If you are being bullied in school then you can go to your teachers for help and they must do everything they can to straighten it out and stop the bullying while you’re in school. Bullying however can continue outside of school during the weekends and holidays and school has nothing to do with the bullying when this happens, so what can be done to put a stop to bullying outside of school? There are several ways that you can help to make life easier for yourself if you are being bullied outside of school, these include:
* Ask you friends to call for you before you go out instead of walking to friends’ homes on your own.
* Try taking a slightly different route than you would normally take if you are alone.
* If you’re out alone in the dark then stick to well lit streets.
* Try avoiding areas that you know bullies hang out such as shops, playgrounds and parks.
* Get a personal safety alarm or a whistle and use it if you are threatened.
* If bullies call you names don’t reply just ignore them and carry on walking.
* If you have an a older brother or sister then let them walk with you to your friends’ house.
* Get a lift from your parents to a friends’ house.
Most bullies think it’s clever to call you names they know will upset you and any reaction you have to them name calling will only egg them on and they will do it all the more. If they see that you are upset then they will torment you more so try not to show that their behaviour upsets you or frightens you.
Tell someone you’re being bullied
It is very important that you tell someone if you are or have been bullied on any occasion, whether this is at school or home, it is not a sign of weakness and it doesn’t mean you are a coward for not dealing with it yourself.
If you are being hit or kicked then the person doing this could get into serious trouble as it is a criminal offence and even making obscene gestures and calling you names is termed as harassment. Often children are afraid that they won’t be taken seriously when they say they’re being bullied but more and more attention is being paid to bullying and it is taken very seriously by parents, teachers and the police.
It can be helpful particularly if the police have to become involved if you have kept a journal of the bullying in as much detail as you can. For example writing down dates and times and what was said or done at the time.
What will be done about the bullying?
If you are being bullied on a daily basis by the same person and they are physically harming you as well as mentally then your parents can call the police and someone will come and talk to you about the bullying.
Special police community support officers will usually get involved and they will come and talk to both you and the person responsible for the bullying. In most cases this sorts the problem out as the police will often give the child an unofficial warning, if it doesn’t or the bullying gets worse then the police will come back and take statements from you and they might recommend that you bring criminal charges against the bully.
If the bully admits what they have done then probably they will have to visit the police station and a caution will be given if it goes further then they may have to attend a court hearing and be prosecuted and it will go down on record.
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had football conditioning and near the end if the practice my friend starts to drink from a gallon of Gatorade and bunch of other people were so I thought it was one my friends so I took a good gulp from it and afterwards a sophmore comes up and starts yelling at me for drinking and I was trying to explain that I didn’t know that it was his and I thought it was my friends then later when I’m walking back he pushes me over the railing and then he says he Is going to make my freshman year a living hell please help!!
My son is in second grade, and has been the victom of a school bully who is in the 5th grade. The kid just moved into the neighborhood a couple of weeks ago, and has been tormenting all of the other kids in the neighborhood. No one has been able to find his parents only his grandmother who is unwilling to listen to anyone about how out of control her grandson is. What can we do as parents to stop this hateful action from this one child?
If your child is getting bullied outside of scchool threaten to take legal action if nothing is done and its still happening go around get a patition to get the kid and his family chuked out of the nabourhood that way knowone will ever hear of them again x good luck
Has anyone else had experience with the following. I’m not sure it comes under bullying but the effects are just as bad.
We have one daughter and if I say so myself she has never given me any trouble or been in any trouble. Apart from the usual pre-teen moods and the odd compromise we have to reach when picking clothes, I really cannot complain.
My point is that we have raised her with certain values and morals. These include:
Respect your teachers at school.
Make sure no-one is left out.
A bit of kindness goes a long way.
Be truthful and trustworthy.
In short, treat people the way you would like to be treated.
I have found, however, that with the majority of other kids, this is a foreign concept. They do and say whatever they want with no fear of reprimand. This is so hard to explain to a 12yr old who has been taught manners but feels like she is in the minority. An example of this would be that her friend(whom she regarded as her best friend) up and left her in the yard at school and has not talked to her since. I asked my daughter had anything happened before this and she could only say that she had been a bit off with her that morning but nothing else. It, unfortunately, is not the only experience of this that my daughter has had but this friend in particular really hurt her.
My question is this.
Are parents who teach their kids the basic manners and values really in the minority and are we doing them any favours?
I would really appreciate any input.
Catherine, I believe my daughter is in a similiar situation as yours. The neighborhood girls exclude her, taunt her and their parents do nothing. She has run home crying more times than I can count. I have had her bus stop changed so she does not have to walk home with them talking smack behind her…I have spoken to the parents, and they say they stay out of it, kids will be kids, it will blow over. Parents who teach basic values are a minority in this day and age. Children are in charge in US households, with no consequences for their actions, and no real parental involvement or interaction. As long as the kids are out of the parents way, I do not believe they care where they are or what they are doing. It is discouraging to raise a kind loving child and send them out into a harsh cruel world. I ended the friendships with the kids last night. Advising the parents I can no longer stand idly by while these girls berate her without consequence. We are doing our children a world of good raising them with morals and values, even if no one else is. We can look at our children and be proud of them, know they are going to do the right thing, and know that they will raise responsible respectful children one day too. Good luck to you and your daughter. Friends come and go, but values, morals and virtue are forever.
Jen, your letter is so heartening! Not that you’re child being bullied and annoyed is heartening, but the very fact that I find I am not alone in my thinking is very encouraging. Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my comments and I hope sincerely that your daughter will find a really good friend soon.
I think you are incredibly brave to even approach the parents, even if it was a waste of time. My one attempt at this was actually with my sister whose child tortured my daughter for almost 3yrs. Suffice it to say, I saw a whole new side to my sister and nothing changed. My daughter had to deal with this herself in the long run. She actually avoids this cousin now and although it is not the solution either of us wanted, it was the only option. I find that when the parents know what is going on and do nothing about it, it gives their children an incredible amount of power.
Thanks again and God bless.
epiphany… read tell me if you like my idea..need support
so as a kid in school i was “the runt” big ears. big glasses huge nose and of course i was like 5 inches shorter than everyone else. i been thinkin alot and have kind of been influenced by the “NO H8″ group. why not raise awareness of hassing and bullying in our youths society.
if they see its not cool to be hatefull and its better to be loved and to give love than to spread hate maybe and hopefully the youth of today and our leaders of tomorrow will turn the world around. the idea is to spread peace at an early age instead of hate and dispair.
so hear is the idea: photograph children and adults alike with a heart with a circle around it much like the “@” sign on either their chest or under thier left eye,to signify love as a whole or one love…
so what do you thnk..an idea worth trying or a fight im gonna loose?
My son is sixteen. He was bullied last year so bad that he went to a crisis center for a week. This year we thought was better,but we just found out that the gut that bothered him last year is waiting till after school and getting him on the way to the library. Is the school allowed to do anything about it?
Rebecca, if it is outside school, I am not sure that the school is responsible. Maybe it’s different where you come from. I’m writing from Ireland. In my case, it was in the school and they still did nothing about it. I really think take matters into your own hands.
had football conditioning and near the end if the practice my friend starts to drink from a gallon of Gatorade and bunch of other people were so I thought it was one my friends so I took a good gulp from it and afterwards a sophmore comes up and starts yelling at me for drinking and I was trying to explain that I didn’t know that it was his and I thought it was my friends then later when I’m walking back he pushes me over the railing and then he says he Is going to make my freshman year a living hell please help!!
You should report this to your teacher counselor. Do not be afraid, they are just try to test you if you are easy to pick on.
My son is in second grade, and has been the victom of a school bully who is in the 5th grade. The kid just moved into the neighborhood a couple of weeks ago, and has been tormenting all of the other kids in the neighborhood. No one has been able to find his parents only his grandmother who is unwilling to listen to anyone about how out of control her grandson is. What can we do as parents to stop this hateful action from this one child?
If your child is getting bullied outside of scchool threaten to take legal action if nothing is done and its still happening go around get a patition to get the kid and his family chuked out of the nabourhood that way knowone will ever hear of them again x good luck
Has anyone else had experience with the following. I’m not sure it comes under bullying but the effects are just as bad.
We have one daughter and if I say so myself she has never given me any trouble or been in any trouble. Apart from the usual pre-teen moods and the odd compromise we have to reach when picking clothes, I really cannot complain.
My point is that we have raised her with certain values and morals. These include:
Respect your teachers at school.
Make sure no-one is left out.
A bit of kindness goes a long way.
Be truthful and trustworthy.
In short, treat people the way you would like to be treated.
I have found, however, that with the majority of other kids, this is a foreign concept. They do and say whatever they want with no fear of reprimand. This is so hard to explain to a 12yr old who has been taught manners but feels like she is in the minority. An example of this would be that her friend(whom she regarded as her best friend) up and left her in the yard at school and has not talked to her since. I asked my daughter had anything happened before this and she could only say that she had been a bit off with her that morning but nothing else. It, unfortunately, is not the only experience of this that my daughter has had but this friend in particular really hurt her.
My question is this.
Are parents who teach their kids the basic manners and values really in the minority and are we doing them any favours?
I would really appreciate any input.
Catherine, I believe my daughter is in a similiar situation as yours. The neighborhood girls exclude her, taunt her and their parents do nothing. She has run home crying more times than I can count. I have had her bus stop changed so she does not have to walk home with them talking smack behind her…I have spoken to the parents, and they say they stay out of it, kids will be kids, it will blow over. Parents who teach basic values are a minority in this day and age. Children are in charge in US households, with no consequences for their actions, and no real parental involvement or interaction. As long as the kids are out of the parents way, I do not believe they care where they are or what they are doing. It is discouraging to raise a kind loving child and send them out into a harsh cruel world. I ended the friendships with the kids last night. Advising the parents I can no longer stand idly by while these girls berate her without consequence. We are doing our children a world of good raising them with morals and values, even if no one else is. We can look at our children and be proud of them, know they are going to do the right thing, and know that they will raise responsible respectful children one day too. Good luck to you and your daughter. Friends come and go, but values, morals and virtue are forever.
Jen, your letter is so heartening! Not that you’re child being bullied and annoyed is heartening, but the very fact that I find I am not alone in my thinking is very encouraging. Thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my comments and I hope sincerely that your daughter will find a really good friend soon.
I think you are incredibly brave to even approach the parents, even if it was a waste of time. My one attempt at this was actually with my sister whose child tortured my daughter for almost 3yrs. Suffice it to say, I saw a whole new side to my sister and nothing changed. My daughter had to deal with this herself in the long run. She actually avoids this cousin now and although it is not the solution either of us wanted, it was the only option. I find that when the parents know what is going on and do nothing about it, it gives their children an incredible amount of power.
Thanks again and God bless.
epiphany… read tell me if you like my idea..need support
so as a kid in school i was “the runt” big ears. big glasses huge nose and of course i was like 5 inches shorter than everyone else. i been thinkin alot and have kind of been influenced by the “NO H8″ group. why not raise awareness of hassing and bullying in our youths society.
if they see its not cool to be hatefull and its better to be loved and to give love than to spread hate maybe and hopefully the youth of today and our leaders of tomorrow will turn the world around. the idea is to spread peace at an early age instead of hate and dispair.
so hear is the idea: photograph children and adults alike with a heart with a circle around it much like the “@” sign on either their chest or under thier left eye,to signify love as a whole or one love…
so what do you thnk..an idea worth trying or a fight im gonna loose?
My son is sixteen. He was bullied last year so bad that he went to a crisis center for a week. This year we thought was better,but we just found out that the gut that bothered him last year is waiting till after school and getting him on the way to the library. Is the school allowed to do anything about it?
Rebecca, if it is outside school, I am not sure that the school is responsible. Maybe it’s different where you come from. I’m writing from Ireland. In my case, it was in the school and they still did nothing about it. I really think take matters into your own hands.