Comments on: The Effects Bullying Can Have On Your Child

By: Hurt inside

Hurt inside — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 11:12:31 +0000

i feel like crying, but i can’t. i just really need to cry right now. it is just unfair that these victims had to endure all this. i know because i was in that position and im still depressed. i wish all that was treated ages ago.

By: Kayt

Kayt — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 20:38:01 +0000

Wow! scary to hear how many people are going through these bullying issues. And they all have the same tone to them, the parents of these bullies just don’t want to help their children stop! if only they would realize that it’s helpful not only to the child being bullied, but to their child(ren) as well, as they are very likely to become adult bullies that will probably have all kinds of adult anger issues. The bullies of my child are twins, whose parents are teachers in the catholic school system, and whose answer to us about their children being bullies, is that their children are only learning to socialize, and that my child is too sensitive. This is the unbelievable comment we received from the mother, who claims she “teaches” about bullying in the school. More like “how to bully”. And, even after writing to the school, the principle the MP, the Board. I got not real support, because these girls sent messages back to my child, that was now in a different school, during catechism classes. The church wouldn’t even return our calls when we left messages requesting to speak to them regarding what was happening. Or when we got the police involved, the one child had a stare down contest with me & then proceeded to gather friends to just stand around & intimidate my child at the theater, right in front of me, the day after the police had been at their house. My husband & I then watched as they ran outside to tell their parent about the incident who then just laughed about it. The biggest problem is that the adults are supporting this type of behaviour. Maybe it is time to make the parents of these children responsible for their childrens’ actions. Most everything I have read says that if an adult gets involved the bullying stops. But if the adult(s) is/are supporting & condoning this behaviour, then it can’t possibly be stopped. I am working with my child’s low self esteem because of the constant bullying (3 years). More has to be done to stop this, and I really think making the parent(s) more responsible will help to save a lot of “bullied” children. One day these children will be old enough to be “charged” for their actions, whether is will make an impact on them by then, i don’t know, because most of the damage has already been done.

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 02:35:02 +0000

Our family is going thru the same thing with the family next door. There son has made life hell for our son, when I tried to speak to the parent’s I was shocked at there attitude.We worked so hard to get our dream home & give our children a better life.We have told our children not to sink to their level. If the housing market was better,I would have a 4 sale sign up tommorrow.

By: catherine

catherine — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 10:37:35 +0000

Distressed mother
please do not let these people change who you are!If you stand back from the situation for just a few minutes and realize that if you had been warned about these people and their unrealistic view of their children, then you should realize that you are not the only one who has had experience with these people. As for even thinking that money makes you automatically have manners, class or honesty, then you are living a very sheltered existence. Some of the most honest, dependable, and classy people live from paycheck to paycheck. Just remind yourself and your daughter that the problem isn’t yours but their’s.

By: Distressed Mother in SC

Distressed Mother in SC — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:00:17 +0000

My daughter was bullied by a girl in our very affluent neighborhood. The parents, I had been warned, believed all 5 of their kids to be perfect, and they, too were perfect parents. When the day came to tell the girl to stop tormenting my child, the mother phoned me at home and screamed at me and called me names, telling me that her girl was “scared” of me. I appealed to the spouse, but he told me that I was a liar and that their perfect family was incapable of such. There is no where to turn when these are the parents you must deal with. We will be installing cameras on our home to document future acts of violence or intimidation brought on by the rest of the family. Looks like money does not buy class or honesty. I am so depressed over the whole thing. It changed who I was. It changed who my daughter was. Sad.