am still e same person. I hate myself 4 begin a weak & useless person. Why i can't change? Why is it so hard 2 change? Is it tat i am begin curse or someone put black magic curse on me? Why me?
Is there realy no way out solving my problems? I am stuck in this chinese country which has alot of rules and laws. This stupid singapore country is hell and boring place. 10 years ago i support my country, do alot of volunteering job, cleaning the church but these peoples and priests didn't respect me or help me. Every work place i go, the supervisor and coworker bully me and cheat my salary, i ask the priest for help, they told that, they can't help me and they don't even bother about me. Even i respect them and show them that i am a good catholic person that SOB priests treat me like hell. I have alot of badge of singapore flag in my cuboard, certificate of volunteering - but this SOB peoples treat me like this, i hate my country and this peoples. If i can't help, pls pray for me to get out of this hell place. Each day i stay here, they are pressuring me and i can't take the stress here. Like this goes on, my life gone. Then i will end my life for good.
I thought that catholic peoples and priests are friendly, loving, caring and helpful. They treat me like this - what kind of catholic priests and peoples is this? This is what the bible teach? Are they following the bibe teaching or their own teaching? Is there no one to stop them from behaving like barbarian to the poor and depression people? Singapore chinese people have no sense of humor - behaving like a ASSHOLE. Everyone praise this country that it is a good place and peoples but their behavior towards us like Shiit. No respect or kindness or love or caring and not helpful.
Answer: Mr Psalms. Not everyone gets along with everyone in the work place. But you have to learn how to work together.
If it is absolutely bothering you, then you can go and talk very professionally to the management. Ask them what they think about your performance
and tell them that you are trying your best to do whatever it takes to get the job done but that "this person" is really affecting your performance and tell them you would appreciate their intervention in order to create a working environment where you are all working as a team.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 7
Is this workplace bullying? My placement supervisor for my internship is being pretty harsh on me i think. For example there was a part missing of a patients file i typed out, and i said i thought i typed it out i dont know whats happening to that part of the file at the moment...she said bluntly "you"...and walked away. What the hell, is this workplace bullying or something? its getting me down being supervised by her and i dont know if i should tell anyone cos she grades me at the end. Any suggestions?
Answer: Well if this isn't an isolated incident you need to do something because even if you don't tell anyone she can still grade you down if she finds a lame reason to dislike you. My friend had that happen and even though she never complained about the supervisor she got lower marks than everyone else because the supervisor didn't like her. If you can talk to someone about her anonymously then do it. Surely there must be someone you can complain to about her.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 8
Does Canada have a law against workplace bullying? I am being bullied at work. I have complained to me boss several times and when I do she seems annoyed with me that I am complaining. I don't want her to try and get rid of me just cause I am complaining. Does anyone know if Canada has a law against workplace bullying to protect me?
Answer: They do.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 9
What do you do to cope with workplace bullying? I've seen it can happen to anyone; my family, friends, acquaintances, me; at any time.
How can you be sure that are really being bullied and the other person(s) is doing it consciously?
Do you think there is a general solution that could end bullying in the workplace, or is there nothing really efffective that works?
great answers! and all very true (- unfortunately, in some cases!)
I'll put it to a vote i think as i can't choose...
Answer: File a complaint with the HR department. If they don't take action on it, you have good grounds for a lucrative lawsuit. "Creating a hostile work environment", falls under the same category as sexual harassment, and is illegal.
Bullying In Workplace Question: 10
what's the correct way to complain about workplace bullying? If I feel I am being bullied at work, my supervisor or manager has been mean and unfair to me, and there are people who have witnessed these facts, if there are videos throughout my workplace that can be reviewed to support my claim. What's the correct way to report this person? Who do you go to first? do you contact the helpline or the boss at your workplace? and if it doesn't work, who do you contact next?. Thanks.
Answer: Talk to the boss over that boss or employee. Simple and easy.
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