Classroom Bullying
Questions & Answers (Q&A)
When we think of bullying in school it is the children we think of as being the bullies against one another but a recent report showed that more and more teachers are being subjected to bullying in the classroom, this is usually in secondary schools but can also occur even in junior schools and sometimes the bullying doesn’t end when school is out but continues in the teachers’ home life too.
It is thought that half of all teachers in secondary schools have at some time or another been the victim of bullying by pupils. The incidents of bullying in the classroom range from violent behaviour against the teacher such as kicks and pushes to strong verbal abuse and general bad behaviour in the classroom.
Among those teachers that admitted to being bullied in the classroom over 10% of them said the bullying continued away from school and into their home life. Some cases of bullying had gotten so bad that the teacher had been forced to move away from the area due to the persistent harassment by pupils during weekends and evenings.
Admitting being bullied doesn’t make you a bad teacher
It is thought that the problem is more widespread than it seems and that many more teachers face bullies everyday in the classroom but are afraid to admit it. It is thought that teachers won’t admit to the problem and seek help because they fear people will think they are bad teachers.
Bullying can happen to all teachers and more so the young and inexperienced just starting out, it doesn’t take long before several 14 year olds will realise the vulnerability of the teacher and they will take advantage of the situation.
Repetitive bullying
Once children have found this vulnerability in a particular teacher they can make that teachers life hell, the bullying will probably start out as name calling back and forth among class mates and making jokes about the teacher, if the teacher doesn’t quickly nip it in the bud and establish who is in control of the classroom control can quickly turn over to the children.
The bullying can then turn into something nastier such as pushing and hitting the teacher or stealing possessions, the teacher will come to hate going to school to teach and eventually if the problem is left to fester can result in the teacher having a nervous breakdown. The breakdown occurs due to the persistent abuse over a long period of time be it mental or physical abuse.
Victims of classroom bullying shouldn’t be afraid
One of the main reasons that teachers and head teachers are afraid to admit to bullying occurs within the classroom and school is fear that the school will be considered “bad”. There is however no shame in admitting a problem and parents of the bullies should be informed what is happening within the classroom.
Most parents will understand that a constant level of verbal or physical abuse in the classroom will be a frightening experience for teachers and most parents will back the school 100%.
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Classroom Bullying Question: 1
What is being done about bullying in the classroom? I am talking about teachers bullying students and denying them an education, like what is happening to me, I demand my rights!
My English teacher, who is a control freak with a rage control problem, and I had a huge confrontation the week before last and ever since she refuses to let me in the class and makes me go to ISS. I am not allowed back until my dad comes to school and he won't because he is too busy with work. I am being denied an education and am ready to sue with or without my dad's support.
#1 Stunna - you are very suspicious.
Answer: I know this can be true and it is sad. Are you dealing with a young teacher with little experience? Could it be you had the misfortune to run into a burnt out teacher, who just wants to retire? Talk to a councilor and your parents about the situation and remain calm. This can be worked out, I hope it is all a misunderstanding.
Classroom Bullying Question: 2
possible bullying in the classroom, what would u do? my daughter is on the autistic spectrum, she attends a mainstream school and has just started juniors. we have had small problems since starting school but things haven't been quite right since a new teaching assistant started, she was employed specifically for my child. She is respected and liked by all school bodies or so it seems. however my daughter is quite unhappy, she complains that this lady shouts at her, doesn't help her as much as she should. my daughter struggles expressing herself so is unable to verbally explain how she feels however she is crying alot. i spoke to this lady just before the hols and expressed my concerns, she said she couldn't understand where all this is coming from, she cried and made herself look a victim to the headteacher. i don't want to keep going in with accusations here however i cannot and will not ignore my childs tears. please only genuine answers. thanks
Answer: Maybe this TA isn't sure how to deal with someone with autism? If she doesn't know what she needs to be doing, this could be the case and help the problem. It could be something as simple as she requires training. I'm an learning support assistant in a high school and would WANT someone to tell me if I wasn't treating their child in the right way or doing something so they ended up in tears so I could change the way I was being towards them! You should def go in and speak to the headteacher, explain you're not accusing the woman of anything but you are concerned about it. Maybe you could write a sheet of tips and hints on working with your daughter for this woman to have? I know with some of the children I work with who are on the autistic spectrum I've found it so helpful to have notes on them so I know certain things to say/not to say, where they most need help etc! Really hope this helps and gets sorted for you and your daughter!
Classroom Bullying Question: 3
How would you contol bullying in the classroom?
Answer: In addition to some of the good ideas already listed:
Instructing children about the class rules and posting them in the classroom to go over every morning
Schedule of consequences for bullying behavior.
Establishing sense of community in the classroom that facilitates classmates looking out for one another.
Establishing peer mediation by training several students and even including those students who have a tendency towards bullying.
Classroom Bullying Question: 4
How to counsel children who underwent racist "bullying" in classrooms - need creative solutions? I am a part-time volunteer for Childline's telephonic service that deals with children's issues and haven't undergone any formal training so far but of recent, I have received numerous calls from mostly minority kids (but also whites!) about the problem of bullying in classrooms, some of which borders on racism - this, at an age when kids don't even know what racism is.
Typical instances of such bullying are:
1. Their lunchboxes being taken away forcibly
2. Name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse
3. Ignored in the playground and classroom activities by other "groups" - not necessarily based on racist prejudices, but there are always kids who feel left "out"
4. Threats of physical violence
Most of these kids (8-12 year old) are almost on the verge of tears when they come on line and I really don't know how to counsel them. I mostly advise them to 1)talk to their teachers in private, 2)befriend the "bullies" and 3)hit "back" within "limits"
I need more ideas! Thanks
Answer: Hi. What a noble volunteer effort. Kudos to you!
Do kids still fist fight? After my parents divorced, we moved often and being the new kid who drew some attention from popular kids, I had to start every new move defending myself against somebody who wanted to 'mark their territory'. I never backed down and I coach my son the same way. Each time I defended myself once and only once. If I either kicked their butt or fought to a draw, they no longer gained anything by coming after me. And in most instances, I became friends with these guys. I don't know that you can befriend them without kicking their a** though.
Bottom line: bullies only bully those that they can. They want the path of least resistence. Most of them are afraid to be hit and afraid of confrontation and their aggressive, first hit stance is really a defense mechanism to protect themselves.
However, in schools where kids have access to guns, I would be resistent to recommending that as a blanket strategy for all kids - especially those in #4.
My thought: recommend to these kids that they get involved in martial arts. It is rather easy to learn to the point of self-defense and goes a long way for confidence in a kid. He/she will have to decide at some point what their risks are in defending themselves vs avoiding the problem. Also, I would encourage them to handle this/devise their defense with their parents.
Dealing with your #3 scenario is much different and I'm already long-winded ;) Best wishes!
Classroom Bullying Question: 5
Do you think teachers do enough to STOP bullying in their classrooms? I have worked in many schools with many different age groups and will be a teacher myself in a couple of years.
I won't tolerate bullies in my classroom but I know a few teachers who do, what are your views?
Answer: they cant do more as they only have limited rescources and they cant do much
Classroom Bullying Question: 6
Any books for adults still suffering the affects of childhood teasing and bullying? I've searched, but they were all geared towards parents and teachers dealing with bullying in the classroom, the children themselves or adult bullying in the work-place. I'd like a book that addresses the after-math and offers resolution.
Answer: I'd suggest looking for books on PTSD.
Classroom Bullying Question: 7
Can you tell me any anti bullying Phrases? This will be used for my school, our classroom is supposed to decorate our classroom door the theme is anti-bullying we will have to have a phrase or motto and a drawing or picture. Will you please be serious about this!
Thanx for all your help!!!!!!!!!!!
Answer: 1. Take Action- trying to solve the problem on your own before getting a grown-up.
2. Caring Majority- a group of students who stick together to keep safe from bullies.
3. GGG- go get a grown-up.
Phrases
1. Rap Song:
A bully hurts a body or feeling, over, over, and over again.
You know he's not sorry when, he does it over and over again.
As a caring majority, together we can stop bullies!
2. When you're being bothered:
A. Say, " Please stop you're bothering me."
B. Go to a "safe place."
C. Go get a grown up.
3. When a bully is annoying you:
A. "Not yours, don't touch!"
B. " Keep your body on your body."
Lol this is pretty cheesy but may help!
Classroom Bullying Question: 8
Why not separate bullies and targets by classroom?
Answer: 1) there is often too many different combinations of students to separate and not enough different classes
2) most bullying occurs during the recess and lunch breaks and before and after school
3) a proactive approach of addressing the issues is required for an effective long term solution
4) bullies need to be counselled on their behaviour and victims need to be taught strategies to cope
Classroom Bullying Question: 9
Bullying??????? I used to be a victim of bullying. I haven't been bullied for over a year now. I've had conflicts, but no hardcore bullying.
I've realized how much healthier, happier, and better I am.
I have been looking at my past, and I have noticed how a LOT of problems were caused by bullying, and how I rarely have any problems anymore.
I went to a private school from k-4 (worst decision my parents made). Then went to public for 5th, didn't get bullied, but I was left out a lot. Then in sixth grade, I got bullied a little, but made peace. In 7th grade was when my problems started. I got bullied more, and I got scared. I didn't want to go to school, hated my life. Then in 8th grade, I got bullied a LOT. By at least half the classroom at once sometimes. I got messed with by a bunch of different people. It was then that I just...snapped. I was really weird, got really perverted, I started acting out. (Plus, a lot more shit was going on in my life)
Continued in add. details. Yes there is a question
But then summer hit, and I tweaked out a LOT (homicidal, stole without reason, started vandalizing shit, serious thoughts of killing my family, destroyed a lot of what I owned, I hated everybody, acted REALLY weird, hated my life, I NEVER went anywhere without a knife, and I would use it without question)
Then highschool hit, and I was violent, and would fight at the drop of the hat, I got into a fight the first week of school, got into another fight a few weeks after. Since I became so violent (among other things) I stopped getting picked on. I still had weird quirks, I still brought my knife with me, I tried to get expelled, I acted out. But since I stopped getting bullied, I became a lot more stable, and throughout the year, I became more normal, got friends, got a life, found passions, stopped acting out, started loving life.
And over the summer, and now in my sophomore year, I am perfectly content with my life.
But my question? What are other common mental effects of bullying?
Answer: It's ok kid. You'll find later in life that the ones that were doing the bullying will turn out to be complete losers in life. They'll be working serving you fries at McD's and you'll get the executive job. It turned out to be the case in my life.
Life is like a boxing match. Even if you lose round 1, you still have 14 rounds to go.
Classroom Bullying Question: 10
Tackling school bullying? As some one who was bullied till the second year at high school, I know what it feels like to dread arriving at school. To feel the absolute misery of spending breaks and lunch wandering round alone, avoiding certain students. It wasn't character builiding. A nightmare. I had to wait till I grew another foot taller before it stopped.
That it's still allowed to go on today unchecked, and is only highlighted when some poor kid (or even their mother as was recently the case!) tops themself, is a sad indictment. Some (not all!) parents seem to be alright with knowing its happening; as long as its not their kid getting bullied. Or worse, if their child is the bully.
I believe children who bully others should be removed from the mainstream classroom. Placed in a trouble makers division (along with disruptors) under stricter teachers. Serve detention, and be monitored far more closely. And further bullying should be classed as criminal. Disciplined, then if it continues, prosecuted.
Whats a pentagram?
Where do you draw the line?
Where violence is concerned (and most schools have cctv), I draw the line under every 12 yr old who has hung themself because they can't get help, and the education board has been in denial. Why not take the bully out of the circle, untill they can stop the disruptive abusive behaviour?
We need more discipline, and where violence is concerned, proper punishment. It amounts to abh.
Answer: After having suffered years of abuse from one girl, but not reporting it (although I am sure the teachers must have been aware) this girl went to our head of year and accused me of bullying, because I had made a few bitchy comments back.
When I told people what had happened their jaws dropped - they all knew the other girl was lying, but the head of year, being new, neither knew nor cared about the previous situation.
We need to get those who are really the bullies, rather than those who are just accused of bullying, to be punished. In this respect, CCTV would not be effective because the bullying I received was verbal rather than physical and CCTV doesn't record sound.
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