Comments on: Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher?

By: whatsaysyou

whatsaysyou — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 12:01:33 +0000

I was bullied by a teacher from hell about 20 years ago growing up in the early 1990s and thanks for writing up this blog. The pain from the bullying still lingers in me but I do not let it get to me for the past few years. However, I survived this and I live to tell the tale about how my friends and me were subjected to bullying by a teacher. Teachers who bully don’t deserve to teach in the first place, they should be criminally charged and be blacklisted from teaching for life.

By: rose

rose — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 03:10:56 +0000

My child is in the 6th grade suffers from tourette syndrome, panic attacks and adhd today a teacher called him an idiot and grabbed a paper from his hands. now naturally the principal will believe this teacher what can i do to make sure this doesnt happen again. ive already spoken to the principal he makes accusations my son is lieing which hes not and some other students heard all this.

By: Nadine

Nadine — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 21:53:46 +0000

My son is 8 Years old and has SEN, he is being Bullied in and outside of School by about 6 different children, he was beaten up by three of these children last week and I went to the Headmaster the next day to ask her to keep an eye on my son and on the bullies, she told me I should keep my son away from the park and that I should come back in two days if I wanted to talk to her as she was busy and not in school the next day.
The next day my son went on a school trip and when we were walking home, he told me that one of the teachers smacked him on the Hand, I raised this issue the next day when speaking to the headmaster and she was not supportive at all,she asked my son over and over again to explain what had happened and to me it was clear but she kept saying: I dont understand,why would she do that, your not telling me exactly what has happened and i have giving you this opportunity to tell me and you have really struggled. He had given her the same answer over and over again but she kept saying this to him and I said then he has explained what more do you want and she said its a serious accusation i need to be 100% sure what has happened, and I do understand that but I wouldnt know what else to tell her either..My son is very shy and according to the school he is about a year and in some subjects a year and a half behind his age, so i found it really disturbing for him that she was speaking to him the way she did and she also interrupted him while he was trying to talk. I asked for the Teacher who was being accused of smacking him to be brought in to the office so that she could tell us her side of the story but according to the headmaster she was teaching in class and could not be brought out, yet when i left the meeting that teacher was standing in the hall talking to the lady at the desk.
I got a phone call from my sons teacher when i returned home later that day who told me that she did not see the teacher smack my son as she was sitting close to them and that my son´s behaviour was poor on the day of the trip, which i found odd that she only told me after I had complained and as I stood talking to my sister after the bus had left, I wondered why she hadn’t told me then and there.
Then after School the headmaster rang me and said that my son had admitted that he was not smacked by the teacher after all and he owes her an apology.
I spoke to my son, he said he didn’t admit to that and that after I had left the school he was told to come to the headmasters office after dinner and when he did,she told him off for not telling me that he was not behaving well on the trip!
That has made me so angry and I feel that they are treating me and my son unfair.
The teacher who my son said smacked him, did not phone me to explain her side of the story and she didnt speak to my son in school either, which makes me think that something is not right, because if i was in her shoes I would want to set things straight and sort it out IF I HAD NOTHING TO HIDE. I explained to my son that he needs to tell the truth because this was a serious matter and that if he was not telling the truth that me and him would get in to big trouble and he said but we wont because I am telling the truth.
Back to the Bullying the headmaster said that if she asked all the children who was being called names by this child then 20 maybe 30 children would raise their hands and that the reason for this is that some children dont know how to be nice to others, some children hurt animals, some children hurt younger children.
There is nothing your mum or I can do, its up to you to stand up to him and tell him to leave you alone.
Next time he calles you names I dont want you to tell your teacher, I want you to tell him to stop it and tell him you dont like it.
Because she said that 20 maybe 30 children probably get bullied by this child and she doesn’t think it is necessary to do anything about it and her whole attitude towards this subject makes me feel so helpless and I have been researching on the internet and making notes of such things as: Bullying is not a normal part of growing up and it can ruin lives, the government has made tackling bullying a key priority in schools and has made it clear that no form of bullying should be tolerated, it should be taken seriously in schools, It is compulsory for schools to have measures in place to encourage good behaviour and respect for others on the part of pupils and to prevent all forms of bullying… and lots more. I have not mentioned everything that the headmaster said in the meeting although most of it was quite shocking for me, what can I do?
I dont want to send him back to school on Monday because now I know the teachers are not helping him in any way and are going to “gang up” on him because I complained.
The thing is, I have a Recording of the whole conversation on my mobile.
Is that Illegal? I know it cant be used as evidence in court or anything but surely if I wanted to let someone higher listen to it, it would be ok?

By: simply me

simply me — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 09:54:23 +0000

My child’s teacher is being really nasty to me. I arranged a xmas party. She rang my phone, left a message on my voice mail stating that she has spoken to the other parents and they have already arranged a xmas party and I should cancel my party. When I spoke to a few parents, no one knew what I was talking about. Why will she do this?

By: Love

Love — Tue, 18 May 2010 22:01:17 +0000

I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home – and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote “Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe.
In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. ‘I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,’ Twemlow says.
He defines teacher bullying as ‘using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.’”
Myself? I’ve had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can’t count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I’ve had teachers who have told me to ‘mind my own buisness’ or ‘take care of myself’ when I’ve stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher – who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs – said loudly to the class, “Look, Love’s taking a crap!” I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom – the BATHROOM – and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn’t so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher.

By: Kathleen Sweeney

Kathleen Sweeney — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 15:11:46 +0000

My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland.

By: Shawn Loydall

Shawn Loydall — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 14:59:55 +0000

I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me “skitzo”. I have autism and it’s extremely difficult to cope with as it is.

By: adrianne

adrianne — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:22:22 +0000

There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, ” I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that.” When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D’s on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child

By: johnbuck

johnbuck — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:34:10 +0000

hi my brother is 10 years old and is being bulled at school by his head master wat can i do he is realy scard ov him ?

By: Mr. Immus

Mr. Immus — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:44:16 +0000

My eleven year old son is a fifth grade student in a public school in New York.
The male teacher is always yelling, threatening, ridiculing, and making sarcastic remarks, saying VERY mean things and being disrespectful towards the students in the class.
He humiliates the children in front of his classmates, and verbally abuses them!
My son has been keeping a journal of all that have been happening in the classroom. When I gathered enough info, I had a meeting with the principal, I complained and showed him our notes. I reguested my son to be transfered, but I was co-erced and talked into into leaving him there–against my better judgement!!
Well, things are actually WORSE now in the class room, and I honestly believe my son and who knows how many other children are being retaliated against at.
I am at my wits end!!
Would you please be so kind and tell me what other options do I have here?
I will really appreciate any info/help you can give me.