Comments on: Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher?

By: Love

Love — Tue, 18 May 2010 22:01:17 +0000

I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home – and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote “Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe.
In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. ‘I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,’ Twemlow says.
He defines teacher bullying as ‘using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.’”
Myself? I’ve had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can’t count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I’ve had teachers who have told me to ‘mind my own buisness’ or ‘take care of myself’ when I’ve stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher – who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs – said loudly to the class, “Look, Love’s taking a crap!” I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom – the BATHROOM – and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn’t so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher.

By: Kathleen Sweeney

Kathleen Sweeney — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 15:11:46 +0000

My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland.

By: Shawn Loydall

Shawn Loydall — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 14:59:55 +0000

I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me “skitzo”. I have autism and it’s extremely difficult to cope with as it is.

By: adrianne

adrianne — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:22:22 +0000

There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, ” I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that.” When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D’s on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child

By: johnbuck

johnbuck — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:34:10 +0000

hi my brother is 10 years old and is being bulled at school by his head master wat can i do he is realy scard ov him ?

By: Mr. Immus

Mr. Immus — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:44:16 +0000

My eleven year old son is a fifth grade student in a public school in New York.
The male teacher is always yelling, threatening, ridiculing, and making sarcastic remarks, saying VERY mean things and being disrespectful towards the students in the class.
He humiliates the children in front of his classmates, and verbally abuses them!
My son has been keeping a journal of all that have been happening in the classroom. When I gathered enough info, I had a meeting with the principal, I complained and showed him our notes. I reguested my son to be transfered, but I was co-erced and talked into into leaving him there–against my better judgement!!
Well, things are actually WORSE now in the class room, and I honestly believe my son and who knows how many other children are being retaliated against at.
I am at my wits end!!
Would you please be so kind and tell me what other options do I have here?
I will really appreciate any info/help you can give me.

By: Annemarie

Annemarie — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 22:43:12 +0000

My son Has just turned 6. Yesterday I discovered in a meeting with his teacher that his is separated in class. When the children are being read to he at first was made to sit on the ground. Now the teacher has printed and laminated an A4 page with my sons name on it that he has to sit on. Next to his name is a A4 lamented X to let the other kids know not to sit next to my son.

He has to spend 10 minutes each day stilling still and on his own and he does his wrighting away from the others kids.

His teacher said he riggles and mucks around with the other kids.

i spoke to my little boy last night and he simply burst into tears.
What is wrong with my me mummy? He has asked me.
He said the other kids think that there is something wrong with him. I am so upset. I don’t know what to do.
My heart is breaking for my beautful little boy that had to go through this. Hes just a little boy.
He has been sitting on this lamatated paper for over 2 months.

Annemarie N.I

By: Rose

Rose — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 03:03:59 +0000

My 11 year old son has tourette syndrome, he has a math teacher that is constantly picking on him will not help him to understand the work and claims i do his math for him, i pick him up early and he goes to this teachers room for his missed homework the teacher says”going to the dr is your excuse everytime youre picked up” he has upset my son to the point he cries not wanting to see this teacher which is making his tics worse, i have went f ace to face with him then it makes it worse the principal wont do anything im so upset because my son is. i dont know what else to do.

By: Guy

Guy — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:56:21 +0000

I’ve suffered with Bullies directly and met them head on in defence of others and I have one piece of advise:

Bully the bully, do them at thier own game. They pick on people who they consider weak but are actually good sensitive people. Being sensitive you can feel and understand what others feel which is good. Bullies do what they do because thier emotional development is retarded and they cannot help themselves but at the same time they are predictable. A bully when faced with a “more powerful” bully will become a toady – so use your sensitivity to out-think them and use thier emotional predicatable weakiness against them. This does not make you a bully! You are making a strategic choice to commit acts which you can choose to do or not, you are not compelled to act in this way. It is hard to do, I know but unfortunately they cannot be confonted with anything more complex as thier emotional state blinds them to “adult” reactions

People who physically bully should be dealt with differently, I wouldn’t advise trying to fight them.

have a look here as well:http://www.bullyonline.org/

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 18:24:35 +0000

My 7 year old son was bullied by his teacher for the whole year 2007/8. This tiny witch would pick on him and some of the other kids, while having her obvious favourites. It was heartbreaking to see but I held my tongue and stopped my husband going up to the school to complain, fearing it would make the situation worse. My son is currently at the top of his class, but she was so negative about him that we thought he was thick and looked around for extra tuition. This bullying still continues, with her making little unnecessary remarks to him (when no adult is present). I finally wrote a letter to the school saying that I am removing him from the school and gave a few reasons why. The Head says that this teacher is a good teacher who treats the kids fairly. That was it. Nothing else was done and my son is now at a new school. Some of the other teachers and classroom assistants feel that my son was treated badly but won’t say anything as it will jeopardize their jobs.