We all know that our children can be bullied in school but when this happens it is usually a fellow pupil who is the culprit but now it seems that your child is vulnerable to another kind of bullying, by teachers. Bullying done in this form is all verbal and done to make your child look stupid amongst his/her classmates; this is usually by name calling such as telling the child they are stupid in front of the whole class.
There has not being much written on the topic of teachers bullying pupils for obvious reasons, but a recent survey came to light revealing that 25% of the teachers who were questioned about bullying admitted they had to some degree during their career with 2% stating they did it on a regular basis.
Signs to watch for in your child
When teachers are the ones who are bullying children, the children are even more reluctant to tell someone than if it is other children who are doing the bullying.
This could be because they were brought up to respect older people and teachers are authority figures after all, so when the teacher becomes the bully this can be as confusing as it is upsetting for the child. Some signs that your child may be having serious problems with a teacher are
* Changes in your Child’s behaviour - Children who are bullied by teachers will often have headaches, stomach aches or any other little illness on certain days of the week, this is usually when they are in lessons with a particular teacher who is bullying them.
* Complaints of being picked on – Pay attention if your child complains of being picked on in school especially if one teachers name keeps cropping up all the time.
* Signs of contempt – if your child talks to you about an incident with a teacher get them to tell you in as much detail as possible about what happened, particularly the teachers tone of voice and the way your child was spoken to in front of the class.
Finding solutions to stop bullying by teachers
Bullying must be stopped in whatever form it takes and whoever does it, your child must understand that bullying is not acceptable and that they are not alone, it is important for parents to remain calm and not stoop to the level of the bully, parents of course will be outraged that the teacher is a bully, after all these are the people you entrust the care of your child to for hours a day.
* Arrange a meeting - arrange a meeting with the head teacher and the teacher in question and voice your concerns about your child being victimised in the classroom.
* Write a letter - Put down in writing the incidences that occur in the classroom and the way your child has changed because of the behaviour of the teacher, this way the teacher can see how his/her behaviour is affecting the child and of course they also know that you know what is happening in the classroom and that notes are being kept.
* Be prepared to go to higher authorities - If you are not satisfied with the way the school or teachers deal with any complaints, this could be writing to Ofsted or the board of education.
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My thirteen year old daughter has been bullied repeatedly by two teachers (who choose the gang up approach) in this small eastern TN community in the Smokey Mountain region. Just this year, this child was assaulted by an English teacher in the middle school setting as the lady grabbed her wrist and forearm for stating the words “whatever” to the teachers inappropriate commentary. This grabbing of her appendage, left a bruise. This teacher and I had other issues when my older son, who is now in high school, attended this middle school. This same teacher actually stated to me to my face, “we resent you questioning our authority!” (Who is we? Is this an English teacher or an abusive control freak? I am starting to believe the latter.
When taking action on this assault, I met with the teacher in question (as well as another teacher who was with the assaulter at the time, who also has major control issues) as well as the principal and vice principal. I made it very clear that this was unacceptable and I wished this type of conduct to cease and desist or I would climb the hierarchical chain of command by filing complaints with the superintendents office and exposing such abuses to the press.
A little while after this meeting, I received a certified letter from an attorney in Nashville who indicated that I was “disrupting the educational process” and by order of the Director of schools (superintendent) was banned from gracing the premises of the schools, and was only to pick up and retrieve my children from school, but was not to speak, call, email, or contact anyone employed by the School system. This is ludicrous and insane, as currently I have three children in schools here. Now, if I had made some terrorist threat or something like that, I might understand, however, the only threats (promises) I have made are to expose this type of abusive conduct which permeates and corrodes the school system here and they wish to ban me from gracing their holy premises? The superintendent and his cronies in the central office are useless as they are unresponsive and complaints are only met with denial and resistance. I have consulted legal counsel and have learned that according to state statutes, I have an extended period to go after the assaultive teacher. There is no court order, no protection order, no order of any sort, just a letter from this attorney (who I found out from other legal counsel represents 70% of the school districts in TN and is a complete ______ (an expletive that he used, which I will not write here.) I am not sure someone can ban you without a court order, simply due to the fact that they do not like what you have to say. The schools own policy is clearly defined stating that no child shall bully another child or teacher, and that no teacher will bully or intimidate another child, lest their be repercussions up to and including termination. Why does the school system opt to not follow its own policy? Does that not raise the specter of liability with the school system?
My twin girls (in the same grade and school) have experienced retaliation by these two teachers, and one acts so juvenile that she shuns my girls when she sees them, by turning her head to one side to block their presence. How juvenile is this? We have teachers with 3rd grade mentality teaching 7th grade middle schoolers?
There are other parents who have had problems in this school system, but for the most part, many are scared to speak out due to potential retaliatory type behavior toward their children.
I swear this one needs to be portrayed on “Nancy Grace”!
I feel that educationally, I am stuck in a 1970’s movie with Burt Reynolds, titled “Deliverance”!
I HAVE TWINS A BOY AND GIRL IN PRIMARY 6 AND LAST YEAR THERE WAS A NEW TEACHER THAT WAS INTRODUCED INTO THE CLASS THEN BEGAN TO TAKE OVER FROM THE ORIGINAL TEACHER ON THURSDAY AND A FRIDAY. THATS WHEN THE BULLYING STARTED!MY TWINS ARE IN THE SAME CLASS AND BOTH NEED EXTRA HELP WITHIN THERE EDUCATION, I THINK PAIGE IS DYSLEXIC BECAUSE SHE HAS TROUBLE SOUNDING WORDS OUT AND SPELLING THEM. THE TEACHER ASKED PAIGE TO PUT AWAY THE PENCILS IN A TRAY THAT WAS MARKED PENCILS BUT PAIGE COULD NOT DETERMINE WHICH WAS THE RIGHT TRAY. SO SHE SHOUTED OUT INFRONT OF THE WHOLE CLASS CAN YOU READ!!!!!! NOW SHE HAS MOVED ON TO TYLER MY BOY TWIN, HE DOES GET INTO ALOT OF BOTHER AT SCHOOL BUT BECAUSE HE DOES HE ALWAYS GET THE FINGER POINTED AT HIM.HE DOES OWN UP WHEN IT IS HIM! I MAKE SURE OF THAT BUT SHE SHOUTED OUT AT HIM INFRONT OF THE CLASS ONE DAY THAT HE WAS A COWARD. PLEASE HELP THERE HAS BEEN ALOT OF OTHER INCIDENTS.
Is my grandson being bullied by his teacher?
I am concerend my grandson is being bulllied/picked on by his teacher – please could you offer the best way for me to approach this? My grandson has witnessed his mum being attacked by his father and has many problems associated with this, his father was charged with attempted GBH, my grandson does have behavioural problems which are being dealt with by counselling but does not seem to be getting school support, he is blamed for everything and my family feel he is being picked on at school by the teachers because they do not like his \’type\’ of pupil. Please could offer help. I have researched the internet and many aspects of teacher bullies and child moods fits what is happening with my grandson, how should I best proceed, without making an accusation?
My story begins with my daughter being bullied by two girls in her class. I advised my daughter to ignore them as much as possible which she tried. They would approach her in the yard, intent on annoying her. Suffice it to say, everything they did was sneaky. But half way through the school year, when they did not get a reaction from my daughter they went a step further! They approached their teacher and told a lie on my daughter. My daughter, who has never been in any kind of trouble(thank God), was understandably very upset, to the point of asking would I go down to the school. Of course, I went and spoke to her teacher. The teacher and I decided to let the vice-principal deal with the matter as we had discovered that they had changed their story 4 TIMES. Having told the teacher not to make a big deal of it, but to make sure they did not do it again, even to another student, I thought the matter was dealt with. I was wrong!! The vice-principal heard these two girls changing their stories 4 times and instead of making them apologize to my daughter, made them all apologize to each other!! I was annoyed but thought that I would leave things alone and see how they went. They just went back to doing what they always did. I tried to talk to the vice principal about it in private but she was having none of it. She insisted on going down to my daughter’s classroom and taking the teacher out and
my daughter. I felt so intimidated and I can only imagine how my daughter felt. She told me she TOOK ISSUE with my questioning her method of dealing with the situation which she refused point blank to call a BULLYING SITUATION. She refused to call what the girls had done A LIE. I was a MISUNDERSTANDING. I told her in my book, a lie is a lie. Unable to take any criticism at all, she proceeded to say that maybe I had too much free time on my hands (I can only imagine she meant because I am a stay at home mum)and listen too much to my daughter. My daughter did nothing wrong, and I felt I had to defend my daughter and myself. These same two girls smile in my face and continue to annoy my child in the class and the yard.
If I thought I was imagining this vice principal’s annoyance at being brought to task by me, the school magazine at the end of the year proved me wrong. My daughter wrote a hallow’een poem and won a prise along with 8 or 9 other students. Everyone of them had their picture in the magazine. Except my daughter! although her photograph had been taken with the rest of the students. She couldn’t understand it at all! Well, if nothing else, this has been very therapeutic. Would welcome comments.
My 8 yr old Grandson is being singled out by his teacher. He was in a confrontation on the play ground …..he was made to write a letter of apology to the other young boy and to his teacher. The teacher asked the other boy about his role in the situation and he denied it. She tore up his letter of apology and called him a liar in front of his peers. This is one of 5 instances in 6 weeks of school. He is a wonderful kid but is an 8 yr old boy. Does a teacher have the right to speak to a child like this? It is starting to border abuse.
My 6 year old son is being bullied at school, the teachers and headteacher have been informed. Yet it still happens not on a daily basis but a day here and a day there. My son is unhappy with all the name calling and the physical side of it. In my eyes the school isnt doing enough. Four times ive been up the school. How can i take this further ?
My 12-year-old daughter has been bullied repeatedly by her teachers. It begins when a conflict arise between her and the English teacher, then the bullying take effect since then. My child informed me that one of her teacher told her that the teachers talk about her in the staff room. My child has been excluded from school twice (as I am now writing) and has been threaten with permanent exclusion by the head teacher.
During the first year in secondary school my child was absent from school due to stomach pain, I took her to A&E and to our GP but they did not know as to what cause the problem. She was then referred to see a specialist. However, I notice that whenever something happens at school she complains of this pain. The welfare officer of the school was notified of her attendance, we had a meeting and was told to send her to school even if she is in pain; this was close to summer holiday.
The new term started all right (year but then my child came home complaining about the same things, being pick at by the teachers (certain teachers), when in class if she asked for instructions the teacher would avoid her completely and if the homework isn’t done that’s a detention, if she asked or answered a colleague in class that a detention, if she walk, that’s a detention, if the student said she say or do something that’s a detention even if the student is lying, or the teacher would give a detention because she is fidgeting. She was physically abuse by one of her teachers (he bent her fingers) luckily 2 sixth formers see what happen and reported it as if there was no witnesses and she complaints they would have said she’s lying. It’s been a month since the incident, the teacher still teaching and the matter is still being investigated, though I know nothing will come of it.
One of the incident, which leads her to be excluded: On the 06/11/08 I received a called from my daughter science teacher stating my child arrived to his class eating sweet, he let her finish and that she was brilliant throughout the lesson. Prior to class being dismissed she began to eat sweet again, he speak to her about it and as she was leaving the class he stretch his hand out to stop her from leaving and she barge him going out. He mention she would have detention at lunch the following Tuesday for 20mins at lunchtime. I agreed.
When my daughter arrived home I was unset as I talk to her constantly before she leave for school and after arriving home, as I know the problem she face there. She told me all the student went to the class eating sweet as they were given in the previous class. My child got a hole in her tooth and was using a toothpick to removed the sweet that was there as the tooth started to hurt, her teacher seen this and assume she was eating sweet, she mention telling him its not sweet and even asked him to look in the bin by he reply, “why should I”. He then put his arm out and she said she didn’t barge but walk around him. I talk to one of her colleague and she stated that she was not eating sweet but instead using a toothpick. The following morning she went to school, after entering the class was told to “get out”, when she asked what did she do the teacher refused to answer so she called me (mom). I told her to asked the teacher to call me or give me his extension number but he ignored her, I know she shouldn’t use her mobile in school but she did, she contact me as she knew we had a discussion the day before. I told her not to leave the class as he told me of the incident but not that he doesn’t want the child in his class, he sent for 2 teachers but my child refused as she was following my instruction. She was excluded for 4 days for being defiant. I did have a meeting with the head teacher; he doesn’t want to know what happen just that she didn’t leave the classroom when asked to. I deem this an unfair judgement; she has been abuse verbally and socially and this is affecting her psychologically, at one point she mention taking her life. I wrote letters on numerous occasions, I now call for a meeting with the school governors and am trying to change her school, but it’s a long wait. How can she help? How can I take this further? My child was also bullied in primary school and nothing comes out of it. Please help us.
My 16 year old daughter attends a public high school in Culver City, CA. Last year she was verbally abused by her photography teacher when she could not raise the funds for the class materials fee. When I sent a note to the counselor about our financial situation she advised that I request a waiver from the Principal which was granted. Unfortunately the abuse did not stop. He made the class an extremely hostile environment for her by not allowing her to have acceess to complete her work in the dark room and not giving her assignments until I was forced to ask her to be transferred. When my daughter was tranferred her camera ‘mysteriously’ disappeared from her locker(the teacher had the combination). We sued the school for the value of my child’s property and won.
As well, her algebra teacher would not accommodate her in class under her IEP and made statements that she should just be put in “special Ed” (she has always been mainstreamed).
This year it is worse. She is Geometry and struggles due to a processing disability. Her current teacher refered her to tutoring, which she is receiving. Now, since her grades have improved, she is being accused of cheating.
The teacher went so far as humiliate her in front of her peers by accusing her and her tutor of cheating, then proceeded in telling her that “she did not deserve” to be in his class; that she was a failure, then to add insult to injury, threatened her that if she would not write a letter that he dictated word for word admitting to cheating, that he would see that she not graduate.
I contacted the school and their position is that my daughter has to remain with this bully until the end of the semester or get a fail in the class. I do not agree.
The Federal Government guarantees that all children to a safe and appropriate education.
Needless to say this matter has been referred to the State Board of Education.
my 10 yr old daughter recently moved in to year 5 of primary school and has a new teacher who use teach in a secoundary school.My daughther come home in tears regarding her teacher. the usual complaint is that she hold her up if she does not understand the work he simply walk past and ignore her while everyone else get the help. my child asked him if she were invisable, the teacher reply was “no your not invisable, but i wish your mouth was” . this comment alone has made me very upset and anoyed and i dont know if to take it futher or wait untill the nxt parent evening to bring it further. could you please help
I had a problem that started with my daughter’s coach grabbing her in anger at a game, then yelling at her so long she disrupted the entire game flow.
Nothing was done, other parents went to the school and complained, I pleaded with emails and phone calls, and the coach took retalliation on my daughter, yelling at her, telling her she should quit the team, and took away her starting position, all becasue of what other people (and students saw on the court) and how the coach describes “not looking her in the eye during the attack.
The school has several policies that were broken that night, then even more in the next several days when my daughter was punished by the coach for the coach’s own actions.
I filed a report with two state agencies, filed a police report for assualt on a minor, and put up a website to help others http://www.lamonicoach.com. You will find severel links to laws and groups, just getting started right no, so it is not the best.
There is a video there of the initial attack. My advice, I hgave the school 2 months to fix this problem, pleaded with them to have the coach leave my daughter alone, met with them in person, even gave them a copy of the video. They did nothing, so then I went outside for results and things are changing for every child in the school district as a result. Give the school a chance, but if nothign is done, file reports with the agencies that regulate them and they will look into it.
Do not expect the school to police themselves, the goals, mission statements, etc. mean nothing sometimes when it is one of their own who has crossed the line.
I wish eveyone here the best of luck and a New Year that is free of professionals that are in schools to help children, not hurt them.
hi i am 12 years old and have extreme anxiety and depression.And u no the cause of it?Bullying.Plain,mean,cruel,hiedous,no-needed BULLYING.i have had to miss school cause of it.it is a long story on how my bullying started.I will try 2 tell u all of it.Ok when i was in grade 4 Kennedy moved to my school.she was the meanest,gossipest,popular person that ever walked on the face of this planet.no lie.she spread false rumors about me and turned all my friends against me.she made my life miserable.everyone believed her lies.i dont know y she chose me.then the next yearr the popular group played a “u can b in our group”pank on me.the hurt and shock has faded,but hasnt gone away.Emotionall scars will haunt me forever.they did other mean stuff 2 me but they take time 2 explain.I hope u guys never have 2 go through this. it is hell.
I’m 22 and I’ve been bullied most of my schooling. I was living in what people call the “ghetto” and I was physically and mentally bullied there as well. I was an easy target and didnt know how to defend myself. There was really no one i can go to because it was occuring wherever i went in school. Just looking at me you can tell i was fearful of everything. I was teased constantly and just messed with and it has took its toll on me. I was an outkast and thats the way i am now. I got A’s nd B’s throughout my schooling. School was hell! There were times when I got hit in school and it tormented me..like I keep thinking about it so much that I visualized myself retaliating, but i didn’t. I’m scarred for life and I don’t want to associate myself with anyone. I’m physically and mentally rotting now and I feel like a dead man still breathing. There seems to be no future. If only there was something that could’ve been done during my schooling years. I wish I knew what bullying was and couldve stood up for myself, or had an organization to help victims to stand by one another or something to aid each other.
I live in Alberta Canada and have spent all day reading threw policies etc and this site as well as I still have another to read. Our situation is as follows our daughter is in gr 7 we moved to this area in 2007 just before gr 6 started and put her in a catholic school because they have a better curriculum however right from the beginning of gr6 there have been bullying issues first with pupils and I sent letters informing them that the police would be brought in if the issues were not handled. As a result of standing up and not laying down with my tail between my legs as most parents do. This school yr her LA teacher also happens to be the VP of the school and she has gone out of her way to make our daughter feel attacked she has given her book to other students and lost her homework and made her redo it she constanty belittles her but the final straw was last Friday she was right in her face like inches and as she was yelling in her face she had her finger shoved in it as well so after this she was sent to the office and told she had emotional issues and she continuely asked to call me and everyone denied her she had to sit in the office for one whole period and was so upset she did not even eat any of her lunch. End of day I pick her up and she is so upset she was scared of the VP now before she just hated her but now she is so afraid that we wrote a letter to the catholic school board and C/C to the school as well and had a meeting yesterday am with the Principal and the Assistant principal the VP was not in attendance so we discussed options and left feeling that some progress had been made until my pm meeting with the VP and our daughter and the Principal and she refused point blank to admit that she had yelled and stuck her finger in her face and then demanded that our daughter look at her when she was speaking to her, I got up and said you know she is kind of freaked by you right now and are you again calling my kid a liar!! she said no well I am not a genius but it can;t be both so I was heated and I left with my daughter and discussed it with my husband and we decided that there was no reason she could not get LA assignments from the other LA teacher and do them when she should be in the VP’s LA class, I also emailed the board again and made it clear that in no way should she be a teacher she seems to feel that intimidation and verbal and emotional abuse is an acceptable way to “REPRIMAND” I am sitting here waiting to hear back from the board and or school on our request as tax payers we help to pay them to do a professional and safe job not pay them to be bullies with power. They demand respect but seem to be of the opinion that the students do not deserve respect which in my opinion is just simply rude and WRONG. I am not sure what to do at this point but I know as a mother I will not put her in a position where she is going to feel like she is unimportant and what she feels and thinks is irrelevant. If anyone has any suggestions please reply. Thanks a very concerned parent about what is going on with our educators, where did they learn that treating people like that is acceptable
My son is in grade three and since the christmas break has a new teacher in his classroom because his last teacher went on maternity leave. This teacher makes alot of comments to my child and other students and has outbursts in which he hollars at the students or throws their books and pencils across the classroom. i have been writing down all the incidents so that I can go tslk to the principal. However I feel that I may get nowhere because my son has gotten in trouble in the past grade (although we corrected his behaviour with positive outcome) and children too often tend to get labelled and not respected. some of the incidents and negative talk are as follows and keep in mind that he has only had this teacher for six days so far … he told my son who just got glasses and has has to go to a kids hospital for further tests on his eyes and is already self-concious that maybe at his next appt he should get his ears checked too, he also hollared at him and other students that they were not ellowed to use crayons in class that they were crap (eventhough we had to buy them at the first of the year because they were on the supply list) and that maybe he could get his mom to buy him a nice new set of pencil crayons for his bday … had he sent home anote saying he would like for the students to have pencil crayons then I would have gone and bought him some … he also told the students that they have gov’t testing at the end of grade three but that they would probably fail anyways because they are so far behind … lastly he turned the lights out for the kids to be quiet, they were writing their homework down off the board into their agendas, my son and a few others continued to write when the lights were turned off, the teacher then hollared and grabbed a students book and threw it across the room and then proceeded to grab my sons pencil as well as another students and threw it against the wall , hard enough to break the pencil. This behaviour cannot be a good learning environment for my son or his peers. Help
my son is 10 years old and has the most,nasty teacher ,who did not take a likeing to my other son,for example,he was in an argument with another boy in the playground,the way 10 year olds argue,nothing was done about the other boy,and in not saying mines is an angel. but to make him writ a letter of appoligie,to herself and the other boy,then rip it up in front of the class.is there any need,hes a kid for god sake,he kept asking me ,mum y did she make me write it ,just to rip it up.then if he puts his hand up to answer a qustion,he gets told,in a very abrubt voice,put ur hand down,what would i want to ask you the answer for.I could go on and on with a lot of nasty things,but the thing that makes me mad,the school sides with the witch,and when i confront her,she dosnt say a word.im not the only mum who can see threw her put it tha way.IV REALLY HAD ENOUGH NOW,PLEASE HELP.OR COULD YOU GIVE ME ANY ADVISE. thank you,maria.
i am 10 years of age an my teacher is very agressive with me.I will write all the fings down about her wot she has said to me.
teacher says”write a leter down now” i said” ok miss”teacher says” thats rong were is the address” i dont now miss”she rips it up in front of me and said that is descuting.An she lets me go for some thing
my teacher squashed me aganisd my table an she said it was axadaintely hit with her cast on. but that as happend 2 times now
I was siting down on my charie and my m8 shouted out aswell as i did and said to me no why would i let ur fingers on my laptop.
every one eles excepet me was allowed.So i went to stand up and she came over to me an screemed in my face sitttt down nowwww i ran stright back to my chaire messing.cose i ran she saint me to the head master
my best frind brought my glooves in to my class room and he went to pass them to her and she said” why do i wont to touch them
i wonted a go on the comp cose every else had a go not me thow is houted out again and my m8 did and she said to me i dont wont ur hands near my comp
my daughter is 6+ and was bullied by a particular teacher and bullying by boys. after 3 months of it, she didn’t want to go to school anymore..she told us what her teacher did hurt her very much. she now attends therapy and i have taken her out of school. am looking for a new school – my daughter chose to leave her old school. it has affected my daughter pretty badly and us her parents. i just hope she will be okay.
My 7 year old son was bullied by his teacher for the whole year 2007/8. This tiny witch would pick on him and some of the other kids, while having her obvious favourites. It was heartbreaking to see but I held my tongue and stopped my husband going up to the school to complain, fearing it would make the situation worse. My son is currently at the top of his class, but she was so negative about him that we thought he was thick and looked around for extra tuition. This bullying still continues, with her making little unnecessary remarks to him (when no adult is present). I finally wrote a letter to the school saying that I am removing him from the school and gave a few reasons why. The Head says that this teacher is a good teacher who treats the kids fairly. That was it. Nothing else was done and my son is now at a new school. Some of the other teachers and classroom assistants feel that my son was treated badly but won’t say anything as it will jeopardize their jobs.
I’ve suffered with Bullies directly and met them head on in defence of others and I have one piece of advise:
Bully the bully, do them at thier own game. They pick on people who they consider weak but are actually good sensitive people. Being sensitive you can feel and understand what others feel which is good. Bullies do what they do because thier emotional development is retarded and they cannot help themselves but at the same time they are predictable. A bully when faced with a “more powerful” bully will become a toady – so use your sensitivity to out-think them and use thier emotional predicatable weakiness against them. This does not make you a bully! You are making a strategic choice to commit acts which you can choose to do or not, you are not compelled to act in this way. It is hard to do, I know but unfortunately they cannot be confonted with anything more complex as thier emotional state blinds them to “adult” reactions
People who physically bully should be dealt with differently, I wouldn’t advise trying to fight them.
have a look here as well:http://www.bullyonline.org/
My 11 year old son has tourette syndrome, he has a math teacher that is constantly picking on him will not help him to understand the work and claims i do his math for him, i pick him up early and he goes to this teachers room for his missed homework the teacher says”going to the dr is your excuse everytime youre picked up” he has upset my son to the point he cries not wanting to see this teacher which is making his tics worse, i have went f ace to face with him then it makes it worse the principal wont do anything im so upset because my son is. i dont know what else to do.
My son Has just turned 6. Yesterday I discovered in a meeting with his teacher that his is separated in class. When the children are being read to he at first was made to sit on the ground. Now the teacher has printed and laminated an A4 page with my sons name on it that he has to sit on. Next to his name is a A4 lamented X to let the other kids know not to sit next to my son.
He has to spend 10 minutes each day stilling still and on his own and he does his wrighting away from the others kids.
His teacher said he riggles and mucks around with the other kids.
i spoke to my little boy last night and he simply burst into tears.
What is wrong with my me mummy? He has asked me.
He said the other kids think that there is something wrong with him. I am so upset. I don’t know what to do.
My heart is breaking for my beautful little boy that had to go through this. Hes just a little boy.
He has been sitting on this lamatated paper for over 2 months.
My eleven year old son is a fifth grade student in a public school in New York.
The male teacher is always yelling, threatening, ridiculing, and making sarcastic remarks, saying VERY mean things and being disrespectful towards the students in the class.
He humiliates the children in front of his classmates, and verbally abuses them!
My son has been keeping a journal of all that have been happening in the classroom. When I gathered enough info, I had a meeting with the principal, I complained and showed him our notes. I reguested my son to be transfered, but I was co-erced and talked into into leaving him there–against my better judgement!!
Well, things are actually WORSE now in the class room, and I honestly believe my son and who knows how many other children are being retaliated against at.
I am at my wits end!!
Would you please be so kind and tell me what other options do I have here?
I will really appreciate any info/help you can give me.
There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, ” I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that.” When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D’s on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child
I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me “skitzo”. I have autism and it’s extremely difficult to cope with as it is.
My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland.
I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home – and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote “Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe.
In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. ‘I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,’ Twemlow says.
He defines teacher bullying as ‘using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.’”
Myself? I’ve had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can’t count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I’ve had teachers who have told me to ‘mind my own buisness’ or ‘take care of myself’ when I’ve stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher – who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs – said loudly to the class, “Look, Love’s taking a crap!” I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom – the BATHROOM – and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn’t so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher.
My child’s teacher is being really nasty to me. I arranged a xmas party. She rang my phone, left a message on my voice mail stating that she has spoken to the other parents and they have already arranged a xmas party and I should cancel my party. When I spoke to a few parents, no one knew what I was talking about. Why will she do this?
My son is 8 Years old and has SEN, he is being Bullied in and outside of School by about 6 different children, he was beaten up by three of these children last week and I went to the Headmaster the next day to ask her to keep an eye on my son and on the bullies, she told me I should keep my son away from the park and that I should come back in two days if I wanted to talk to her as she was busy and not in school the next day.
The next day my son went on a school trip and when we were walking home, he told me that one of the teachers smacked him on the Hand, I raised this issue the next day when speaking to the headmaster and she was not supportive at all,she asked my son over and over again to explain what had happened and to me it was clear but she kept saying: I dont understand,why would she do that, your not telling me exactly what has happened and i have giving you this opportunity to tell me and you have really struggled. He had given her the same answer over and over again but she kept saying this to him and I said then he has explained what more do you want and she said its a serious accusation i need to be 100% sure what has happened, and I do understand that but I wouldnt know what else to tell her either..My son is very shy and according to the school he is about a year and in some subjects a year and a half behind his age, so i found it really disturbing for him that she was speaking to him the way she did and she also interrupted him while he was trying to talk. I asked for the Teacher who was being accused of smacking him to be brought in to the office so that she could tell us her side of the story but according to the headmaster she was teaching in class and could not be brought out, yet when i left the meeting that teacher was standing in the hall talking to the lady at the desk.
I got a phone call from my sons teacher when i returned home later that day who told me that she did not see the teacher smack my son as she was sitting close to them and that my son´s behaviour was poor on the day of the trip, which i found odd that she only told me after I had complained and as I stood talking to my sister after the bus had left, I wondered why she hadn’t told me then and there.
Then after School the headmaster rang me and said that my son had admitted that he was not smacked by the teacher after all and he owes her an apology.
I spoke to my son, he said he didn’t admit to that and that after I had left the school he was told to come to the headmasters office after dinner and when he did,she told him off for not telling me that he was not behaving well on the trip!
That has made me so angry and I feel that they are treating me and my son unfair.
The teacher who my son said smacked him, did not phone me to explain her side of the story and she didnt speak to my son in school either, which makes me think that something is not right, because if i was in her shoes I would want to set things straight and sort it out IF I HAD NOTHING TO HIDE. I explained to my son that he needs to tell the truth because this was a serious matter and that if he was not telling the truth that me and him would get in to big trouble and he said but we wont because I am telling the truth.
Back to the Bullying the headmaster said that if she asked all the children who was being called names by this child then 20 maybe 30 children would raise their hands and that the reason for this is that some children dont know how to be nice to others, some children hurt animals, some children hurt younger children.
There is nothing your mum or I can do, its up to you to stand up to him and tell him to leave you alone.
Next time he calles you names I dont want you to tell your teacher, I want you to tell him to stop it and tell him you dont like it.
Because she said that 20 maybe 30 children probably get bullied by this child and she doesn’t think it is necessary to do anything about it and her whole attitude towards this subject makes me feel so helpless and I have been researching on the internet and making notes of such things as: Bullying is not a normal part of growing up and it can ruin lives, the government has made tackling bullying a key priority in schools and has made it clear that no form of bullying should be tolerated, it should be taken seriously in schools, It is compulsory for schools to have measures in place to encourage good behaviour and respect for others on the part of pupils and to prevent all forms of bullying… and lots more. I have not mentioned everything that the headmaster said in the meeting although most of it was quite shocking for me, what can I do?
I dont want to send him back to school on Monday because now I know the teachers are not helping him in any way and are going to “gang up” on him because I complained.
The thing is, I have a Recording of the whole conversation on my mobile.
Is that Illegal? I know it cant be used as evidence in court or anything but surely if I wanted to let someone higher listen to it, it would be ok?
My child is in the 6th grade suffers from tourette syndrome, panic attacks and adhd today a teacher called him an idiot and grabbed a paper from his hands. now naturally the principal will believe this teacher what can i do to make sure this doesnt happen again. ive already spoken to the principal he makes accusations my son is lieing which hes not and some other students heard all this.
I was bullied by a teacher from hell about 20 years ago growing up in the early 1990s and thanks for writing up this blog. The pain from the bullying still lingers in me but I do not let it get to me for the past few years. However, I survived this and I live to tell the tale about how my friends and me were subjected to bullying by a teacher. Teachers who bully don’t deserve to teach in the first place, they should be criminally charged and be blacklisted from teaching for life.
My thirteen year old daughter has been bullied repeatedly by two teachers (who choose the gang up approach) in this small eastern TN community in the Smokey Mountain region. Just this year, this child was assaulted by an English teacher in the middle school setting as the lady grabbed her wrist and forearm for stating the words “whatever” to the teachers inappropriate commentary. This grabbing of her appendage, left a bruise. This teacher and I had other issues when my older son, who is now in high school, attended this middle school. This same teacher actually stated to me to my face, “we resent you questioning our authority!” (Who is we? Is this an English teacher or an abusive control freak? I am starting to believe the latter.
When taking action on this assault, I met with the teacher in question (as well as another teacher who was with the assaulter at the time, who also has major control issues) as well as the principal and vice principal. I made it very clear that this was unacceptable and I wished this type of conduct to cease and desist or I would climb the hierarchical chain of command by filing complaints with the superintendents office and exposing such abuses to the press.
A little while after this meeting, I received a certified letter from an attorney in Nashville who indicated that I was “disrupting the educational process” and by order of the Director of schools (superintendent) was banned from gracing the premises of the schools, and was only to pick up and retrieve my children from school, but was not to speak, call, email, or contact anyone employed by the School system. This is ludicrous and insane, as currently I have three children in schools here. Now, if I had made some terrorist threat or something like that, I might understand, however, the only threats (promises) I have made are to expose this type of abusive conduct which permeates and corrodes the school system here and they wish to ban me from gracing their holy premises? The superintendent and his cronies in the central office are useless as they are unresponsive and complaints are only met with denial and resistance. I have consulted legal counsel and have learned that according to state statutes, I have an extended period to go after the assaultive teacher. There is no court order, no protection order, no order of any sort, just a letter from this attorney (who I found out from other legal counsel represents 70% of the school districts in TN and is a complete ______ (an expletive that he used, which I will not write here.) I am not sure someone can ban you without a court order, simply due to the fact that they do not like what you have to say. The schools own policy is clearly defined stating that no child shall bully another child or teacher, and that no teacher will bully or intimidate another child, lest their be repercussions up to and including termination. Why does the school system opt to not follow its own policy? Does that not raise the specter of liability with the school system?
My twin girls (in the same grade and school) have experienced retaliation by these two teachers, and one acts so juvenile that she shuns my girls when she sees them, by turning her head to one side to block their presence. How juvenile is this? We have teachers with 3rd grade mentality teaching 7th grade middle schoolers?
There are other parents who have had problems in this school system, but for the most part, many are scared to speak out due to potential retaliatory type behavior toward their children.
I swear this one needs to be portrayed on “Nancy Grace”!
I feel that educationally, I am stuck in a 1970’s movie with Burt Reynolds, titled “Deliverance”!
I HAVE TWINS A BOY AND GIRL IN PRIMARY 6 AND LAST YEAR THERE WAS A NEW TEACHER THAT WAS INTRODUCED INTO THE CLASS THEN BEGAN TO TAKE OVER FROM THE ORIGINAL TEACHER ON THURSDAY AND A FRIDAY. THATS WHEN THE BULLYING STARTED!MY TWINS ARE IN THE SAME CLASS AND BOTH NEED EXTRA HELP WITHIN THERE EDUCATION, I THINK PAIGE IS DYSLEXIC BECAUSE SHE HAS TROUBLE SOUNDING WORDS OUT AND SPELLING THEM. THE TEACHER ASKED PAIGE TO PUT AWAY THE PENCILS IN A TRAY THAT WAS MARKED PENCILS BUT PAIGE COULD NOT DETERMINE WHICH WAS THE RIGHT TRAY. SO SHE SHOUTED OUT INFRONT OF THE WHOLE CLASS CAN YOU READ!!!!!! NOW SHE HAS MOVED ON TO TYLER MY BOY TWIN, HE DOES GET INTO ALOT OF BOTHER AT SCHOOL BUT BECAUSE HE DOES HE ALWAYS GET THE FINGER POINTED AT HIM.HE DOES OWN UP WHEN IT IS HIM! I MAKE SURE OF THAT BUT SHE SHOUTED OUT AT HIM INFRONT OF THE CLASS ONE DAY THAT HE WAS A COWARD. PLEASE HELP THERE HAS BEEN ALOT OF OTHER INCIDENTS.
Is my grandson being bullied by his teacher?
I am concerend my grandson is being bulllied/picked on by his teacher – please could you offer the best way for me to approach this? My grandson has witnessed his mum being attacked by his father and has many problems associated with this, his father was charged with attempted GBH, my grandson does have behavioural problems which are being dealt with by counselling but does not seem to be getting school support, he is blamed for everything and my family feel he is being picked on at school by the teachers because they do not like his \’type\’ of pupil. Please could offer help. I have researched the internet and many aspects of teacher bullies and child moods fits what is happening with my grandson, how should I best proceed, without making an accusation?
My story begins with my daughter being bullied by two girls in her class. I advised my daughter to ignore them as much as possible which she tried. They would approach her in the yard, intent on annoying her. Suffice it to say, everything they did was sneaky. But half way through the school year, when they did not get a reaction from my daughter they went a step further! They approached their teacher and told a lie on my daughter. My daughter, who has never been in any kind of trouble(thank God), was understandably very upset, to the point of asking would I go down to the school. Of course, I went and spoke to her teacher. The teacher and I decided to let the vice-principal deal with the matter as we had discovered that they had changed their story 4 TIMES. Having told the teacher not to make a big deal of it, but to make sure they did not do it again, even to another student, I thought the matter was dealt with. I was wrong!! The vice-principal heard these two girls changing their stories 4 times and instead of making them apologize to my daughter, made them all apologize to each other!! I was annoyed but thought that I would leave things alone and see how they went. They just went back to doing what they always did. I tried to talk to the vice principal about it in private but she was having none of it. She insisted on going down to my daughter’s classroom and taking the teacher out and
my daughter. I felt so intimidated and I can only imagine how my daughter felt. She told me she TOOK ISSUE with my questioning her method of dealing with the situation which she refused point blank to call a BULLYING SITUATION. She refused to call what the girls had done A LIE. I was a MISUNDERSTANDING. I told her in my book, a lie is a lie. Unable to take any criticism at all, she proceeded to say that maybe I had too much free time on my hands (I can only imagine she meant because I am a stay at home mum)and listen too much to my daughter. My daughter did nothing wrong, and I felt I had to defend my daughter and myself. These same two girls smile in my face and continue to annoy my child in the class and the yard.
If I thought I was imagining this vice principal’s annoyance at being brought to task by me, the school magazine at the end of the year proved me wrong. My daughter wrote a hallow’een poem and won a prise along with 8 or 9 other students. Everyone of them had their picture in the magazine. Except my daughter! although her photograph had been taken with the rest of the students. She couldn’t understand it at all! Well, if nothing else, this has been very therapeutic. Would welcome comments.
My 8 yr old Grandson is being singled out by his teacher. He was in a confrontation on the play ground …..he was made to write a letter of apology to the other young boy and to his teacher. The teacher asked the other boy about his role in the situation and he denied it. She tore up his letter of apology and called him a liar in front of his peers. This is one of 5 instances in 6 weeks of school. He is a wonderful kid but is an 8 yr old boy. Does a teacher have the right to speak to a child like this? It is starting to border abuse.
My 6 year old son is being bullied at school, the teachers and headteacher have been informed. Yet it still happens not on a daily basis but a day here and a day there. My son is unhappy with all the name calling and the physical side of it. In my eyes the school isnt doing enough. Four times ive been up the school. How can i take this further ?
My 12-year-old daughter has been bullied repeatedly by her teachers. It begins when a conflict arise between her and the English teacher, then the bullying take effect since then. My child informed me that one of her teacher told her that the teachers talk about her in the staff room. My child has been excluded from school twice (as I am now writing) and has been threaten with permanent exclusion by the head teacher.
but then my child came home complaining about the same things, being pick at by the teachers (certain teachers), when in class if she asked for instructions the teacher would avoid her completely and if the homework isn’t done that’s a detention, if she asked or answered a colleague in class that a detention, if she walk, that’s a detention, if the student said she say or do something that’s a detention even if the student is lying, or the teacher would give a detention because she is fidgeting. She was physically abuse by one of her teachers (he bent her fingers) luckily 2 sixth formers see what happen and reported it as if there was no witnesses and she complaints they would have said she’s lying. It’s been a month since the incident, the teacher still teaching and the matter is still being investigated, though I know nothing will come of it.
During the first year in secondary school my child was absent from school due to stomach pain, I took her to A&E and to our GP but they did not know as to what cause the problem. She was then referred to see a specialist. However, I notice that whenever something happens at school she complains of this pain. The welfare officer of the school was notified of her attendance, we had a meeting and was told to send her to school even if she is in pain; this was close to summer holiday.
The new term started all right (year
One of the incident, which leads her to be excluded: On the 06/11/08 I received a called from my daughter science teacher stating my child arrived to his class eating sweet, he let her finish and that she was brilliant throughout the lesson. Prior to class being dismissed she began to eat sweet again, he speak to her about it and as she was leaving the class he stretch his hand out to stop her from leaving and she barge him going out. He mention she would have detention at lunch the following Tuesday for 20mins at lunchtime. I agreed.
When my daughter arrived home I was unset as I talk to her constantly before she leave for school and after arriving home, as I know the problem she face there. She told me all the student went to the class eating sweet as they were given in the previous class. My child got a hole in her tooth and was using a toothpick to removed the sweet that was there as the tooth started to hurt, her teacher seen this and assume she was eating sweet, she mention telling him its not sweet and even asked him to look in the bin by he reply, “why should I”. He then put his arm out and she said she didn’t barge but walk around him. I talk to one of her colleague and she stated that she was not eating sweet but instead using a toothpick. The following morning she went to school, after entering the class was told to “get out”, when she asked what did she do the teacher refused to answer so she called me (mom). I told her to asked the teacher to call me or give me his extension number but he ignored her, I know she shouldn’t use her mobile in school but she did, she contact me as she knew we had a discussion the day before. I told her not to leave the class as he told me of the incident but not that he doesn’t want the child in his class, he sent for 2 teachers but my child refused as she was following my instruction. She was excluded for 4 days for being defiant. I did have a meeting with the head teacher; he doesn’t want to know what happen just that she didn’t leave the classroom when asked to. I deem this an unfair judgement; she has been abuse verbally and socially and this is affecting her psychologically, at one point she mention taking her life. I wrote letters on numerous occasions, I now call for a meeting with the school governors and am trying to change her school, but it’s a long wait. How can she help? How can I take this further? My child was also bullied in primary school and nothing comes out of it. Please help us.
My 16 year old daughter attends a public high school in Culver City, CA. Last year she was verbally abused by her photography teacher when she could not raise the funds for the class materials fee. When I sent a note to the counselor about our financial situation she advised that I request a waiver from the Principal which was granted. Unfortunately the abuse did not stop. He made the class an extremely hostile environment for her by not allowing her to have acceess to complete her work in the dark room and not giving her assignments until I was forced to ask her to be transferred. When my daughter was tranferred her camera ‘mysteriously’ disappeared from her locker(the teacher had the combination). We sued the school for the value of my child’s property and won.
As well, her algebra teacher would not accommodate her in class under her IEP and made statements that she should just be put in “special Ed” (she has always been mainstreamed).
This year it is worse. She is Geometry and struggles due to a processing disability. Her current teacher refered her to tutoring, which she is receiving. Now, since her grades have improved, she is being accused of cheating.
The teacher went so far as humiliate her in front of her peers by accusing her and her tutor of cheating, then proceeded in telling her that “she did not deserve” to be in his class; that she was a failure, then to add insult to injury, threatened her that if she would not write a letter that he dictated word for word admitting to cheating, that he would see that she not graduate.
I contacted the school and their position is that my daughter has to remain with this bully until the end of the semester or get a fail in the class. I do not agree.
The Federal Government guarantees that all children to a safe and appropriate education.
Needless to say this matter has been referred to the State Board of Education.
my 10 yr old daughter recently moved in to year 5 of primary school and has a new teacher who use teach in a secoundary school.My daughther come home in tears regarding her teacher. the usual complaint is that she hold her up if she does not understand the work he simply walk past and ignore her while everyone else get the help. my child asked him if she were invisable, the teacher reply was “no your not invisable, but i wish your mouth was” . this comment alone has made me very upset and anoyed and i dont know if to take it futher or wait untill the nxt parent evening to bring it further. could you please help
I had a problem that started with my daughter’s coach grabbing her in anger at a game, then yelling at her so long she disrupted the entire game flow.
Nothing was done, other parents went to the school and complained, I pleaded with emails and phone calls, and the coach took retalliation on my daughter, yelling at her, telling her she should quit the team, and took away her starting position, all becasue of what other people (and students saw on the court) and how the coach describes “not looking her in the eye during the attack.
The school has several policies that were broken that night, then even more in the next several days when my daughter was punished by the coach for the coach’s own actions.
I filed a report with two state agencies, filed a police report for assualt on a minor, and put up a website to help others http://www.lamonicoach.com. You will find severel links to laws and groups, just getting started right no, so it is not the best.
There is a video there of the initial attack. My advice, I hgave the school 2 months to fix this problem, pleaded with them to have the coach leave my daughter alone, met with them in person, even gave them a copy of the video. They did nothing, so then I went outside for results and things are changing for every child in the school district as a result. Give the school a chance, but if nothign is done, file reports with the agencies that regulate them and they will look into it.
Do not expect the school to police themselves, the goals, mission statements, etc. mean nothing sometimes when it is one of their own who has crossed the line.
I wish eveyone here the best of luck and a New Year that is free of professionals that are in schools to help children, not hurt them.
Michael
hi i am 12 years old and have extreme anxiety and depression.And u no the cause of it?Bullying.Plain,mean,cruel,hiedous,no-needed BULLYING.i have had to miss school cause of it.it is a long story on how my bullying started.I will try 2 tell u all of it.Ok when i was in grade 4 Kennedy moved to my school.she was the meanest,gossipest,popular person that ever walked on the face of this planet.no lie.she spread false rumors about me and turned all my friends against me.she made my life miserable.everyone believed her lies.i dont know y she chose me.then the next yearr the popular group played a “u can b in our group”pank on me.the hurt and shock has faded,but hasnt gone away.Emotionall scars will haunt me forever.they did other mean stuff 2 me but they take time 2 explain.I hope u guys never have 2 go through this. it is hell.
I’m 22 and I’ve been bullied most of my schooling. I was living in what people call the “ghetto” and I was physically and mentally bullied there as well. I was an easy target and didnt know how to defend myself. There was really no one i can go to because it was occuring wherever i went in school. Just looking at me you can tell i was fearful of everything. I was teased constantly and just messed with and it has took its toll on me. I was an outkast and thats the way i am now. I got A’s nd B’s throughout my schooling. School was hell! There were times when I got hit in school and it tormented me..like I keep thinking about it so much that I visualized myself retaliating, but i didn’t. I’m scarred for life and I don’t want to associate myself with anyone. I’m physically and mentally rotting now and I feel like a dead man still breathing. There seems to be no future. If only there was something that could’ve been done during my schooling years. I wish I knew what bullying was and couldve stood up for myself, or had an organization to help victims to stand by one another or something to aid each other.
I live in Alberta Canada and have spent all day reading threw policies etc and this site as well as I still have another to read. Our situation is as follows our daughter is in gr 7 we moved to this area in 2007 just before gr 6 started and put her in a catholic school because they have a better curriculum however right from the beginning of gr6 there have been bullying issues first with pupils and I sent letters informing them that the police would be brought in if the issues were not handled. As a result of standing up and not laying down with my tail between my legs as most parents do. This school yr her LA teacher also happens to be the VP of the school and she has gone out of her way to make our daughter feel attacked she has given her book to other students and lost her homework and made her redo it she constanty belittles her but the final straw was last Friday she was right in her face like inches and as she was yelling in her face she had her finger shoved in it as well so after this she was sent to the office and told she had emotional issues and she continuely asked to call me and everyone denied her she had to sit in the office for one whole period and was so upset she did not even eat any of her lunch. End of day I pick her up and she is so upset she was scared of the VP now before she just hated her but now she is so afraid that we wrote a letter to the catholic school board and C/C to the school as well and had a meeting yesterday am with the Principal and the Assistant principal the VP was not in attendance so we discussed options and left feeling that some progress had been made until my pm meeting with the VP and our daughter and the Principal and she refused point blank to admit that she had yelled and stuck her finger in her face and then demanded that our daughter look at her when she was speaking to her, I got up and said you know she is kind of freaked by you right now and are you again calling my kid a liar!! she said no well I am not a genius but it can;t be both so I was heated and I left with my daughter and discussed it with my husband and we decided that there was no reason she could not get LA assignments from the other LA teacher and do them when she should be in the VP’s LA class, I also emailed the board again and made it clear that in no way should she be a teacher she seems to feel that intimidation and verbal and emotional abuse is an acceptable way to “REPRIMAND” I am sitting here waiting to hear back from the board and or school on our request as tax payers we help to pay them to do a professional and safe job not pay them to be bullies with power. They demand respect but seem to be of the opinion that the students do not deserve respect which in my opinion is just simply rude and WRONG. I am not sure what to do at this point but I know as a mother I will not put her in a position where she is going to feel like she is unimportant and what she feels and thinks is irrelevant. If anyone has any suggestions please reply. Thanks a very concerned parent about what is going on with our educators, where did they learn that treating people like that is acceptable
My son is in grade three and since the christmas break has a new teacher in his classroom because his last teacher went on maternity leave. This teacher makes alot of comments to my child and other students and has outbursts in which he hollars at the students or throws their books and pencils across the classroom. i have been writing down all the incidents so that I can go tslk to the principal. However I feel that I may get nowhere because my son has gotten in trouble in the past grade (although we corrected his behaviour with positive outcome) and children too often tend to get labelled and not respected. some of the incidents and negative talk are as follows and keep in mind that he has only had this teacher for six days so far … he told my son who just got glasses and has has to go to a kids hospital for further tests on his eyes and is already self-concious that maybe at his next appt he should get his ears checked too, he also hollared at him and other students that they were not ellowed to use crayons in class that they were crap (eventhough we had to buy them at the first of the year because they were on the supply list) and that maybe he could get his mom to buy him a nice new set of pencil crayons for his bday … had he sent home anote saying he would like for the students to have pencil crayons then I would have gone and bought him some … he also told the students that they have gov’t testing at the end of grade three but that they would probably fail anyways because they are so far behind … lastly he turned the lights out for the kids to be quiet, they were writing their homework down off the board into their agendas, my son and a few others continued to write when the lights were turned off, the teacher then hollared and grabbed a students book and threw it across the room and then proceeded to grab my sons pencil as well as another students and threw it against the wall , hard enough to break the pencil. This behaviour cannot be a good learning environment for my son or his peers. Help
my son is 10 years old and has the most,nasty teacher ,who did not take a likeing to my other son,for example,he was in an argument with another boy in the playground,the way 10 year olds argue,nothing was done about the other boy,and in not saying mines is an angel. but to make him writ a letter of appoligie,to herself and the other boy,then rip it up in front of the class.is there any need,hes a kid for god sake,he kept asking me ,mum y did she make me write it ,just to rip it up.then if he puts his hand up to answer a qustion,he gets told,in a very abrubt voice,put ur hand down,what would i want to ask you the answer for.I could go on and on with a lot of nasty things,but the thing that makes me mad,the school sides with the witch,and when i confront her,she dosnt say a word.im not the only mum who can see threw her put it tha way.IV REALLY HAD ENOUGH NOW,PLEASE HELP.OR COULD YOU GIVE ME ANY ADVISE. thank you,maria.
i am 10 years of age an my teacher is very agressive with me.I will write all the fings down about her wot she has said to me.
teacher says”write a leter down now” i said” ok miss”teacher says” thats rong were is the address” i dont now miss”she rips it up in front of me and said that is descuting.An she lets me go for some thing
my teacher squashed me aganisd my table an she said it was axadaintely hit with her cast on. but that as happend 2 times now
I was siting down on my charie and my m8 shouted out aswell as i did and said to me no why would i let ur fingers on my laptop.
every one eles excepet me was allowed.So i went to stand up and she came over to me an screemed in my face sitttt down nowwww i ran stright back to my chaire messing.cose i ran she saint me to the head master
my best frind brought my glooves in to my class room and he went to pass them to her and she said” why do i wont to touch them
i wonted a go on the comp cose every else had a go not me thow is houted out again and my m8 did and she said to me i dont wont ur hands near my comp
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my daughter is 6+ and was bullied by a particular teacher and bullying by boys. after 3 months of it, she didn’t want to go to school anymore..she told us what her teacher did hurt her very much. she now attends therapy and i have taken her out of school. am looking for a new school – my daughter chose to leave her old school. it has affected my daughter pretty badly and us her parents. i just hope she will be okay.
My 7 year old son was bullied by his teacher for the whole year 2007/8. This tiny witch would pick on him and some of the other kids, while having her obvious favourites. It was heartbreaking to see but I held my tongue and stopped my husband going up to the school to complain, fearing it would make the situation worse. My son is currently at the top of his class, but she was so negative about him that we thought he was thick and looked around for extra tuition. This bullying still continues, with her making little unnecessary remarks to him (when no adult is present). I finally wrote a letter to the school saying that I am removing him from the school and gave a few reasons why. The Head says that this teacher is a good teacher who treats the kids fairly. That was it. Nothing else was done and my son is now at a new school. Some of the other teachers and classroom assistants feel that my son was treated badly but won’t say anything as it will jeopardize their jobs.
I’ve suffered with Bullies directly and met them head on in defence of others and I have one piece of advise:
Bully the bully, do them at thier own game. They pick on people who they consider weak but are actually good sensitive people. Being sensitive you can feel and understand what others feel which is good. Bullies do what they do because thier emotional development is retarded and they cannot help themselves but at the same time they are predictable. A bully when faced with a “more powerful” bully will become a toady – so use your sensitivity to out-think them and use thier emotional predicatable weakiness against them. This does not make you a bully! You are making a strategic choice to commit acts which you can choose to do or not, you are not compelled to act in this way. It is hard to do, I know but unfortunately they cannot be confonted with anything more complex as thier emotional state blinds them to “adult” reactions
People who physically bully should be dealt with differently, I wouldn’t advise trying to fight them.
have a look here as well:http://www.bullyonline.org/
My 11 year old son has tourette syndrome, he has a math teacher that is constantly picking on him will not help him to understand the work and claims i do his math for him, i pick him up early and he goes to this teachers room for his missed homework the teacher says”going to the dr is your excuse everytime youre picked up” he has upset my son to the point he cries not wanting to see this teacher which is making his tics worse, i have went f ace to face with him then it makes it worse the principal wont do anything im so upset because my son is. i dont know what else to do.
My son Has just turned 6. Yesterday I discovered in a meeting with his teacher that his is separated in class. When the children are being read to he at first was made to sit on the ground. Now the teacher has printed and laminated an A4 page with my sons name on it that he has to sit on. Next to his name is a A4 lamented X to let the other kids know not to sit next to my son.
He has to spend 10 minutes each day stilling still and on his own and he does his wrighting away from the others kids.
His teacher said he riggles and mucks around with the other kids.
i spoke to my little boy last night and he simply burst into tears.
What is wrong with my me mummy? He has asked me.
He said the other kids think that there is something wrong with him. I am so upset. I don’t know what to do.
My heart is breaking for my beautful little boy that had to go through this. Hes just a little boy.
He has been sitting on this lamatated paper for over 2 months.
Annemarie N.I
My eleven year old son is a fifth grade student in a public school in New York.
The male teacher is always yelling, threatening, ridiculing, and making sarcastic remarks, saying VERY mean things and being disrespectful towards the students in the class.
He humiliates the children in front of his classmates, and verbally abuses them!
My son has been keeping a journal of all that have been happening in the classroom. When I gathered enough info, I had a meeting with the principal, I complained and showed him our notes. I reguested my son to be transfered, but I was co-erced and talked into into leaving him there–against my better judgement!!
Well, things are actually WORSE now in the class room, and I honestly believe my son and who knows how many other children are being retaliated against at.
I am at my wits end!!
Would you please be so kind and tell me what other options do I have here?
I will really appreciate any info/help you can give me.
hi my brother is 10 years old and is being bulled at school by his head master wat can i do he is realy scard ov him ?
There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, ” I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that.” When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D’s on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child
I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me “skitzo”. I have autism and it’s extremely difficult to cope with as it is.
My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland.
I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home – and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote “Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe.
In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. ‘I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,’ Twemlow says.
He defines teacher bullying as ‘using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.’”
Myself? I’ve had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can’t count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I’ve had teachers who have told me to ‘mind my own buisness’ or ‘take care of myself’ when I’ve stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher – who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs – said loudly to the class, “Look, Love’s taking a crap!” I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom – the BATHROOM – and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn’t so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher.
My child’s teacher is being really nasty to me. I arranged a xmas party. She rang my phone, left a message on my voice mail stating that she has spoken to the other parents and they have already arranged a xmas party and I should cancel my party. When I spoke to a few parents, no one knew what I was talking about. Why will she do this?
My son is 8 Years old and has SEN, he is being Bullied in and outside of School by about 6 different children, he was beaten up by three of these children last week and I went to the Headmaster the next day to ask her to keep an eye on my son and on the bullies, she told me I should keep my son away from the park and that I should come back in two days if I wanted to talk to her as she was busy and not in school the next day.
The next day my son went on a school trip and when we were walking home, he told me that one of the teachers smacked him on the Hand, I raised this issue the next day when speaking to the headmaster and she was not supportive at all,she asked my son over and over again to explain what had happened and to me it was clear but she kept saying: I dont understand,why would she do that, your not telling me exactly what has happened and i have giving you this opportunity to tell me and you have really struggled. He had given her the same answer over and over again but she kept saying this to him and I said then he has explained what more do you want and she said its a serious accusation i need to be 100% sure what has happened, and I do understand that but I wouldnt know what else to tell her either..My son is very shy and according to the school he is about a year and in some subjects a year and a half behind his age, so i found it really disturbing for him that she was speaking to him the way she did and she also interrupted him while he was trying to talk. I asked for the Teacher who was being accused of smacking him to be brought in to the office so that she could tell us her side of the story but according to the headmaster she was teaching in class and could not be brought out, yet when i left the meeting that teacher was standing in the hall talking to the lady at the desk.
I got a phone call from my sons teacher when i returned home later that day who told me that she did not see the teacher smack my son as she was sitting close to them and that my son´s behaviour was poor on the day of the trip, which i found odd that she only told me after I had complained and as I stood talking to my sister after the bus had left, I wondered why she hadn’t told me then and there.
Then after School the headmaster rang me and said that my son had admitted that he was not smacked by the teacher after all and he owes her an apology.
I spoke to my son, he said he didn’t admit to that and that after I had left the school he was told to come to the headmasters office after dinner and when he did,she told him off for not telling me that he was not behaving well on the trip!
That has made me so angry and I feel that they are treating me and my son unfair.
The teacher who my son said smacked him, did not phone me to explain her side of the story and she didnt speak to my son in school either, which makes me think that something is not right, because if i was in her shoes I would want to set things straight and sort it out IF I HAD NOTHING TO HIDE. I explained to my son that he needs to tell the truth because this was a serious matter and that if he was not telling the truth that me and him would get in to big trouble and he said but we wont because I am telling the truth.
Back to the Bullying the headmaster said that if she asked all the children who was being called names by this child then 20 maybe 30 children would raise their hands and that the reason for this is that some children dont know how to be nice to others, some children hurt animals, some children hurt younger children.
There is nothing your mum or I can do, its up to you to stand up to him and tell him to leave you alone.
Next time he calles you names I dont want you to tell your teacher, I want you to tell him to stop it and tell him you dont like it.
Because she said that 20 maybe 30 children probably get bullied by this child and she doesn’t think it is necessary to do anything about it and her whole attitude towards this subject makes me feel so helpless and I have been researching on the internet and making notes of such things as: Bullying is not a normal part of growing up and it can ruin lives, the government has made tackling bullying a key priority in schools and has made it clear that no form of bullying should be tolerated, it should be taken seriously in schools, It is compulsory for schools to have measures in place to encourage good behaviour and respect for others on the part of pupils and to prevent all forms of bullying… and lots more. I have not mentioned everything that the headmaster said in the meeting although most of it was quite shocking for me, what can I do?
I dont want to send him back to school on Monday because now I know the teachers are not helping him in any way and are going to “gang up” on him because I complained.
The thing is, I have a Recording of the whole conversation on my mobile.
Is that Illegal? I know it cant be used as evidence in court or anything but surely if I wanted to let someone higher listen to it, it would be ok?
My child is in the 6th grade suffers from tourette syndrome, panic attacks and adhd today a teacher called him an idiot and grabbed a paper from his hands. now naturally the principal will believe this teacher what can i do to make sure this doesnt happen again. ive already spoken to the principal he makes accusations my son is lieing which hes not and some other students heard all this.
I was bullied by a teacher from hell about 20 years ago growing up in the early 1990s and thanks for writing up this blog. The pain from the bullying still lingers in me but I do not let it get to me for the past few years. However, I survived this and I live to tell the tale about how my friends and me were subjected to bullying by a teacher. Teachers who bully don’t deserve to teach in the first place, they should be criminally charged and be blacklisted from teaching for life.