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Helping Your Bullied Child

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Bully Helps

Bullying Help
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It is important to let your child know that you are there for them if they are the victim of bullies, your child will have had feelings of guilt and shame for probably a long time before eventually confiding in someone that they are the victim of a bully.

So it is essential that you take them seriously and let them know that you don’t blame them for what is happening to them, it is all too easy to tell your child to stick up for themselves but this only makes things worse and deepens the shame your child feels and this was probably the very reason they kept it a secret in the first place.

By confiding in someone particularly their own parent your child has shown a great deal of inner strength and this should be pointed out to them and deserves your praise.

* Be a good listener – We all know that a problem shared is a problem halved and this is true, one of the most important ways you can help your child is to talk about what is happening to them and how they feel.

Just by knowing you support them will be a big step towards dealing with the bullying, when you first start talking about the bullying it is understandable that as a parent you will be upset, after all your child is suffering, but try not to let your child see you are upset because they could see this as your disappointment in them.

* Reassure your child - You should always reassure your child that they are not to blame for what is happening, try to explain to them that bullies are people who feel inadequate about themselves and who are jealous of others.

Questions you can ask your child

There are questions that you could ask your child such as:

* Do they encounter problems walking to school or on the bus to school and how do they feel about going to and from school, have they seen other children bullied?

* Do they have problems in the school yard before entering school or coming out of school and how they feel about it?

* When does the bullying usually occur the most in school, do they have problems during break time, dinner time or is the bullying taking place during lessons?

* Do they know if the bullies threaten anyone else in school?

* Does the bullying occur at weekends or evenings when away from school?

* Do they receive emails, text messages or prank phone calls, if so discuss how your child feels about this and ways of dealing with it.

Asking your child questions rather than waiting for them to offer might be easier and asking about other children being bullied will emphasis that they aren’t the only victims of bullies.

If the victim of bullying is a younger child then asking them to draw what is happening to them or how they are feeling might be easier, role playing using toys can often be a big help also. Stress to your child that the bullying can be dealt with together rather than you will sort it out for them, this way the child won’t feel useless and ashamed.

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Bullying Help Question & Answers

Bullying Help Question: 1

Bullying Help?

Hi, well I have a problem with bullying. It's not physical but at the moment they are mentally and verbally bullying me by making remarks about me to my best m8 and also shouting horrible names at me and calling me a tramp. There are 2 main culprits a boy and a girl. The girl sits next to me in almost every lesson I am with her, and the boy only sits near me but he makes remarks about me to my best m8 who sits in front of him. This is upsetting because I don't want my best friend to be taken away from me and it is just really upsetting. I don't want to tell th teachers because they are currently dealing with another issue of mine and they may start not believing me. Please help me as I don't want this to go any further. Also what can the school do to help? Thanks.

Answer:
Young people can be very cruel. My best advice is to not ley 'em see how much they are getting to you, and that will help. The more they see it bothers you, the worse it will continue. Sorry I don't have a better answer for you. I went through it too. Good luck.

Bullying Help Question: 2

bullying! help?

im being bullied on the bus by 2 guys that are african american. i was just sitting down when it first happened. they said "hey gurl in the green shirt!" i turned around, they looked directly at me, and called me ugly. they made fun of me yesterday, called me bigbird and said i should use Pro Activ. i tried to kick him, but it didnt work out as he left. then today, i sat a little more in front on the bus. i heard "hey, theres that gurl in the front." i stiffened throughout the whole ride. when it was finally one of the boys' stops, he went up front and touched me with his hand "which was supposed to look like a slap, except he used no strength. i have no friends on this bus. i have ALOT of friends, and i've never experienced bullying before. what do i do? my mom said something that affected me majorly. she said those boys were starting to control me. she said she would go to my school tomorrow. PLEASE HELP IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY! everyone else on the back of the bus laughs. its humiliating

Answer:
bullying changes peoples' lives forever. The experiences that you have make up who you are. You have to report them. They can get a fine or in even more trouble. Never let anyone get away with making you feel smaller or less important. Maybe try just ignoring them but i have tried that with people and they think that nothing can hurt you so they get meaner and meaner. I'd say go straight to the principle or bus driver

Bullying Help Question: 3

bullying help?

since year 2 my son, who is now in year 5 has been bullied by the same child, i have spoke to the teachers involved and my son is just told to keep away from the child, i am waiting for the head to phone me back now, any more suggestions, apart from throttling the child, which is very tempting

Answer:
Tell the school you are contacting OFSTED and the Education Department. That's what I did when my son was being bullied and the school soon sorted it out. There is also information on what to do on the OFSTED web site and also there are alot of bullying websites to help you out. Unfortunately schools don't do enough where bullying is concerned and it is left up to us parents to get it sorted but there is alot of help out there. Also, ask the school if they have a bullying policy. They might not as primary schools aren't obliged to have one but you never know. If they do have one then they have to give you a copy. You need to be firm with the school and let them no you won't put up with it any longer and that you will take action against them if they don't sort it. After all, within school hours they are our children's legal guardians!!! Good Luck http://www.ofsted.gov.uk/ http://www.bullying.co.uk/

Bullying Help Question: 4

Bullying help?

I used to live in this little town and moved to a bigger town about a year ago and my best friend lives in that little town and she is being bullyed.Not phisicaly but emotionaly. These 4 boys are calling her rude things and she dosent know wat to do. Shes asked me for advice but i have none and she told her mom but all her mom said was to ignore them.Anybody have any advice?And she is in 8th grade

Answer:
She needs to tell her mom again and again and again until she does something about it. Tell her she needs to be very honest with her mom and tell her how upsetting it is and that she can't ignore them anymore than she already does. Then she needs to tell her principal because most schools now have rules against bullying. Tell her not to stop asking for help until it stops. I hope all works out well for her. Remember to love her and and not to ignore her when she is telling you about this.

Bullying Help Question: 5

bullying? help?

There's a guy at my school who keeps hitting me, and pinching and poking, and pulling and the like. He's leaving big bruises and swellings all over me, and i wanna make him stop. I've told him that its not funny and that it hurts, but he doesn't think there's anything wrong with it, and keeps laughing and still continues. I'm looking to do soemthing that will hurt him, but not cause any permanent damage. I've kicked him somewhere on his side, and he let go, and was winded so ended up crouched over, but its really not an effective technique considering how its not particularly easy to execute. If anyone knows any simple but painful defence techniques that will stop him doing it, please tell me. I'd appreciate it. He also grabs my wrists and twists them round, and won't let go, whichi is when i kicked him. He's a hell of a lot stronger than me too, obviously as i'm a girl, so it needs to be effective. :) just to let you know Ok, I should have mentiones this earlier. I already have training in martial arts. I have a brown belt in karate, but my main issue is that i would rather not break anything or cause any damage. I just want to show him that if he keeps on doing it, i'm going to retaliate properly. I don't want any techniques that could end up switching the blame from him to me. By the way, the head knows about it, as does one of my parents (i mean, its hard to hide), but nobody seems bothered enough to take any action. So i want to stop him myself. Does anyone think wrist locks would be effective, as i know and can execute a few of them.

Answer:
Stand up for yourself. This guy is a bully and he won't be the last one you meet in life. Bullies are generally cowards. He is picking on you because you show restraint. He thinks you are afraid so he keeps it up. Honestly, a good solid punch in the nose is what the kid needs. Even if he beats you up after, he won't mess with you again because he knows you will fight back, and bullies don't like that. If you have to defend yourself maybe make sure it takes place inside the school so things don't get out of hand. I also wouldn't wait until he hits you. If you were my son I would say hit him before he hits you. Distract him and sucker punch him right in the nose as hard as you can. If the school is not protecting you then sometimes there is no other choice.

Bullying Help Question: 6

Bullying!!!! Help?

Im Being Bullied At School, I Am Feeling Depressed Alot Of The Time ;[. I Dont Want To Tell On These Bullies & I Dont Want To Fight Them What Should I Do?

Answer:
Tell a trusted adult. Tell a counselor. You can even request to be anonymous. I am sure you aren't the only one they are bullying. Just remember you are one in millions, so don't be scared to tell! You'll regret it if you wait! :)

Bullying Help Question: 7

Bullying Help?

I'm getting bullied for the way I dress, my make-up, the band's I like and my sexuality (I'm Bisexual) They're always calling me names like Emo and putting down the my favourite bands (My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, Panic At The Disco, Madina Lake, Aiden + Other Rock Bands). It's getting really bad and I don't know how to stop it. I've tried telling people but they don't listen. Do any of you have any suggestions? They mostly pick on me because I am bisexual I wear black a lot and do my make up a certain way I like rock bands I'm not like them.

Answer:
no matter what they say...you're beautiful!and then,if u know it,there's no problem!remember,you choose your life,nobody else,you take your life control!

Bullying Help Question: 8

Any Help for an Adult Survivor of Bullying and Abuse?

I'm 24 and I went through severe bullying when I was in grade, middle, and high school. Some of the same people who bullied me went to the same schools as I. I can't help but hurt over what happen. I try to understand and take it all in. As a child I never told about the abuse and bullying I endured at home and at school, I thought it was normal, the hurt I should have expressed then, I'm doing it now. It's like I'm making up for past hurt. I sometimes think it was my fault for letting the bullies get away with what they did, I wish I would have fought back.My question is where can I find support and help as an adult I'm still dealing with past wounds. I suffer from depression, post traumatic stress, anxiety. Anyone know of any help groups, forums, sites? Anyone went through bullying or was a bully? Let me know your story. I believe adults still need encourage, support, help sometimes because victims of bullying and abuse have their times of relapse and still secretly hurting.

Answer:
Call with any problem, Anytime: Girls and Boys Town National Hotline Phone: 1-800-448-3000 Email: Hotline@girlsandboystown.org They have the trained professionals to help you with this, and help is just a call away. <}:-})

Bullying Help Question: 9

Any help for an adult survivor of bullying?

I'm 24 and I went through severe bullying when I was in grade, middle, and high school. Some of the same people who bullied me went to the same schools as I. I can't help but hurt over what happen. I try to understand and take it all in. As a child I never told about the abuse and bullying I endured at home and at school, I thought it was normal, the hurt I should have expressed then, I'm doing it now. It's like I'm making up for past hurt. I sometimes think it was my fault for letting the bullies get away with what they did, I wish I would have fought back.My question is where can I find support and help as an adult I'm still dealing with past wounds. I suffer from depression, post traumatic stress, anxiety. Anyone know of any help groups, forums, sites? Anyone went through bullying or was a bully? Let me know your story. I believe adults still need encourage, support, help sometimes because victims of bullying and abuse have their times of relapse and still secretly hurting. Mikey and godsynthesis, you must have been bullies or the unempathetic people who messed over me. This has nothing to do with growing up and moving on. I will always move on but what happen is apart of my life and I can't ignore the brutality I faced in the home and at school. I have no place to turn, to turn, to go for protection. My healing is understanding why it happen, and trying to understand the bullies. Not all kids are mean and pricks because I wasn't, either I was normal or abnormal. I could have been one of those bullies who get their bullies back by bringing a gun to school or something, that's how worse it got, but I wasn't stupid enough to do so. Don't talk unless your in my shoes. I would like for people to brutalize you and treat you as if your not human with no feelings and see if you say move on, grow up. I must be growng up because I'm willing to accept and try to heal from it. bootsareapacken, thank you for that comforting reply and you describe exactly what I went through. I couldn't fight back, the teachers didn't care, all I could think of I'll get it worse the next day from her or his friends. People say kids are bad, rotten, well, not all kids, I feel raise them better. I want to try to help ones who are suffering abuse and bullying and feel they have no one to go to like I did. I was highly neglected growing up. I always expect bullies and abusers to say get over it, move on, they surely want to, to keep their conscience clear. If it was as easy as all that, the researchers/experts on bullying/abuse don't say its easy to move on from such trauma. Victim is a person who undeservedly is attacked for no reason. I have bettered, I will stand up for myself now. I feel the abuse had an effect on me in my becoming cold/aloof. I'm not as approachable and friendly as I use to. I won't ever forget my past, I hope my past equips me to help other abused children.

Answer:
My advice: Grow up and move on.

Bullying Help Question: 10

Any help for an Adult Survivor of Bullying?

I'm 24 and I went through severe bullying when I was in grade, middle, and high school. Some of the same people who bullied me went to the same schools as I. I can't help but hurt over what happen. I try to understand and take it all in. As a child I never told about the abuse and bullying I endured at home and at school, I thought it was normal, the hurt I should have expressed then, I'm doing it now. It's like I'm making up for past hurt. I sometimes think it was my fault for letting the bullies get away with what they did, I wish I would have fought back.My question is where can I find support and help as an adult I'm still dealing with past wounds. I suffer from depression, post traumatic stress, anxiety. Anyone know of any help groups, forums, sites? Anyone went through bullying or was a bully? Let me know your story. I believe adults still need encourage, support, help sometimes because victims of bullying and abuse have their times of relapse and still secretly hurting. I appreciate all the replies. Don't think I won't move on and live, I have to but the past is my life and to understand why I am how I am now, I had to look back instead of running from it like I did all my life, to heal. I accept what happen, I can't change it. I guess I'm trying to understand the bullies mindset. I was getting it from home and at school, had no protection or safe haven had no guts to talk about it. Now I can and I hope my past equips me to help young kids who are going through hell. Victim is someone who's attacked undeservingly. I expect people who haven't been through abuse to say get over it, obviously experts and professionals on abuse and bullying don't say so because they know the effects of physical violence, verbal and mental abuse. No, one would bully me now, I would fight to death now. Whether victims are able to move on or not, their still should be help for adults of abuse and bullying, because we become adults don't mean we don't need support sometimes

Answer:
You have to move on. Make a new life for yourself and get over it. If you dwell on it, it will eat you up inside. Just be a better person then the idiots who bullied you were. Prove to yourself and to them that you came through it on top and became a better person for it.

Bullying FAQs

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Bully Facts, Bully Helps

Bullying Questions
Questions & Answers (Q&A)

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Bullying Guide

Here we have compiled a series of answers to your bullying questions, providing in a bullying FAQ format:

What is bullying?

* Physical or mental abuse such as hitting, nipping, scratching, being called names and taunted on a daily basis.

* Receiving unwanted and often threatening e-mails, phone calls and text messages on a daily basis.

* Constantly being made to look foolish in the classroom by a teacher, such as being called stupid, thick and general put downs that happen on a daily basis.

* Constant attempts in the workplace to undermine your status, value, position and potential.

* Being put down or patronized constantly especially in front of others.

* Being overload at work or having major work taken away and menial tasks assigned to you on a constant basis.

* Having annual holidays, sick days and compassionate leave denied on a regular basis within the workplace.

* Being given disciplinary procedures for trivial reasons or made up ones on a regular basis in the workplace.

How do I recognize a bully?

* Bullies will very often be in gangs and will be the leader, they will delight in the power that they have over the victim and enjoy feeling powerful as head of a gang.

How can I tell if a school has a problem with bullying?

* Check the schools attendance records, schools which have a big problem with bullies usually have a bad attendance record. This is mainly due to victims of bullies having a lot of time off from school because of the bullying.

* Look for a high level of staff turnover, staff are reluctant to work in schools were bullying is rife.

* Check Ofsted reports for signs of bad behaviour on record.

My child is being bullied on the way to and from school

* Some schools have a policy that the school is responsible for a child’s safety until they reach home, other schools take no responsibility for your child once they have left the school premises. Most schools however will do all they can to help a child who is being bullied. Schools realize that if the bullying is occurring out of school then it will most likely continue in school if the children attend the same school.

My child was being bullied and now fights back and gets into trouble at school for it

* Make an appointment to go and talk with your child’s school and tell them your child was being bullied and explain that they have been told to stick up for themselves and have begun fighting back. Unfortunately most schools have a “two wrongs don’t make it right” policy and will class your child as misbehaving if they are fighting back against the bullies.

* Make sure your child understands that there are different ways of standing up to a bully and that hitting back isn’t always the best policy, explain to them that walking away doesn’t mean you are a coward and the bully is getting away with it but that it means they are a stronger and better person than the bully by just walking away.

The school my child attends seem to trivialize bullying

* All schools have to meet certain guidelines and all schools should have a policy regarding bullying and how to deal with them, if you think your child’s school isn’t taking bullying seriously then first you should make an appointment to speak with the head teacher and ask about the schools bullying policy.

Make it clear to them that your child is being bullied while in their care and present them with any evidence pertaining to the bullying incidents. If you are still not happy with what’s being done in school then take advice from higher authorities such as Ofsted.

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Bullying Questions Question & Answers

Bullying Questions Question: 1

two bullying questions, survey...?

1) according to you, what are the characteristics of a victim of bullying? (not characteristics of the bully, characteristics of the victim). As in, what are different characteristics or weird things about a victim that a bully would focus on? 2) we've all encountered bullies, some are just bullied more than others. what are the emotional/personal effects a bully has had on you? serious answers only please, this is for a report

Answer:
1) they are usually nerds and they can't defend themselves or they are emotionally weak they are also like timid and will do anything the bully wants them to do.(believe me i know) 2)to tell u the truth that bully made me become the me that i am now. I'm stronger, have more friends, and i don't let nobody boss me around!

Bullying Questions Question: 2

Questions on bullying in Canada..?

I'm looking for parents/teachers/children/teens perspectives on bullying in school in Canada. Preferably Ontario. I am doing a presentation for parents/teachers and would like to know if you had a question to ask what would it be? Presentation is only 5 min. long but people can come up to ask questions after. What would be important for you to know? For people being bullied, tell me about your experiences. What helped? What can you do legally? What have parents done before? What role do teachers play? Thanks ok I want views on Bullying from all over, not just Canada. I don't seem to be getting a big reply in Canada, so could other's please give me their views and experiences. Thanks

Answer:
I'm a teacher in the UK and very aware of bullying in my class/school. This is such a big issue. I never suffered bullying as a kid, but I am suffering as an adult at the moment. What has helped me is a special phone line and friends that I can talk to about it. I have also told my union and human resources and they are giving me help and support. I try to instil in my classroom ethos a sense of respect and rapport for others. We use circle time to tackle issues and I am known as a teacher that will listen to both sides of an argument. I do not have favourites. That is not to say that I do not have children in my class who are not being bullied. It is unfortunately a characteristic of human behaviour. Recently I noticed a child behaving out of character, very withdrawn and depressed. When I tried to talk to him he would not share his thoughts with me. Later that day I was told by the head that the parent had complained about her child being bullied. I was upset to think that: 1) one of my children was suffering. 2) neither the child or parent had confided in me. He did confide in me later and we eventually were able to work on the problem. What I have learned as a teacher is: - that the victim needs support as soon as it is noticed, but it may take some time before they are ready and willing to face the situation/name names/admit there is a problem. - that the children need to have a way to communicate with you. They need to know that they will be listened to and taken seriously. - that the children need to know what true bullying is. They need to try to avoid the 'cry wolf' syndrome as it leads to parents/teachers/adults not taking the true cases seriously. It does help to have an overt school policy that has a no tolerance attitude to bullying. Ideas that have been suggested in out school are: -playground buddies -school councillors/mentors -bully boxes (this tends to be abused) -assemblies about bullying -secret buddies (where the children pick someone's name randomly from the class list to be nice to them that week) At the end of the week the children try to guess who their secret buddy was. They suggest the name of someone that has been nice to them that week. Names that are mentioned over and over again are praised and rewarded). There are no easy answers to this. We have to be supportive and patient with the victim and firm about what is acceptable behaviour and what is not to be tolerated.

Bullying Questions Question: 3

2 questions about bullying, for a report, take seirously....?

1) according to you, what are the characteristics of a victim of bullying? (not characteristics of the bully, characteristics of the victim). As in, what are different characteristics or weird things about a victim that a bully would focus on? 2) we've all encountered bullies, some are just bullied more than others. what are the emotional/personal effects a bully has had on you?

Answer:
I think bullies look for someone who might be smaller than they are, doesnt have alot of freinds. Won't stand up for themselves. 2.) NONE, my parents didnt raise me to follow the pack, to march to my own drummer so inside of me I am strong. Once It made me cry and the girl came back the next day thinking she was going to pick on me and I got so mad I told her to shove it up her a s s infront of the whole lunch room, she never bothered me again plus everyone knew I was in karate and being taught by a fellow student who had 4 black belts,lol

Bullying Questions Question: 4

im thinking of doing a citywide survey on bullying to find stats on bullying wat questions should i include?

thanks for your suggestions www.antibully.tk

Answer:
Ask the kids how it makes them feel to be bullied? What does it do to them? Does it affect their self esteem and in what way. Do they ever think of revenge and what type of revenge?

Bullying Questions Question: 5

what's with all the questions about bullying on yahoo answers?

can i have some examples i've never seen any. bullying on a message board how does work?? maybe i'm being an idiot but seriously i dont get it.

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I rarely come on here in the evenings so these were emailed to me by people too frightened to say anything because the wrath would be directed towards them. I first came on here and within a couple of hours saw disgusting posts by 2 users in particular, 1 debating fiddling with a little girl with a terminal illness (A user named Eden's daughter) and the other encouraging and laughing about it. Since then I have tried to redress the balance a little, it's not my nature to let it go unchallenged. That's the background, but to answer your question This: Usually I am blocked (which should suit us both) but she unblocked me so that I could see these answers. I have also never emailed her, nor would I. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aq8wFSo2GFLBS9Bp.hM5vl_G7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071007101107AAKel5E&cp=2&tp=2&tnu=34#all- which came shortly after: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Am8ACPE5jDoI7hUVIZhZpkrF7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071007082404AADmXtG There were others last night that you my have seen, but they have been deleted. If you put freethinker in the answer search there is a back catalogue that has not been deleted. eg: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Am8ACPE5jDoI7hUVIZhZpkrF7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071007082404AADmXtG or http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqW2bnZR8I2fPwDkbKq6tzUjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20070815074945AAkngks. Feel free to check my Q's and A's and all I ask is that you make up your own mind

Bullying Questions Question: 6

5 open-ended questions about bullying that I should put on my survey?

Answer:
why do you bully someone? how do you bully someone? should I bully someone? when should I bully someone? where should I bully someone?

Bullying Questions Question: 7

I've seen a lot of questions about bullying here lately ??!?

don't you think school should be able to diagnose the problem and at least make an effort to stop these bulliers?? I'm 14 btw , I just feel sorry for them =(

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Bullying Questions Question: 8

I know there has been a lot of questions about bullying but...?

Over the weekend our puppy died. My son is 8 and was close to the pup. He was the pup's boy. So yesterday [monday] at school my son was talking about it and this kid comes up and says to my son "I don't give a c*** about your G** D*** dog so just shut up now! This made my son very upset.. He cusses at my son constantly. He does this to other kids too, not just mine. The teacher says that this boy gets his name on the board all the time. What does that do?? So what, his name is on the board? I've talked to the teacher to no avial. The boy still picks on him. Just a few weeks ago the boy took my son's puzzle magazine and threw it across the playground. I told my son to 1. Tell a teacher 2. If it happens again walk away 3. If it still happens ignore him 4. If it happens again then tell him off. My son is sick and tired of being picked on. Any ideas on what I should do? I called the school and they said I have to work it with the teacher? That doesn't help! Any ideas? I plan on taking him out of public school next year and teaching him at home. I want to try that and see if it's something we can do. He says I teach him more than the school does but we'll see how it works. I don't have the option of private school, I don't think there's any near us. I've talked to the teacher nothing happens, and this is a teacher who won Teacher Of The Year last year!!! I'm so angry I want to shake the kid. Of course, I won't because I don't like the idea of jail and I don't really believe in child abuse! I can't talk to the parents because the boy rides the bus home. I pick up my son. But I told my son to ask the kid for his phone number in hopes that he won't know that I'm calling to talk to his mother. I'm about to shake her too! LOL You all have great ideas. I'm going to tell my son next time the boy picks on him to say something nice back to him! I think that would really catch him off gaurd. I know it would me. LOL Thanks to everyone. My son cannot be transferred to another class because it's the GATE class {gifted and talented class} and it doesn't happen during class just at recess. Even if they weren't in the same class they would still have recess together so he'd still have the problem. Unfortantly a new class is not an option.

Answer:
If none of this works, i suggest advising your son to do what the bully least expects, tell him something nice. Tell him that God loves him, that he forgives him for not knowing how to express himself, ask him does he need a friend to talk to, etc. Although it seems that telling him off would work better, the truth is that it would only intensify the situation. The bully wants that negative attention and conflict. If your son only responds nicely, not cowardly, but nicely it will not give the bully the satisfaction of aggravating him. That's what makes the bully feel powerful, controlling the feelings and emotions of others. He will feel that bothering your son is a waste of time if he can't get him angry.

Bullying Questions Question: 9

What do so called "Christians" get from bullying and harassing questions on here?

I have notice that a very prolific minority (David Israel is but one example) seem to post endless diatribes against gays with a rhetorical question worked in. What do these so called Christians get by spending so much time on a LGBT forum like this? Does any one think they really believe they are doing the Lords work by insulting and being sanctimonious? It seems their bombastic attacks would have the exact opposite effect.

Answer:
There are 2 different types posting in this group. The first types are the ones (such as David Israel) that feel the need to spread the word to as many people as they can. These people can be shown other Biblical passages that contradict their question. The second types are the ones whose questions are actually diatribes against gay people and they are bigots that are only using the Bible to hide their bigotry. The best thing that can be done with bigots is to ignore them. Some Christians take the words literally (from whichever version of the Bible they are using) instead of seeing the message and some go to church and are told what the Bible means instead of reading it and interpreting it themselves. By posting these messages, they fail to realize that they are making Christianity look like a religion of hatred.

Bullying Questions Question: 10

Do you think the intolerance we have seen here in some questions and answers is really bullying?

check out the definition of "cyberbullying" from Bill Belsey at bullying.org

Answer:
Yes, I do. People talk about free speech but that only seems to be an excuse to be a bigot, people don't always try to empathize and some will moan about their religion being attacked whilst using their religion to attack. Some people also create threads to attack a person in a town close to them, if that isn't bullying then I'd be amazed

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Cyber Bullying

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Cyber Bullying

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Bullying In Cyberworld

With the modern technology of today bullying has taken on a new form, cyber bullying. With pay as you go phones being easy and cheap to buy more and more children are falling victim to cyber bullying and its effects are just the same if not worse. Cyber bulling is mental abuse and can leave the victim in constant fear, bulling this way is usually done via text message and what is termed as prank calls where very often the caller will phone many times and not even speak.

Along with cell phones cyber bullies will also use home computers; more and more children now have access to computers with many now having them in their bedrooms. Here they are free to email their victims or use one of the popular instant messenger programs to victimize.

What you can do to combat cyber bullying

Never ignore cyber bullying in any form, be it text messaging, e-mail or prank calls to your phone. It is also important not to respond to bullies the way they want, never answer e-mails or text messages but do save them on your phone or computer. It is hard to trace text messages but e-mails have information in what is called headers which can be traced.

It can often be helpful if you keep a record of what its happening to you by keeping a journal of the attacks, be precise when keeping a record, if you know who the person or people are then record their names along with times and dates and what was said .Always remember the golden rule and never be tempted to reply in any shape or form to any messages, texts or emails that you are sent.

Be aware

Never underestimate the power of bullying this way, bullying in this form has the same consequences has any other form of bullying and should be taken just as seriously. Cyber bulling may start off as just the odd one or two text messages at first after a falling out with friends but it can quickly turn into something more sinister before you realize, this is why you should always be aware and start and keep records from the beginning.

Stay in control

Bullying is all about control, the bully wants to have a hold over you and keep you afraid so always stay in control of the situation and don’t let them think what their doing is affecting you. Nine times out of ten if the bullies don’t see results they will get fed up and leave you alone.

If the bully is sending you text messages in school or when you’re out with friends then very often they may be watching for your reaction when you receive them, try not to let them see the messages upset you just calmly put your phone away and pretend you don’t care.

Understand how the bullies mind works

Try to remember the bully can only be a bully if you let them; bullies thrive on power, the power of frightening people. If you don’t react to their threats then you take power away from them and they become nothing more than the weak cowardly person they really are.

Bullies are also attention seekers and need to feed from your reactions whatever your reaction might be, if they think they are bothering you then the bullying will continue if they don’t get any reaction from you they quickly tire.

What you can do to put a stop to the bullying

Cyber bullying is very similar to stalking and text messages are generally hard to trace, however if the bullying continues to the point where it starts to affect your health and you have kept records then your telephone service provider may be able to suggest ways of putting an end to it.

In serious cases contact the police they can often help particularly if you know who the person is, they might suggest that you bring harassment charges against the offenders or at the very least go and talk with them.

Above all talk with someone about what is happening to you, if you are a child then talk with your parents or teachers and shown them the evidence you have been keeping, always remember that you are not at fault and have nothing to feel guilty about and that bullying happens in many forms and to many people in many different ways.

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Cyber Bullying Question & Answers

Cyber Bullying Question: 1

cyber bullying?

Can u go to court for cyber bullying? I heard about it before and I wondered if you cyber bully someone and go into their screen name can you go to court?

Answer:
yes you could as a result of threats or the police could raid your files and find out who you have been talking to and what you have been saying many local police departments now check what you do and additionaly the FBI(Federal Burea of Investigation) can take care of this you could have your computer confiscated and could do hard time in jail or pay a very big fine www.fbi.gov www.cyberbully.org/ www.stopcyberbullying.org/

Cyber Bullying Question: 2

Cyber Bullying?

Cyber Bullying? What is your oppinion on cyber bullying. How is it affecting your community/country? How can we stop it and stand up for one another? What is your oppinion?

Answer:
I HATE IT! Talk to your principal to see what you can do about it! =] It really brings down the self-esteem! Which leads to suicide!

Cyber Bullying Question: 3

cyber bullying?

What's your take on the women, Laurie, who is now going to be prosecuted by California for causing the death, suicide, of a young teenage girl. She went on myspace pretending to be someone else and just bullied this poor girl so much, that the girl committed suicide. Do you think it's about time she were prosecuted? Do you believe she should be responsible for this girls' death? If not, why not. I'm glad they are finally doing something about cyber bullying. Cheers to the California State attorney office for taking this action, when the other state wouldn't. Sorry, I don't remember the name of the other state.

Answer:
I'm glad that she's being prosecuted. Cyber bullying is serious, especially if it leads to suicide. I know friends who have been cyber bullied that ruin them emotionally.

Cyber Bullying Question: 4

Cyber bullying?

The education board are taking action against groups of pupils who use cyber space as an avenue for bullying co students. (Internet chat, my space mobiles etc etc). Have your youngsters suffered with this? If they are successful could they advise YA?

Answer:
One of my daughters friends was a victim of Internet and mobile bullying, it got so bad the poor lad didn't dare leave the house. His mother got a glimpse of a particularly disturbing mail that had been sent to him and called the police. The police took his computer and phone along with those belonging to the bully, this person did not realize that it is difficult to completely delete information off the computer and the police were able to find every nasty mail and text he had sent, he is now in the process of being prosecuted. I have spoken to the police myself as my daughter is a witness in this case, in regards to the bullying at school this poor boy had to go through, and they have told me they take this form of bullying very seriously and will prosecute anyone who tries to intimidate over the net or by phone. the school were very slow to act at first, but since the police have been involved they have started to act more responsibly, and every child using a computer has to have signed permission from a teacher or member of staff.

Cyber Bullying Question: 5

Cyber Bullying?

What is your oppinion on cyber bullying. How is it affecting your community/country? How can we stop it and stand up for one another? What is your oppinion?

Answer:
cyber bullying is a big problem but it is hidden from the society. I think that if someone has internet access bullies can emotionally bully someone. I think that children should not be allowed on chat websites, myspace, facebook etc...

Cyber Bullying Question: 6

Cyber Bullying?

there's this site -> http://pinoypsp.com, they're bullying me, my account was hacked, and the one that hacked my account created a topic about games i made (which was oneflyride's games). That topic is still in the forums, and when the time i search my name, it appears there (Faker Alert), when the time my classmates sees this or enemies, i will be in a great trouble, what do i need to do? my parents are in a business trip, so i need someone to explain it to them. Anyone wants to help me? Im a 15 year old kid.

Answer:
pinoy is a philipino found site, upgrade your firewall

Cyber Bullying Question: 7

Cyber bullying?

My son was being bullied by somebody from his school! We had to call the police. Now this person bullied him on yahoo as well actually threatening him, I came across this and told him to delete the name etc., unfortunately he didn't save the conversation, is there any way to contact yahoo to try and recover this conversation??? We really need the conversation to press charges|!

Answer:
It may be logged, but Yahoo may require a warrant to reveal the information. The best way to contact them is to probably use the abuse report, http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/abuse/

Cyber Bullying Question: 8

Cyber-bullying?

Is that what Brian from So. California did to me online? Did he really care for me, or was he just using me to feel sorry for him because he was sexually abused by his father when he was a teenager? What was the purpose of him talking to me?

Answer:
Who is Brian and under what circumstances do you think you were cyber bullied? So far, if he only talked to you, then that's not bullying.

Cyber Bullying Question: 9

Cyber Bullying?

I am being antagonized by someone on Myspace, getting death threats and such. If I get the police involved can I give them their email address and they track down the computer? Its a Yahoo! email address.

Answer:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cyber-bullying

Cyber Bullying Question: 10

Cyber bullying?

Check this site out: http://www.freewebs.com/pleasedontkillus/index.htm That is not my site; it's about two guys saying that they are being attacked my a girl named April, which happened to be ME. They said that I wanted to kill them, though it's not true at all. And they had been spamming my email with messages calling me an evil witch. And they also posted that in the website. So what I'm asking is, if you receive unwanted emails and if someone posted your name in a website without your consent, would that be a criminal offence? (here is Australia, I mean) Thanks in advance guys ^_^ I didn't mean to be rude. We just watched this play about bullying and they said it was, so I just wanted to clarify. ^_^ They used their school email. How would I do that?

Answer:
And you can also block their e-mails by putting them in your junk mail. Then simply complain to their e-mail provider. Which their Internet provider, and their internet provider would contact them through their ISP and would kick their butts. And the name calling that they did to you was completely unnecessary. It shows how inmature they are always.

Bullying Out Of School

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under I am being bullied, Uncategorized

Bullying Outside School
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Bullying Guide

If you are being bullied in school then you can go to your teachers for help and they must do everything they can to straighten it out and stop the bullying while you’re in school. Bullying however can continue outside of school during the weekends and holidays and school has nothing to do with the bullying when this happens, so what can be done to put a stop to bullying outside of school? There are several ways that you can help to make life easier for yourself if you are being bullied outside of school, these include:

* Ask you friends to call for you before you go out instead of walking to friends’ homes on your own.

* Try taking a slightly different route than you would normally take if you are alone.

* If you’re out alone in the dark then stick to well lit streets.

* Try avoiding areas that you know bullies hang out such as shops, playgrounds and parks.

* Get a personal safety alarm or a whistle and use it if you are threatened.

* If bullies call you names don’t reply just ignore them and carry on walking.

* If you have an a older brother or sister then let them walk with you to your friends’ house.

* Get a lift from your parents to a friends’ house.

Most bullies think it’s clever to call you names they know will upset you and any reaction you have to them name calling will only egg them on and they will do it all the more. If they see that you are upset then they will torment you more so try not to show that their behaviour upsets you or frightens you.

Tell someone you’re being bullied

It is very important that you tell someone if you are or have been bullied on any occasion, whether this is at school or home, it is not a sign of weakness and it doesn’t mean you are a coward for not dealing with it yourself.

If you are being hit or kicked then the person doing this could get into serious trouble as it is a criminal offence and even making obscene gestures and calling you names is termed as harassment. Often children are afraid that they won’t be taken seriously when they say they’re being bullied but more and more attention is being paid to bullying and it is taken very seriously by parents, teachers and the police.

It can be helpful particularly if the police have to become involved if you have kept a journal of the bullying in as much detail as you can. For example writing down dates and times and what was said or done at the time.

What will be done about the bullying?

If you are being bullied on a daily basis by the same person and they are physically harming you as well as mentally then your parents can call the police and someone will come and talk to you about the bullying.

Special police community support officers will usually get involved and they will come and talk to both you and the person responsible for the bullying. In most cases this sorts the problem out as the police will often give the child an unofficial warning, if it doesn’t or the bullying gets worse then the police will come back and take statements from you and they might recommend that you bring criminal charges against the bully.

If the bully admits what they have done then probably they will have to visit the police station and a caution will be given if it goes further then they may have to attend a court hearing and be prosecuted and it will go down on record.

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Bullying Outside School Question: 1

Bullying - How can I stop someone who is a lot older than my son, bullying him, outside school.?

He hasn't touched him yet just verbal and getting more & more of a threatening gang togerther to intimadate him. School cant get involved as its not a school matter & the police cant do anything until someone has been assaulted. Its no good saying go and see the other lads parents he has been thrown out of the house because he is so bad.

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Bullying Outside School Question: 2

Can a school suspend someone for bullying for something that happened outside of school?

Is it legal to suspend a student from public school for something that didn't happen AT school? this is my district's procedure: http://district279.org/who/polpro/policy514.cfm It says that it is in affect "...at any time or any place..." directly in the policy, but is it legal for their jurisdiction to be that far? Also, the incident at hand was partially created at school, however the act in itself wasn't bullying. A student took a video of another student and put it on youtube. The student who was video'd found the video on youtube, and now the video-taker is suspended. Is this a fair move by the district?

Answer:
Sadly yes.

Bullying Outside School Question: 3

for anti bullying week i am doing a show about bullying inside and outside of school can has anybody got any?

ideas of music or poetry that i can use please anything can help

Answer:
Micheal Rosen childrens lauraette has some good ones! I have some music some Young people wrote about feeling sad but how it gets better with friends i could send to you if needed. its not about eliminating bullying ( itll never happen) its about raising awarness and making sure those who are bullied know where to get help

Bullying Outside School Question: 4

Getting Bullied Outside Of School Grounds?

This group of people is trying to pick on me when I'm at the bus stop. One of them tried 2 punch me and I've kinda reacted and hit him back. He didn't do anything and left me alone. I'm wondering what should I do because telling someone just made it worse. First time i was getting bullied, I've told my school's anti-bullying guy of some sort. He had a talk with my bullies and just days later they started again. They call me a snitch and stuff and bully me more common. Tip? don't tell me 2 avoid them or tell somebody because that wouldn't work

Answer:
There obviously showing that there not as 'big and heard' as they like to think if they haven't done anything when uve hit them back. The best thing you can do is go about the schoool anti-bully n go tell an actual teacher or the principal, or speak to your parents. Cos if you fight them back theres a chance that a teacher will see and when you try to tell them the situation they wont believe you. It takes a bigger person to walk away. but remember bullies only bully because there jealous! hope this helps n good luck xxx

Bullying Outside School Question: 5

Why do the preppy bully me outside school?

I just can't help loving science *snorts* and i always try to befriends with them but all i get are punches in the face. BTW, have you ever tried to get the square root of 85474110.5? it's so fun!

Answer:
Oh man.....you stopped doing their homework for them, didn't you!? And yeah......I figured out the square root of that in 2nd grade, duh! There's nothing funner, is there!? Math is NEATO! Woo!!! :D

Bullying Outside School Question: 6

Does Bullying in schools occur outside the UK and the US aswell?

Answer:
yes, for sure. My friend in Germany and one in South Africa are both having problems with their children being bullied at school. You are not alone! but you must speak up to a teacher - they can do wonders and really stop the situation once and for all - but only if they know

Bullying Outside School Question: 7

How do we as Adults handle kids that are bulling our children outside of school?

We've already switched schools, unfortunately the bullying is continuing after school. It is to the point where we are unable to let are children go to the park and ride bikes and have fun with the other children in our area. Aside from teaching them to kick these kid's butts (which I'd love to do, but know it won't help) or even better, sending my husband over to their house to kick THIER dad's butt, what do we do? I've had one encounter with the "mother" and well, needless to say I know exactly why her children are they way they are. She's a complete MONSTER. Any ideas?

Answer:
You say the mother's a monster, so the kids are the same. Maybe the kids need another role model. You are going to hate this, but I say try to make friends with the bully kids. Invite them--the kids only, not the awful mother--over for cookies or hot dogs and talk to them in a friendly, non-threatening way. Always be polite and wave or speak nicely to them when you see them in the neighborhood. If the bullies like and respect you, they'll leave your kids alone.

Bullying Outside School Question: 8

Is there a potential criminal case here? School "bullying"?

Our daughter (16) goes to a military boarding school in Virginia. To make the story short, 4 girls decided to "get" her by alleging the use of pot. The school's drug policy is zero tolerance - expulsion for illegal drug use. No second chances. These girls all independantly told the same story and went around telling everyone that she had been busted for drugs. The school drug tested her (which has since come back NEGATIVE), locked her dorm room down pending a search, searched her person, made her sleep on a couch outside the guard's office for the weekend - essentially treated her like a criminal. I do NOT blame the school for their actions on this. However, now that our daughter is exonerated I am not happy with the school's lack of interest in pursuing these horrible girls who now giggle about how they "got her good", and of course most people haven't heard about the negative result. I think there may be a criminal case here. They tried to get her expelled. Anyone know? Yes it is a private school. I know nothing (and neither does my daughter) of any connection these girls may have to a wealthy benefactor or faculty member. Of course I can prove it was them they filed complaints with the school with their names attached to it. Written statements about she was smoking pot.

Answer:
I doubt you have enough evidence to pursue charges. How are you going to prove to a jury that it was these 4 girls that started the rumor?

Bullying Outside School Question: 9

What if school and workplace bullies had to wear their underpants on the outside of their clothing?

Jester! You dirty ol' b@stard, how the hell are ya? Siddown, have a drink!

Answer:
then what comes around goes around, has finally come around. hell yeah snotface, id drink with you anytime. =p

Bullying Outside School Question: 10

School bully.?

I've had a fight with my best friend and I don't see us ever being friends again. I'm fine with this, but she has decided to take it further by threatening to hit me outside of school. She is alot bigger than me and I know she will not hesitate to knock my block off. I've told her that I will call the cops if she touches me and she doesn't care. I've also told my mother and she won't do anything until after i've been hit. How to I avoid getting hit without showing weakness?

Answer:
your doing fine on your own so far.. and if she does hit you, then make that call.. keep a buddy with you at all times.. that way you will have a witness 2 her assult.. i had 2 fight a bully, much bigger then i.. it worked out great.. the bigger they are, the harder they fall.. and i'm sure she hung her head in shame on the next school day.. i did leave her bleeding and i say that with pride.. take lessons in self defence.. it's the only way 2 survive : )

Bullying In Schools

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Bully Facts, Bullying in Schools

School policies to stop bullying

All schools have to have a policy in place regarding how to deal with bullies, this policy is required by law but schools may have different policies. None of the policies have been studied over the long term so it is hard to say if one works better than another but here are some of the policies that schools have to help combat bullying:

The support or no blame method

In this method the victim of the bully is asked to draw pictures or write a story or poem about the effects bullying has had on them, a meeting will then be held between a teacher and a group of children including the bully. Also in the group will be children who have witnessed the attacks and some that haven’t.

The teacher will then show the group the victim’s drawings or story and explain to the group the victim’s feelings and the effect bullying has had on them. The group is then open to discussion to find ways of finding a solution. The principle behind this is not to put blame on the bully in the hope that by doing so they will not feel threatened and is part of the solution rather than the problem.

Those in the group who witnessed the attacks are meant to see that by doing nothing they condoned the bullying. The group as a whole are asked for any ideas to solutions to stop bullying and responsibility is put on the group rather than a single person. The group will then be asked to carry out the solutions for a week and then they meet up again to discuss what if anything has been achieved.

Counseling between the bully and the victim

The idea is to bring the two together in a room with a teacher and let them both talk over their feelings, the victim has a chance to tell the bully the effect bullying has had and the bully can talk about why he/she feels that they act as they do.

Circle time

This policy is used mainly with younger children, who are experiencing bullying, children are encouraged to sit on the carpet in a circle and talk about how bullying makes them feel. Children are encouraged to listen to each other and to respect each others feelings.

Peer group programmes

This is a strategy that is widely used in schools and involves choosing pupils who will act as peer councillors, the idea behind it is that the whole school knows bullying won’t be tolerated so children who are new to the school moving up from juniors are assured that the school is a bully free zone and bullying is dealt with quickly.

The children chosen as peer councillors undergo training into the various effects bullying has on people and how to care for children who are being bullied. Some schools also have a box system whereby if someone is being bullied but they don’t want to approach the peer group then they can leave a message with their name on it to be collected. Text messaging and e-mails can also be sent and the whole programme is overseen by a teacher.

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Bullying In School
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Secondary School Bullying!!!?
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Bullying In School Question & Answers

Bullying In School Question: 1

Abusive and Bullying School Teacher?

My younger sister now goes to the same school I used to. She, also, is having trouble with a teacher I had trouble with when I was at school. This particular male teacher is a complete bully, and several times I was physically and verbally abused by him throughout my time at that school. By physically, In mean he had grabbed me roughly, and once grabbed my hand which was wrapped an a bandage after I got burnt. It makes me so angry looking back, that he was able to get away with that behaviour, it wasn't just me, it was many students who suffered this kind of treatment, often shouting at pupils telling them they were morons etc. Now my sister is getting the same treatment, but the school are siding with the teacher. She is very shy and can't stick up for herself very well. What can be done??? Is there a council or an organisation who can help? Please help. MAYBE I SHOULD CLARIFY - I AM AN ADULT! I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT CAN BE DONE WITHOUT ME LAUNCHING INTO SOME HUGE COURT CASE TYPE THING - I WOULD RATHER DO IT ANNONYMOUSLY ALSO. MAYBE I SHOULD CLARIFY - I AM AN ADULT! I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT CAN BE DONE WITHOUT ME LAUNCHING INTO SOME HUGE COURT CASE TYPE THING - I WOULD RATHER DO IT ANNONYMOUSLY ALSO.

Answer:
I think you should write a letter to the superintendent of the local school board. Send a copy of that letter to the local newspaper and to the principal of the school the teacher works at. Also, try and have your sister take a tape recorder with her to his class. If she can simply record the teacher's verbal abuse of the students, there will be reason enough for the the school board to believe the physical abuse is real as well. It might be a good idea for her to start taking the recorder to class for a little while before you send out your letter, as well as after, just in case the teacher tries to clean up his act after the letter hits the newspaper. If it works, your sister won't really have to do anything at all(other than the tape recorder-which only you and her need be aware of). There's no reason at all that a teacher should be allowed to get away with that kind of behavior. A student would be in big trouble for repeatedly verbally and physically abusing another student, and he should be held accountable for his actions according to the same rules they're trying to teach the students. GOOD LUCK. Poppy's idea of a petition would be a good idea as well. Perhaps sending a copy(never send the original of anything) of the petition to the newspaper with your letter would greatly assist in making sure they take you seriously.

Bullying In School Question: 2

School Bullying CANNOT Make a Mass Killer. R-e-a-l-l-y ?

I just watched CNN with Wolf Blizer (at 7:00 pm ET). Wolf (host) asked Dr. Helen Morrison, a self-claimed forensic psychiatrist, “Could school bullying turn Cho into such a mass killer?” “No. Absolute not! School bullying cannot turn Cho into a mass killer.” Wow! That is indeed a new analysis. I was really amazed by her assertiveness when she was saying it. So, school bullies, you can all go on with your bullying. American Dr. Helen Morrison just gave you a certification/ green light to keep bullying the week.

Answer:
Another good way to stop mass murdering would be to stop providing people with the tools to do that killing - GUNS! how can you sell hand guns to anyone and everyone who is able to tick a box saying they are not crazy and expect anything else?!?!?! Jeez you Americans really are dumb.

Bullying In School Question: 3

School Bullying-Possible Answer?

I was bullied something terrible when I was at school and the after effects are coming out now (arguing with them out loud-shadow boxing-revenge etc) A few years ago I was listening to BRMB radio late night and there was this agony Uncle on there. Now I have heard since that his name was Jeremy Kyle the bloke who does the morning programme on ITV? ( If someone could confirm this then be grateful ) After you have pursued all the available avenues speaking to the head teacher etc. **Whoever this person was made a brilliant suggestion on how to tackle school bullying** Just go to the Police report the bullies. His words were If the Police were seen at the school or better still at the bullies house then this would put the (you know what) up them. The school would have to be seen to do something. Now my question. Is this procedure in the real world? Do you think that a parent could do this? (I do not see why not) Thanks for answers

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Most schools are now being held more accountable for everything including bullying.If a child is harassed/bullied/assaulted on school grounds the parent can file a police report on school grounds if possible.If the school tells you can not file a police report on school grounds they you do it in front of the schools.The police can the escort you back into the building where you can get the names of the students (suspects).The schools have a mission statements to provide a education to students.If there is a bully preventing child from that education then the school needs to cooperate with the parents to resolve the issue.This means cooperating with the police.If this happened in the workplace there are policy's to prevent this and a course of action.These policy's are in the schools but most parents don't know how to get them,interpret them,or to how to go about enforcing them when the schools doesn't.Sometimes what often happens is the staff and teachers don't relate to the students or community because the generally don't live in the neighborhoods they teach.

Bullying In School Question: 4

Tackling school bullying?

As some one who was bullied till the second year at high school, I know what it feels like to dread arriving at school. To feel the absolute misery of spending breaks and lunch wandering round alone, avoiding certain students. It wasn't character builiding. A nightmare. I had to wait till I grew another foot taller before it stopped. That it's still allowed to go on today unchecked, and is only highlighted when some poor kid (or even their mother as was recently the case!) tops themself, is a sad indictment. Some (not all!) parents seem to be alright with knowing its happening; as long as its not their kid getting bullied. Or worse, if their child is the bully. I believe children who bully others should be removed from the mainstream classroom. Placed in a trouble makers division (along with disruptors) under stricter teachers. Serve detention, and be monitored far more closely. And further bullying should be classed as criminal. Disciplined, then if it continues, prosecuted. Whats a pentagram? Where do you draw the line? Where violence is concerned (and most schools have cctv), I draw the line under every 12 yr old who has hung themself because they can't get help, and the education board has been in denial. Why not take the bully out of the circle, untill they can stop the disruptive abusive behaviour? We need more discipline, and where violence is concerned, proper punishment. It amounts to abh.

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After having suffered years of abuse from one girl, but not reporting it (although I am sure the teachers must have been aware) this girl went to our head of year and accused me of bullying, because I had made a few bitchy comments back. When I told people what had happened their jaws dropped - they all knew the other girl was lying, but the head of year, being new, neither knew nor cared about the previous situation. We need to get those who are really the bullies, rather than those who are just accused of bullying, to be punished. In this respect, CCTV would not be effective because the bullying I received was verbal rather than physical and CCTV doesn't record sound.

Bullying In School Question: 5

School Bullying?

I just posted in special education the fight I've been dealing with at my sons school to get him an IEP. That's one problem I have with this school. Now for this one. On the first day of school I brought in a police report about a girl I knew would retaliate against my daughter for a incident that happened during the summer with me and this girl. Sure enough it started that day. This girl has a BIG history of bullying and had been in trouble earlier that day for it. No matter how many times I asked this school to disipline bullys...EVEN WHEN THEY BELIEVE/HAVE PROOF MY DAUGHTER WAS AT FAULT. Nothing...daughter and her friends would come home balling or call us from school. Was told detention would happen suspension at least 7 times. My son got suspended for eaving a map at home. YES..suspended. Police say they cant do anything til the threat turns physical or violence is threatened. Now, as sad as it is, I understand the kids who bring guns to school. what would u do? I am in Northern Minnesota. Not to far from where the Red Lake School shooting happened. I am calling the next closest school district today and ask what their polcies are on ADHD kids and Bullying. Also in our school district class sizes are well over 30, close to 40 kids per class. So it's always their excuse that they don't have time for this and that. Simple requests like, please switch the bully out of daughters class, and please have son sitting in front of class so he can focus better. Guess where he sits in all his classes? VERY BACK ROW. I'm so lucky arent I? Afew people do find it hard to believe this school is this way, but I swear, it's what's happening. Switching schools is possible and close to happening. Last resort will be home school, although that takes alot away from their positive social life ya know? I have DOCUMENTED each incident, in detail, calls Ive made and the results from the calls, the meetings and results, everythings documented. I got so mad at the last one was being interuppted, cut off and subject changed AGAIN, that I got up, demanded principle get on the phone get my kids down here and pulled em out. Called superintedent, he said he would talk to the school, sent kids back...same old ship. although never seen the old guy,principal run to phone so fast, he was MY elementry school principal. Im 37. MISS FANCY...THANK YOU FOR THAT. I AM SO GLAD SOME ONE KNOWS WHAT ITS LIKE TO GO THROUGH THIS. IM NOT THE ONLY ONE!...ACTUALLY HOW SAD IS THAT HUH? IM ON MY 3RD YEAR REQUESTING IEP, AND 2ND YEAR WITH THE BULLYING. THEY DOOOO TURN IT AROUND ON YOUR CHILD...HOW WEIRD...IS THAT WHAT THEY TRAIN FOR? LEARNING TO TURN ALL AROUND, PARENTS WILL GIVE UP EVENTUALLY, I AM SURE SOME DO...ILL NEVER.

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Most school boards have a policy concerning bullying and violence.There is supposed to be zero tolerance for this type of behaviour.Schools are required to provide a safe and positive learning environment for each child.Put your concerns in writing concerning this bully and the threats.Make several copies and give one copy to the principal and let him know he is concider that he is on notice it is his responsibility to stop this situation.Let him know that Let him know you want a copy of this notice put in your child's file.Further,let him know you are sending a copy to your school board represetative and you will expect them to also ensure policy is being enforced.As parents, we are responsible for the safety and well being of our children when they are in our care.When on school property ,some of this responsibility is passed onto he staff and administration of the school.As for the I'E'P. your school cannot avoid its responsibility to provide an education for your child.If it is deemed he needs an I'E'P' the principal is required to implement it.It does not matter if it creates a budget problem or not it has to be implemented .Do you remember when we'd hear the slogan "No Child Left Behind".I was and is my understanding that no student would not at least be given the opportunity to get an education and achieve success ( based on their own ability).If your child has learning or behavioral issues he is still entitled to an education.If he has issues in either of these areas an I.E.P' will help him .If he is not on any meds.it may be time to look into thise to help him reclaim some order in his life.If the brain is in constant chaos it cannot be in receive mode to learn.Take care.

Bullying In School Question: 6

A way to end school bullying?

When I was younger in school, there were few attempts of people trying to bully me. I've noticed that it usually stops if you just simply get in their face and threaten them with violence. For the most part I have never had the bully retaliate back and usually they just step back and left me alone. I believe when I have kids I will teach them how to fight/defend themselves and would approve of them to use violence to put an end to school bullying. I will not punish my kids if they got suspended because they either beat up their bully or saved another child from being bullied. I sincerely believe that the only way to deal with bullies is to simply beat the crap out of them. While I do not necessarily condone violence, I believe in this situation it is necessary to fight back against the bully so that they can never do any mental damage which can later on lead you to do more severe things (like school shootings).

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I wouldnt say its an ideal answer to end school bullying, but we dont live in an ideal world! Your story sounds much the same as mine; poeple picked on me, after a while I just went psyco on them, then they left me alone. What you've got to take into consideration is that some people just can't or won't fight bullies; either because of fear or its just their nature. To be honest, somtimes when people try to fight against a bully who is significantly stronger than them (luckily this wasnt my case, or probably yours) it simply makes it more funny for the bully/bullies. I've seen people take a swing at people bullying them, and the bullies just laughed in their faces. Tbh, everyone has a way of overcoming bullying (or they should anyway) the method you suggest would only apply to some individuals, and who knows what sort of kids you might have? They might fall into the catagory of those who simply never seriously fight or retaliate, in which case the method you suggest would probably not work. For people like that, they should definately go to teachers or senior people for help, and not be forced to pursue the method of fighting back or defending themselves. Its easy to say that your method would be a solution, but tbh i doubt you or I will ever experience the feelings someone who doesn't/won't fight back has. I do see where you're coming from; its kind of a joke when teachers say things like: "You should have told the deputy head/teacher..." when you've just sorted out your own problem in about 2 minutes with a bit of force, and without having to look like a rat, lose face or get parents involved. Your method can only apply to a certain catagory of people, probably a minority. :)

Bullying In School Question: 7

school bullying?

My shy teenageer has experienced bullying at school. there are days that my student doesn't want to go to school. I'm trying to come up with a way for my student to stand up to the bully. Any suggestions?

Answer:
Have a sit down with your boy/girl and tell them that that bully wants something that he just can't obtain. To keep the bully from persisting your boy/girl needs to find a better school. Or possibly the bully and or bullies could be relocated to a more private school. This still could cause a problem. If the right form of schooling is in place for the bullies there would be backlash from the innocent because they have nothing special. For your kid to be able to go to school the next day and the next day. Reminder: Bullies are like bulls they see red where there is a trigger in their brain that makes them angry. Tell the kid that he or she must act oblivious to the situation at hand and to ask for some sort of intervention. The obviousness of the problem also could be that there is an underlying action that has not rose to the surface. Ask your son to be upfront with the problem first with you and your spouse. Then the problem will be in the bullies or bully as a solution. Only in school do they have the power to stop bullying while it happens. If the bullies don't like their aggression forced back in ther f ace I am sure that the problem cannot persist with a bully being bullied.

Bullying In School Question: 8

Secondary School Bullying!!!?

I have a serious problem - my daughter had to be collected from her secondary school today - she is 13 - she was being abused and taunted at Lunch time by not only the bullys but her friends joined in too - she is devastated and has told me if I send her back she will kill herself. All girls can be bitchy I know and my daughter is probably no angel but she has strong morals and is always the one standing up for everyone else - why did all her friends turn their back on her and what do I do? She is a lovely girl, kind, pretty and not at all nasty or unkind, the girls bullying her are very popular (with the boys!!) but nasty and spiteful. I have contacted the school and they think it can be resolved with them all sitting down talking - I don't agree - PLEASE HELP.......

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Give the girl a hug from me! What a rotton lot teenagers can be. If she can get through this it will be a great lesson in life. I dont think you can entertain changing schools at the first sign of trouble. Life can be tough and you just have to be a little bit tougher!! If your daughter learns that if things get a bit uncomfortable you will move her, she wont learn the coping skills she will need in life. If you have given the school a fair chance and equiped your daughter to deal with the grief and things dont then improve a move may well be in order. Girls can be very catty. Her friends probably scared to stick up for her, and be in the minority - hope they feel wretched tonight!

Bullying In School Question: 9

Are there bullying laws at school in NYS??

I am interested in finding any policies or laws that NYS has against in school bullying in elementary schools?

Answer:
bullying is natural. the problem isn't the bully's but your childs innability to handle them. there will always be bullies in life, your kids need to elarn how to deal with them...

Bullying In School Question: 10

What is the Structural Functionalists view on school bullying? How would they deal with it?

What is the Structural Functionalists view on school bullying? What is bullyings place in society? I already know the conflict, symbolic and feminist theories, but the structural functionalism one is hard to figure out. I also want to know how they will deal with it? What is the Structural Functionalists view on school bullying? Would a functionalist go as far as to say that the bully and victim are merely playing roles? I already know the conflict theorist , symbolic interactionist, and feminist theories, but the structural functionalism one is hard to figure out. I also want to know how they will deal with it?

Answer:
Hmm. thats a good question. If you were to say "what is the purpose of a criminal?" the answer would be to provide jobs to law enforcement, however what does a bully accomplish? Maybe it is to push the "nerds" or whoever they bully into succeeding or perhaps get the people they bully to accomplish more. Maybe their job is to keep the detention halls full of people. I honestly do not know. any answer on the purpose of a bully would be streatching it. Maybe to regulate the economy of lunch money?

Bullying In The Workplace

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Uncategorized

Bullying In Workplace
Questions & Answers (Q&A)

Workplace bullying - Contractors/Temps?
Have you been a victim of workplace bullying, if so, by
workplace bullying?
Workplace bullying.....laws?
Workplace Bullying?
Does singapore have a law against workplace bullying?
Is this workplace bullying?
Does Canada have a law against workplace bullying?
What do you do to cope with workplace bullying?
what's the correct way to complain about workplace bull

Bullying At Work

Bullying in the workplace can be dealt with the same as any type of bullying; bullies awe secretive cowards whatever their age. The bully in the workplace will lie to achieve their goal and deceive others around them. They are extremely clever but so are you and you can beat the bully. There are certain things you have to remember when dealing with a bully in the workplace, these are:

* Start to gain control back

Recognize what is happening to you and admit that you are being bullied, there is no shame in it and it’s not something you are at fault for. Criticisms about your work are made to put you down and to get you second guessing yourself, don’t give in to these fears, if you know you are producing work of a high standard and the boss has no complaints then don’t worry needlessly .To do this you are playing right into the bully’s hands and giving them the satisfaction they crave.

* You are not alone

It is important to remember that you are not alone in what you are going through, bullying in the workplace is a common occurrence. Many people associate bullying with children in school but it is a wide spread problem which can occur in some shape or form anywhere.

Bullying in the workplace however usually consists of mental cruelty more than physical violence with the bully wanting the attention or credit you get for the work you produce.

It often happens that the bully will steal your ideas for their own, do not let the bully make you feel shame, guilt or fear; this is what the bully relies upon to keep their hold over you. Guilt and fear strategies are the bully’s best friend for this is how all abusers silence their victims.

* Don’t try to handle bullying alone

Bullies pick on those who are afraid to tell others of the problem therefore it is important to remember there is no shame in asking for help, the bully will try hard to make you feel inadequate and belittle their victim making them believe that asking for help and not being able to deal with the problem on your own like an adult is cowardly. If necessary tell a colleague at the very least or preferably the boss, bullying is harassment and most workplaces won’t tolerate harassment.

* Take action against the bully

Keep a written account of the incidents of bullying, write in great detail what happened and where, including times and dates. If the bully has sent memos, emails or text messages be sure to keep copies of them but never reply to them.

It can also be worthwhile purchasing a hand held mini tape recorder or a phone which has recording capabilities and capture the bullies own words.

Talk with other employees very often the bully will not target just one person but several in the workplace, get together with colleagues and make a stand together against the bully. The bully will be very reluctant to continue with the abuse once they realize they have been found out.

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Bullying In Workplace Question & Answers

Bullying In Workplace Question: 1

Workplace bullying - Contractors/Temps?

Just curious re UK laws re bullying in the workplace, with regard to contractors/temps. The conventional wisdom seems to be that temp/contractors have NO rights, as they are employees of the agency (or quite often, of their own limited company, so there is an additional degree of separation from the client). But what if you are being bullied by the client - what rights to complain have you got? If anyone has specific knowledge of UK employment law that would be great. I faced this situation a few years ago, and I hope I never face it again. But I am still a contractor and I know lots of people who are contracting. This situation comes up from time to time, unfortunately. What rights do we have? Jim - it would be bizarre, to say the least, to insist upon extra 'employer abuse' penalties when at the contract stage. Contracts are pretty much standard, particularly with regard to sub-clauses. I find it hard to believe that the ONLY protection under UK law is what appears in the terms of the contract. There are LAWS against workplace bullying, it is not merely a contractual issue! What I want to know is - do the laws extend to contract workers, and if so to what extent? Is it the same as for an equivalent permanent employee?

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Bullying In Workplace Question: 2

Have you been a victim of workplace bullying, if so, by whom (boss,coworker,subordinate)?

I am a professional expert on 'workplace bullying.' In the USA, most workers are aware of 'sexual harassment' & 'hostile work environment' & we have laws against this. "Workplace bullying' is a larger, more umbrella term, that includes the entire gamut of all negative, non-supportive, undermining behaviors towards an employee, whether the source is from a boss, a coworker, or a subordinate. Many other countries have strict laws against workplace bullying, in order to safeguard & ensure a more civil, socially just workplace for its citizens. These include Australia, Canada, France, Ireland, Sweden (where original research was done & wpb term originated), the UK, to name a few. Efforts are underway to bring more protective laws to the USA, although change is slow. I am writing a book on the subject, & am seeking interviewees for case studies for the book. Your identity will remain confidential. If interested in being interviewed, contact me. If you are being bullied, do not stay silent.

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See, how does one know if you are an employer trying to see if people are talking against his company? And I find it is never good to talk against a company and fight with them. Many times, you can work with them and you will find that you are not really being bullied. Rather, they would just like things done a certain way. Maybe they don't always have the best way of conveying that information, but they are human beings, too. If you get talked to, that is your chance to voice your opinion also, and the two parties can mull over it separately and try to adjust to the way the other does things. I have adjusted in what seemed like the most difficult situations ever. I feel bad about myself at times. And yes, at first, I felt I was being bullied and that everyone was out to get me. But they weren't. They said how they felt, I said how I felt, neither made a huge deal out of it, and on we went with the workday. But good changes came out of it. Bottom line--people aren't at work to play. They're at work to work, and if they don't show up and do the work or if they create too many problems and distract from work to be done, they will be talked to. Eventually, they may be fired. That's just the way the world works. It seems cruel, but no busy manager needs an employee who is a headache. Moreover, no good will ever come from fighting with everybody, and those laws you speak of won't be enacted b/c certain states allow firings for no reason at all. Generally, if one does what is expected at work, there won't be a problem. If not, then the person can try to adjust. They are to listen to their superior and do as instructed. That is not being bullied.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 3

workplace bullying?

Yesterday I was at work when a woman asked me to come into the office. She started shouting at me saying that she knew what I had been saying at school and I had got everyones backs up. I didn't have a clue what she was on about but she was still accusing me of saying that I stand back and let everyone do the work which is not true because I work really really hard, and I would never say that to anyone. I am 13 and the woman who called me into the office wasn't even the boss. they only pay me 3 pounds an hour they don't help me when I need help and it becomes over whelming as I am only new to starting work. My dad said that she could get into alot of trouble for doing that when she isn't in charge. She also took me out of the kitchen and started shouting at me in front of everyone and I didn't have a clue what I had done and I was crying my eyes out. Is this workplace bullying concidering my age and they don't give me proper brakes?

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She IS a bully. Go to your boss and say what has been happening. You really must do this. Don't tell her what you are going to do though because she might try to see your boss first and change the story. She has no right to do this and YOU have RIGHTS....not to be treated this way. Go tell on her as soon as you can. Explain what happened and say how it made you feel. Best wishes.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 4

Workplace bullying.....laws?

I'm in WI and was wondering if anyone knew the laws regarding workplace bullying? This would include acts such as 3rd party harrassment, slander and intimidation.

Answer:
Check with the local lawyers. If there are no specific laws for this purpose, you may seek action for human rights violation.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 5

Workplace Bullying?

Well as it says , I feel as if im the victim of workplace bullying and what makes it more upsetting is the person is younger then me. Im constantly being called names and to me its not a joke but to them it is. For example i get called Retard cause i dont understand something everything i do im questioned or insulted . i just wanna get along with them but it doesnt seem its going to happen. So what should i do try to ignore it , confront them , See my boss etc Wow thanks for the answers they are alot of help (If i sound sarcastic im not) Ill defiantly take these answers onboard Thanks again

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Dont take it... I was harrassed a few years back, by a girl who USED to be my friend and all of a sudden she started hating on me. Everyone told me it was because she was jealous of me...she was just ugly inside and out. She harassed me about the color of my hair to my clothes to my boyfriend.... I shouldnt have taken that for so long. So my advice to you is talk to the boss...or your union..do something..because this person needs to be stopped. If their job is threatened they will def. think twice about bugging you. good luck and try to ignore the idiot while you are trying to get them in trouble! ;-)

Bullying In Workplace Question: 6

Does singapore have a law against workplace bullying?

Have you been a victim of workplace bullying, if so, by whom (boss,coworker,subordinate)? What if a person listen to their superior and do as instructed and being bullied others then how do you deal with it? Then what will happen to the person begin bullied and how they will face the problem? Surely the boss,coworker,subordinate will believe them and the person begin bullied, no one will believe them and they get extra works, overtime, pay cut - how they drama to be good person - this kind of drama surely the (boss,coworker,subordinate) believe and the person begin bullied, they will quit the job or kill themselve. How to stop this? I have been workplace bully in many jobs & was force 2 quit & some job i resign by myself because of tat ppl push their work 2 me, e supervisor side them, & their friend help them & i get bully & i didn't get my overtime pay & they get pay 4 doing nothing & tis is unfair. I went 2 my boss & i say what has been happening but e person change e story & act as innocent. The supervisor & coworker support them. Wat's e correct way 2 report tis problem? Who do I go 2 first? Do I contact e helpline or e boss? & if it doesn't work, who do I contact next & wat should i do next?. I can't live my life like tis 4 long, tis is my life. Some ppl can get along with ppl & y i can't? y i am getting bully? How i tell them off, still i get bully by them or get rejected by them & i am always lonely at lunch time & ppl with long face working with me. Which company/factory i go - there is always gangster working with me. I don't want war, i want peace, friendly & happy working. Tis i told e priest, he told me 2 be a monk & he laugh at me & without helping me. I respect him & tis is how he behave 2 me. Wat a asshole he is. Anywhere i go i have been treated like tis or get bully or begin cheated - why? How 2 be friendly type person & get along in workplace? I am not a friendly type person, i am depressed & not a happy person. I don't have fancy story 2 talk about or able 2 tell jokes - i am e boring & useless guy. I have 2 change my life style - went ppl see me coming, they will invite me or talk 2 me or joke with me. How much hard work i did change my life style & it didn't workout. 10 years i am still e same person. I hate myself 4 begin a weak & useless person. Why i can't change? Why is it so hard 2 change? Is it tat i am begin curse or someone put black magic curse on me? Why me? Is there realy no way out solving my problems? I am stuck in this chinese country which has alot of rules and laws. This stupid singapore country is hell and boring place. 10 years ago i support my country, do alot of volunteering job, cleaning the church but these peoples and priests didn't respect me or help me. Every work place i go, the supervisor and coworker bully me and cheat my salary, i ask the priest for help, they told that, they can't help me and they don't even bother about me. Even i respect them and show them that i am a good catholic person that SOB priests treat me like hell. I have alot of badge of singapore flag in my cuboard, certificate of volunteering - but this SOB peoples treat me like this, i hate my country and this peoples. If i can't help, pls pray for me to get out of this hell place. Each day i stay here, they are pressuring me and i can't take the stress here. Like this goes on, my life gone. Then i will end my life for good. I thought that catholic peoples and priests are friendly, loving, caring and helpful. They treat me like this - what kind of catholic priests and peoples is this? This is what the bible teach? Are they following the bibe teaching or their own teaching? Is there no one to stop them from behaving like barbarian to the poor and depression people? Singapore chinese people have no sense of humor - behaving like a ASSHOLE. Everyone praise this country that it is a good place and peoples but their behavior towards us like Shiit. No respect or kindness or love or caring and not helpful.

Answer:
Mr Psalms. Not everyone gets along with everyone in the work place. But you have to learn how to work together. If it is absolutely bothering you, then you can go and talk very professionally to the management. Ask them what they think about your performance and tell them that you are trying your best to do whatever it takes to get the job done but that "this person" is really affecting your performance and tell them you would appreciate their intervention in order to create a working environment where you are all working as a team.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 7

Is this workplace bullying?

My placement supervisor for my internship is being pretty harsh on me i think. For example there was a part missing of a patients file i typed out, and i said i thought i typed it out i dont know whats happening to that part of the file at the moment...she said bluntly "you"...and walked away. What the hell, is this workplace bullying or something? its getting me down being supervised by her and i dont know if i should tell anyone cos she grades me at the end. Any suggestions?

Answer:
Well if this isn't an isolated incident you need to do something because even if you don't tell anyone she can still grade you down if she finds a lame reason to dislike you. My friend had that happen and even though she never complained about the supervisor she got lower marks than everyone else because the supervisor didn't like her. If you can talk to someone about her anonymously then do it. Surely there must be someone you can complain to about her.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 8

Does Canada have a law against workplace bullying?

I am being bullied at work. I have complained to me boss several times and when I do she seems annoyed with me that I am complaining. I don't want her to try and get rid of me just cause I am complaining. Does anyone know if Canada has a law against workplace bullying to protect me?

Answer:
They do.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 9

What do you do to cope with workplace bullying?

I've seen it can happen to anyone; my family, friends, acquaintances, me; at any time. How can you be sure that are really being bullied and the other person(s) is doing it consciously? Do you think there is a general solution that could end bullying in the workplace, or is there nothing really efffective that works? great answers! and all very true (- unfortunately, in some cases!) I'll put it to a vote i think as i can't choose...

Answer:
File a complaint with the HR department. If they don't take action on it, you have good grounds for a lucrative lawsuit. "Creating a hostile work environment", falls under the same category as sexual harassment, and is illegal.

Bullying In Workplace Question: 10

what's the correct way to complain about workplace bullying?

If I feel I am being bullied at work, my supervisor or manager has been mean and unfair to me, and there are people who have witnessed these facts, if there are videos throughout my workplace that can be reviewed to support my claim. What's the correct way to report this person? Who do you go to first? do you contact the helpline or the boss at your workplace? and if it doesn't work, who do you contact next?. Thanks.

Answer:
Talk to the boss over that boss or employee. Simple and easy.

Bullying In The Family

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Bullying in the Family

Bullying In The Family
Questions & Answers (Q&A)

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Bullying Guide

Bullying in the family is almost always psychological bullying; the main reason for this is because it leaves no outward scars or signs and so no evidence. Most commonly the abuse takes on the form of verbal cruelty, this is usually achieved by constant fault finding and nit picking. The bully in the family will never give praise where it is due and will manipulate, isolate and exclude family members.

The bully’s objective

The objective of the bully in the family is to dominate, they thrive on power and control over their victim. The bully will never admit they are doing wrong and living with someone who is constantly putting you down and denying what they said or did can drive you crazy almost to the point where you begin to doubt yourself constantly.

When the bullying starts to get you down to the point where other family members and friends begin to notice, the bully will tell them it is you that has a problem and will tell others you are losing it.

Control is the main issue, this can be controlling of finances within the family, who you see and where you go and what you do during the day. Very often, if it is the husband who is the bully, he will call his wife several times a day while he is out at work wanting to know where she is and what she is doing.

Very often he will demand that she do tasks around the home just for the sake of keeping her at home and therefore knowing her whereabouts all the time. Very often the bully in the family will take great delight in setting family members against each other, the bully will gain a great deal of satisfaction from seeing family members argue amongst themselves and taking the side of the bully, to the bully this is total control of the person’s mind.

Female bullies in particular within the family are very good at manipulation; they excel in manipulating people through their emotions, such as guilt. The bully will seize upon any form of vulnerability and are especially good when it comes to taking advantage of those who are emotionally needy such as elderly parents.

The bully within the family will also encourage their victim to lie to other members in the family and having your mind poisoned by a member of your own family can be difficult to comprehend and the victim will often refuse to believe that their own family could be guilty of such a thing, so therefore bullying in the family is particularly hard to stop.

It is extremely important the person being bullied sees through the deception and realizes they are being used as a pawn and get help.

The serial bully in the family is often easy to spot as all bullies have certain characteristics, they will show signs of:

* Denial

* Arrogance

* Unpredictability

* Be attention seekers

Bullies in the family can either be male or female and very rarely children can also bully their parents, particularly mothers playing on their emotions, female bullies are usually more cunning than males, female bullies will be more devious and they will often bully a male into committing violence for them. Male bullies are often less subtle and clever when it comes to bullying but also play on the emotions of a woman.

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Bullying In The Family Question & Answers

Bullying In The Family Question: 1

Hi, how do I prevent my neighbouring family from bullying my 6 year old son? I am a single mother.?

They are a family of three, mother, father, and their 8 year old son. My son, and this kid often play together and get along well. But the other kid's parents are kinda rowdy, and often bully my son over trivial issues and instigate other kids in the neighbourhood to do the same. I think they derive a thrill out of it. Whenever I try talking it out with them, both of them talk illogically, I find them ill-mannered and incapable of discussing reasonably. The father goes on to making unprovoked and lewd remarks about my family consisting of just my son and myself. I stay in an upscale locality in urban India, but here, so far as social issues are concerned, society associations are dormant.

Answer:
Ignore them. The "power of silence" works wonders too. Just think of it ..you bull someone and they do not react. You look Foolish not so? Use the "power of silence" it will show them and make them realise how foolish they have been.

Bullying In The Family Question: 2

This is going to sound really immature, but I think my family is *bullying* me.?

They are always saying bad things about me because I've been married for 4 years and don't have kids. One of them said to me that I should be embarrassed that I've been married for long and have no kids and another time, one of my aunts said, 4 years and no kids, what's this? And I just said, it all happens from God and I have faith in him that it'll happen when He thinks the time is right for us. This same aunt keeps bringing up the same topic everytime I see her, and now I just walk away. So, am I being *bullied?* My friend said that even if it's from family, it's still peer pressure.

Answer:
People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Tell them to mind their own business. Or be nice and tell your Aunt when you find out ,that she will be the first to know. I wish families could be patient and except all of us for who we are. it took me awhile to figure out that because I think I have the perfect life that My sister thinks living just day to day and not worring about anything is the perfect life. Who are any of us to judge others. My Brother who lives by traveling 5 days aweek, jet setting with the rich and famous, thinks he for sure must have the perfect life. My neighbor who wants no children, no husband, You guess it!! Try not to take our Families to serious. When it is all gone, They will look perfect. God bless

Bullying In The Family Question: 3

If u know u are surrounded by a nexus of thugs who are bullying u and threatening ur family-?

If u know u are surrounded by a nexus of thugs who are bullying u and threatening ur family!? And u have no evidence to give to police and u fear that some police people are in that nexus, what should u do??Those thugs have collected already some false evidence against u as u were not careful all that time. what will u do?

Answer:
stab one of them in the hand. that will probably scare the others. sometimes u gotta prove u are more crazy than them to get rid of them

Bullying In The Family Question: 4

If I don't go to a family function to stop my brother from bullying me and my kids, what do I tell the family?

I know that they will all be upset that I won't come to the family functions and be mad at me. But my brother won't stop bullying my kids or me. Nothing I say, not even a letter works...

Answer:
Don't go actions speak louder than words. You are right to stand up for your kids and if your family is upset because you don't attend maybe they will stand with you and demand your brother stop. If they don't they are adults but you don't want your children to start behaving like your brother and you might have to stay away for the sake of your children. If your brother has not grown up yet he probably never will so you might as well take action now and save yourself more years of the same aggravation.

Bullying In The Family Question: 5

How do I stop my ex from bullying and controlling my family?

I have been divorced for 6 years, yet my ex still controls all aspects of my life. He refuses to sign kids passports at last minute, refuses to sign divorce papers last minute, disowned my 11 year old daughter, trashes me to my son, calls me every name in the book via email. I of course save all emails and forward them to my lawyer. Bottom line he is not well but continues to cause havoc in our lives. He is causing so much pain and suffering to all of us, my children are getting counselling and know that what he is doing is wrong. I have tried to seek sole custody but the office of the childrens lawyer declined my request. It kills me to see my son be brainwashed, he is instructed to steal from our house and lie to me. This monster says I am the evil one, I want to be able to move on but this man refuses to stop hurting us every chance he gets. Any advice would be appreciated...after 6 years of going to court and battling it out I'm at a loss of what to do.

Answer:
It sounds like you need a better attorney that will protect you AND the children's interest. He is clearly harrassing you and I cannot imagine why a lawyer would turn a blind eye to this and the obvious abuse inflicted upon the children. Document everything. The lawyers should try to seek an injunction to prohibit the verbal abuse, etc. Do not give up but fight like hell to get this man under control. Your children's well being depends on it. Check out 2 party recording laws in your state. If it is legal, start recording all conversations. Good luck.

Bullying In The Family Question: 6

Why is it that ppl w/money [talking abt family members] often end up bullying others around w/their "power"?

I HATE "family" politics do u have personal examples of such a situation in your family from any relatives?

Answer:
Well. I personally think it's about mistaking love with control, moral with power (or love/power upon someone and moral/control upon own lives). I'm really saddened by this because I am Christian (Not imposing to any who read this) and saw that everytime in couples/households money was lacking, disorder and troubles started. Husbands and wives (insert equivalent here) trowing blames after each others for their own misery and misguiding aggressivity. Often, case of battered spouses and kids are into poorest layer of society, because having no powers over their own lives, and no money to ease out their own lives, the frustrations have to be expelled into something. Something like violence or attempt to at least control what's left around in life. I'm not excluding that it existist in highest layers for other reasons like mere greed or lust of power and pride to exercise and to show it. Sadly, with moral values being deviated from where they first came from and into some illusions of merchandising happiness and false needs, it also explains how the 6% of the world exploits and destroys 94% left of their brothers and sisters for whatever corrupted name of wichever values or deviated religions (and I include also the one of my faith here because, used in politic, it is devastating.) I'm not telling that religion is bad, in fact it would be rather good if not being used as a socio-political instrument!

Bullying In The Family Question: 7

What's the legal way to keep one family member from assaulting, bullying & battering us?

would that be effective?

Answer:
Explain Your Rights To The Abuser But Be Careful (I Am Almost positive This Will not Be Enough). If You Truly Are Afraid Of Reprisal Than Seek Outside Help. A Counselor, Domestic Abuse Hotline, Police Officer, or Another Family Member Who Can Help Or Mediate In Order To Reach A Peaceful Solution. If Necessary Get An Order Of Protection. If Your Safety Is At Risk Then Call The Police And Get To Somewhere Safe... Fast. Side Note Find Out Your States Laws For Domestic Violence See Source 1. VICTIM'S RIGHTS A federal domestic violence victim has the following rights under 42 U.S.C. Section 10606(b): C The right to be treated with fairness and with respect for the victim's dignity and privacy. C The right to be reasonably protected from the accused offender. C The right to be notified of court proceedings. C The right to be present at all public Court proceedings related to the offense, unless the Court determines that testimony by the victim would be materially affected if the victim heard other testimony at trial. C The right to confer with the attorney for the Government in the case. C The right to restitution. C The right to information about the conviction, sentencing, imprisonment and release of the offender.

Bullying In The Family Question: 8

If u know u are surrounded by a nexus of thugs who are bullying u and threatening ur family!?

, and u have no evidence to give to police and u fear that some police people are in that nexus, what should u do?? The thugs were careful rt frm the start and instead they can collected false evidence aginst you. replace can in just above para by have***

Answer:
Go to citizens advice. You shouldn`t have to live in fear. Or go to someone higher up in the police force. Corruption in the UK police is VERY rare. Record evidence of what is happening to you. If you need to and can, use a camera to capture any evidence and abuse. Make a stand. Thay could be doing this to alot of people around you. Don`t let them win. Good luck

Bullying In The Family Question: 9

Does anyone besides my family "bully" Easter eggs?

Two people each take an Easter egg, and hit each other's egg on one end. Whichever one does not crack is the winner. The winner keeps going until it cracks and then gets another. You keep going until there are no eggs left and there really does not seem to be any point, other than there are a lot of eggs to devil. My family has always done this but everyone I know thinks more then the Easter eggs have cracked over the years. Think "My Greek Wedding" had a scene about bullying, but the eggs were all red and not sure if it was Easter.

Answer:
Actually this "bullying" you describe happens every Great Saturday Night (the night of Resurrection of Pasha ==> Greek Orthodox Christian Easter) among Greeks, and whenever after that day we are going to consume those eggs!!! We boil them and paint them red, which is a symbol for the holy blood of Christ -not as macabre as it may seem, it actually reminds of the passions Jesus went through (plus, red and golden hues are widely used in Byzantine religious iconography). We usually bring them to collision from the front or the rear part (lol) and even if we don't eat them immediately afterwards, they do not get wasted because they have been boiled, as I said before. At the same time we say "Christ Arose" and "Indeed, he Arose" in greek. Of course, you do not need to break all these eggs!

Bullying In The Family Question: 10

landlord responabilitie for family member living in the dwelling but is bullying the tenants?

I rent a room from a friend. his son is costanly harrassing and threnting the other renters.the police have been called 2 times in the last month because of the sons actions.can the landlord be held responable for his sons action,and for not protecting the other renters?

Answer:
WELL first of all you pay your rent you should get repect,and if its only landlords than go to the owners,don't take that harrassment.

Bullying: Self Harm & Suicide

Written by bullyfre on May 24, 2008, Filled under Bully Facts, Bullying Effects

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide
Questions & Answers (Q&A)

do you think this would be of a good read if i could pu
If this was your school wouldn't the right thing be to
Why was the head teacher not battered or forced out of
running away..or suicide?
Teenage suicides?!?
deppression/suicide?
bed wetting at 15?
what can i do ?
I need help or just someone to talk to?
how to cope with unhappiness??

Bullying Guide

Being bullied causes a great deal of conflicting feelings, one of these being anger and since the victim of a bully is usually a non violent person this anger gets held in and can be one of the main causes of depression. Victims of bullies will eventually arrive at the point where they can no longer hold in this anger, this is when they reach the point of boiling and a release of the internal pressure is needed.

As the person is generally a non violent one they can very often turn to hurting themselves instead of lashing out at the bully and very often even attempt suicide. In the United Kingdom alone it is thought that each year:

* Over 5000 people commit suicide.

* At least 16 young people or children commit suicide due to bullying.

* At east 19,000 children will have attempted suicide, this is one every half hour.

* For males between the ages of 18 and 24 suicide is the number one cause of death.

* Over 30% of the workforce in the United Kingdom suffer from mental health problems.

Bullying, harassment and abuse causes severe problems with our health these problems are often diagnosed as stress and anxiety but also includes depression.

Strategies for dealing with anger to help eliminate depression

All targets of bullies whatever their age or gender will eventually come to a boiling point if the anger is left to fester and eventually the smallest of irritations can cause an outburst. This trigger could come from our adversaries but more often than not it will come unwittingly from friends or family.

Anger controls a person and when we become angry we lose control, bullies know this and this is what they are aiming for, this is why a bully will constantly provoke you.

By holding in the anger you are risking your health and by expressing your anger with friends and family you are in theory allowing the bully to control you even after the event.

Here are some tips for getting the frustrations out quickly and early:

* Take an empty plastic milk carton and jump up and down on it until you feel better, do this in private of course.

* Visit a counselor or therapist and talk things through.

* Every time you have a negative thought remind yourself “I am responsible for how I feel”.

* Read books on anger management and ways of dealing with stress.

* Save up all your empty glass bottles and take them to a bottle bank, drop them in and hear the glass shatter, breaking glass is thought to be soothing.

It is important to remember that you are not alone in how you feel, all targets of bullies get angry and let the anger build up until it’s uncontrollable. The important thing is to manage this anger and let off steam when you feel the need to but always remain in control of the anger and don’t let it bring you to the brink of serious depression or worse – suicide.

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Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question & Answers

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 1

do you think this would be of a good read if i could put pen to paper?

to write a book about true events that have happened in someones life ie a child from your own father, sexual abuse , adoption, surrogacy, abortion. suicide, attempted suiciide , self harming, bullying, seeking plastic surgery, being hospitilised and put in a mental health unit to stop yourself rom ending your life, domestic vilolence, a stabbing, body dysmorphia disorder, prostitution, depression, nervous breakdown, alopecia totiilis complete baldness,, divorce, affairs,death by alcholism , theft,gays etc these are all true but it would be how to word it and then how to publish it do you think if i could write it as a book it would sell i am changing names but it will be written by me so i cant be sued by people can i if ther names are NOT MENTIONED AND IT IS ALL TRUE ANY ADVICE on how to put it together where to start with each event and how to word it im not very clever but im not thick either how long do you suppose it would take to write it then where do i send it to be printed etc would you buy it

Answer:
The idea is good but you don't even know where to begin and that is your problem. Writers are people who write. Anyone can have a good idea but if they cannot get that idea across then what is the point? It is like me describing a painting then saying: "Do you think this will be a good painting if I put paint to canvas?" Even though I can describe the painting to be perfect, I cannot paint, so what will the painting look like? To write a book, you have to have that inner desire to write, not for yourself, but for the sake of writing - just like a musician controls the music, a writer must control the words. I do not mean to sound harsh - just stating the obvious: if you have a good idea, then good; if you can write coherently, then even better... but if you do not know how to portray these ideas, and you cannot write about them, then your ideas are useless. I wish you well in this endeavour of yours, and suggest that if you cannot write it yourself, then maybe find a ghost writer to do it for you - that way, you can explain your ideas, and a professional writer can put it down on paper in the context that you want. Good luck with it. Edit: Just want to add that if you write about somebody, even if you change the name, if that person recognises him/herself from the description you give or how you portray them, then yes, you can be sued for defamation of character, so be careful.

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 2

If this was your school wouldn't the right thing be to batter the head to reinstatement and an apology?

http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2-200... Namely two students 16 at a BOARDING school got cuaght having sex big deal. Now how hypocritical is that? like the head teacher or the teacher who caught them was a virgin? And like most of the other students unless ugly or lacking social skills (most likely resulting in future lives of annorexia, bulemia, self harm, suicide attempts and councelling as all the ir future love lifes would involve only masturbation, porn and occasional hooker which is what absteinance leads to). They most likely stay in dorms so were looking for a little privancy and typical teenagers with feelings. So way dont all the other couples storm into the heads office and force them to bring the kids back... They are not immoral as never bullied, distrupted lessons, hurt others etc. All the did was make love & most likely were in love. Its repression that leads to honour killings, forced arranged marriages, bukas and magdelen laundry abuse like EXECUTING 13 YEAR OLDS GIRLS FOR HAVING SEX… DEATH BY STONING THE MOST VIOLENT, AGONISING AND SCARY WAY… SEE VIDEO AFTER LINK http://www.iran-press-service.com/ips/articles-2004/october/izadi_161004.shtml DEFFINETELY SEE THIS ALL THE WAY THOUGH TO THE END IMAGINE THE SCREAMS AND USE A STOPWATCH Clear video stoning http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm YOUNG TEEN GIRL BEING STONED TO DEATH WHICH LASTWED 30 MIN TILL SHE DIED http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/bisaba... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/video-... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/016.3g... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/1.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/2.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/3.3gp.... http://www.aina.org/news/20070425181603.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar... http://www.ekurd.net/mismas/articles/mis... http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/st... SAME THINKING AS THE HEADS LEADS TO HONOUR KILLINGS http://www.rawa.org/honorkilling.htm http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=396745&in_page_id=1770 http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/1328238.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/south_asia/2567077.stm http://www.hindunet.com/forum/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=71832&Main=60597 GAYS BEING EXECTUTED http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_rights_in_Saudi_Arabia http://observer.guardian.co.uk/world/story/0,,1838222,00.html http://clarityandresolve.com/archives/2005/07/iran_killing_ga.php MORE TEENAGERS BEING EXECUTED FOR MAKING LOVE OR RESISTING RAPE http://uk.messages.news.yahoo.com/World/threadview?bn=UK-NEWS-WOR-Religion&tid=7667&mid=7667&tof=10&m=tm&rt=2 TEENAGE GIRL TO BE HUNG IN IRAN FOR DEFENDING HERSELF AGAINST RAPE. AND ANOTHER FOR SEX http://www.jihadwatch.org/dhimmiwatch/archives/009746.php http://www.iranfocus.com/modules/news/article.php?story... NASTY TREATMENT OF GIRLS http://www.buzzpatrol.com/links/polish-high-school-student-expelled-for-playboy-shoot/ 'The Magdelen Sisters' should be in your video shop but the tv drama 'sinners' was more accurate if you can find it. over 30,000 were involved up till 1996...how old were you at that time? How many of your friends, you or your sister could have ended up here. Abusing, raping, and ripping the babies from the arms of 30,000 girls up to just 10 years ago http://www.thewildgeese.com/pages/magdalen.html http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380703/ http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/sinners/interviews/annemarie.shtml ********************* so why dont all the couples storm into the heads office and force him to reinstate thier friends who did not bully or hurt anyone and want to learn. Why should they loose schooling for teachers perverted relgious so called moral attiudes of abuse? If the teacher was any good or the Head ... Why did they simply not teel the kids ... Look making love is a wonderful thing and its great you have somone to be close to... But please find somewhere other then the classrooms? And make sure the girl gets a morning after pill if needed, full sex ed for both, gets goes stright on a depro injection and if the couples ever cuaght without condoms instant detention and not together. Plus councelling for both if and wehn relationship turns sour. Surely helping to develop social and relationship lives and maturity should be part of the parental aspects of a boarding school to develop happy balanced future adults? ***************************************** I DON'T NORMALLY READ THE SUN. WAS STUCK DOING PROMO WORK BY THE PAPERS AND PICKED IT UP ALONG WITH THE REST. i REMEBERSED THE STROY BUT COULD NOT REMEBER WHICH PAPER SO WENT THOUGHT THE WEBSITES TO FIND THE ARTICAL. BUT SEEN THESE KINDS OF STORIES BEFORE LIKE ONE WHERE TEACHERS KICKED DOWN A STUDENTS DORM DOOR TO CATCH THE COUPLE... 16 AND 17 OVER AGE OF CONCENT, THEN RUIN THIER EDUCATION. Due to repressive abusive relgious attiudes **************** Tracy the listing of honour killings etc is showing how the head teacher thinks. he is NOT operating in the students best interests like all who think like that. He is operating on the same principles as those who stone teenage girls to death for making love. And therefore probably supports such attitudes. You mention loose morals... Whats immoral about being in love? and making love? its part of life and a nice part and perfectly moral as long as not hurting anyone like no rape or forced arranged marriage. As said no mention of the kids dealing crack or bullying others... thats immoral. As for stds and pregnancies... ever hear of condoms, the contraceptive injection... The teachers job in care of teenagers is to make sure they know all there is bto know about sex ed and realtioships so no emotional problems or pregnancies or stds as they know what they are doing like any 24 year olds in a married couple. And loco parentalis WOULD INCLUDE ALL THE SUPPORT NEEDED FOR THEM TO DEVELOP EMOTIONALLY AND SOCIALLY. I WOULD BE HORRIFIED IF i HAD A KID WHO WAS SHY AND CRYING THEMSELVES TO SLEEP AS THEY COULD NOT GET PEOPLE THEY HAD FEELINGS TO DATE THEM, i WOULD BE TERRIFIED THEY WOULD END UP ANNOREXIC, BULEMIC, BE SELF HARMING, NEED COUNCELLING OR END UP KILLING THEMSELVES AS THINK THEY WERE GOING TO BE ALONE FOREVER I would want to meet the boy girl making my duaghter son so happy Actually pretty much all teenagers will be having sex... for them home is the school as a boarding school. QUOTE if your parents caught you having sex in your room at home what would they do, pat you on the back or blow their top? LIKE MY SISTER AND HUSBAND WHO USED TO LIVE TOGETHER AT OUR HOUSE AS COULD NOT AFFORD OWN PLACE TILL MARRIED? IN 20s. If I was the parents after intial shock I would want an introduction and apologise for embarrasing them like the opening scene in American Pie too. having thoughly sex ed them from childhood so no std/pregnancy worries. Plus be worried if by 17 were not sexaully active or at least dating by 16 ********************************* Addtional Tracey... You missed out on the they are at boarding school. Therefore school is home. Plus a lot safer then some woods somewhere as they are a bit young to have their own flat. Why the level of feeling? As unlike your son who is not 'sorted' for life. I missed out on those critical years the result being now in 30s NEVEr having had any realtioship over a few weeks of dating post snog/one night stand in a club. Never being with anyone I loved so a lifetime of pain. Seen the damage done to others... The years late 15-17 are much like the first few minutes on the titanic after the iceberg. those who got to the boats early were fine. Those who waited rapidly find out they cannot compete with others with more experience then them. Who have a foundation in confidence, self esteem and getting the rookie stuff out of the way as say waiting a few years everyone will have high standards. 16 year olds will NEVER mature into confident 24 year olds able to have normal realtioships... a 24 with no experience can only date a 16 year old with no experience to match up... Only by then that wont be accepted so they life will be alone. QUOTE Also why should young girls be filling their bodies full of chemicals such as contraceptive injection and morning after pill BEATS BEING PREGNANT. Plus your pressure to conform and catch up occures no matter what. And most of any job has nothing to do with education. its all social realtioship and social political competion skills...ALL only come in sexaul relationships as a teenger. Those in them thoguh close realtisohips get those selling. pursuasion skils as linked to flirt skills gained in realtioships and the ability to read people. So no social development skills no career either... No social acceptance in uni if you cant pull, or at work. As you are only allowed to be a rookie 15-17. its like a gateway... go one way happy life, go the other or wait you miss the boat and screwed for life. Am grown up... Hence the attiudes ********************* Addit to tracey No sex no relationships. girls dont like rookies and you end up like What I think is sad is people like the man on Virgin School who were so desperate that he paid a stranger to teach him how to make love. As said you have no idea as you started 17, your son 16... Both in the brackets of rookie age I mentioned hence you having your loving life. No not a virgin. But your typical 17 year old done more. Likewise what would you know about life if always been with someone. Therefore you can have no idea on the opposite If you dont start well you will be needy. if needy you cant get a girlfreind or date. Its much like the poor stay poor and rich get richer, forming vicious circles you cant escape. If you 16/17 and a rookie... fine so is everyone else... not so in 20s **** quote basically I disagree with your statement that the headteacher should be beaten and then you blaming all those other crimes on people who dont encourage children to sleep together. They cause pain, far more then any bully could so should feel it EVERYDAY You accumulate life points... Either warmth, love, affection, being wanted. Or rejection, hate, bitterness, pain and anger quote WTF!!!! Boarding schools have a responsibitlity as every school to put the childrens welfare first. Of course they arent going to let their pupils sleep around! What colour is the sky on your planet? No they probably werent in love they were over run with hormones Helping them with first relationships to see first times run smoothly and as safe as possible IS LOOKING AFTER THEIR WEALFARE EMOTIONAL, PYSCHOLOGICAL AND PHYSICALLY. Preventing future needs for councelling and so the girls wont be dependant on dating agenecies and the guys not dependant on porn or hookers for the closest to any affection they will ever get. QUOTE Of course they arent going to let their pupils sleep around! What colour is the sky on your planet? ERM OVER THE AGE OF CONSENT OR JUST UNDER & LEGAL HUMAN AND WILL HAVE HOMRONES AND SEX NO MATTER WHAT. Im saying be the mentor & agony aunt, shoulder to cry on and cupid as a parent should be My planet is earth the one where teenagers around 16 always have had sex and always will do... AND ILL BLOODY WELL BUT THE HYPOCRITCAL TOSSER TEACHERS DID EXACTLY THAT UNLESS THE KIDS NOBODY WANTED TO BE WITH SO ARE JEALOUS ******************************************* Lozy... Rules included whereing yellow stars if a jew and obeying soldiers walking you to death camps. Gays were not allowed to be together. Black people werent allowed to keep their seats if a white peron wanted them Children used to be executed for stealing food. According to the rules in islamic countires they do this to kids who had pre marital sex. EXECUTING 13 YEAR OLDS GIRLS FOR HAVING SEX… DEATH BY STONING THE MOST VIOLENT, AGONISING AND SCARY WAY… SEE VIDEO AFTER LINK http://www.iran-press-service.com/ips/articles-2004/october/izadi_161004.shtml DEFFINETELY SEE THIS ALL THE WAY THOUGH TO THE END IMAGINE THE SCREAMS AND USE A STOPWATCH Clear video stoning http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm YOUNG TEEN GIRL BEING STONED TO DEATH WHICH LASTWED 30 MIN TILL SHE DIED http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/bisaba... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/video-... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/016.3g... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/1.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/2.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/3.3gp.... http://www.aina.org/news/20070425181603.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar... http://www.ekurd.net/mismas/articles/mis... http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/st... NO RULES ARE NOT RULES AND THEY SHOULD NOT BE EXPELLED FOR SIMPLE RULE BREAKNG oNLY IF ACTIONS WERE MEANT TO STOP EDUCATION OR HURT HARM OR INTIMIDATE OTHERS UNJUSTLY. As said the other kids should become political and act as a union togther, sticking up for each other and mob handed forced a reinstatement AND apology... Or how about the head teachers wife gets kidnapped. ie if we cant have a couple neither can you

Answer:
You need to grow up!!!

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 3

Why was the head teacher not battered or forced out of his job for this?

http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2-2007230115,00.html Namely two students 16 at a BOARDING school got cuaght having sex. Now how hypocritical is that? like the head teacher or the teacher who caught them was a virgin? And like most of the other students unless ugly or lacking social skills (most likely resulting in future lives of annorexia, bulemia, self harm, suicide attempts and councelling as all the ir future love lifes would involve only masturbation, porn and occasional hooker which is what absteinance leads to). They most likely stay in dorms so were looking for a little privancy and typical teenagers with feelings. So way dont all the other couples storm into the heads office and force them to bring the kids back... They are not immoral as never bullied, distrupted lessons, hurt others etc. All the did was make love & most likely were in love. Its repression that leads to honour killings, forced arranged marriages, bukas and magdelen laundries... So the Head and teacher most likey would happily see this done to the girl. EXECUTING 13 YEAR OLDS GIRLS FOR HAVING SEX… DEATH BY STONING THE MOST VIOLENT, AGONISING AND SCARY WAY… SEE VIDEO AFTER LINK http://www.iran-press-service.com/ips/articles-2004/october/izadi_161004.shtml DEFFINETELY SEE THIS ALL THE WAY THOUGH TO THE END IMAGINE THE SCREAMS AND USE A STOPWATCH Clear video stoning http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm YOUNG TEEN GIRL BEING STONED TO DEATH WHICH LASTWED 30 MIN TILL SHE DIED http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/bisaba... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/video-... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/016.3g... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/1.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/2.3gp.... http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/3.3gp.... http://www.aina.org/news/20070425181603.... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar... http://www.ekurd.net/mismas/articles/mis... http://www.ekurd.net/mismas/articles/mis... http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/st... Just like this NASTY TREATMENT OF GIRLS http://www.buzzpatrol.com/links/polish-high-school-student-expelled-for-playboy-shoot/ 'The Magdelen Sisters' should be in your video shop but the tv drama 'sinners' was more accurate if you can find it. over 30,000 were involved up till 1996...how old were you at that time? How many of your friends, you or your sister could have ended up here. Abusing, raping, and ripping the babies from the arms of 30,000 girls up to just 10 years ago http://www.thewildgeese.com/pages/magdalen.html http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380703/ http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/sinners/interviews/annemarie.shtml Origonal documentry available from http://cgi.ebay.com/SEX-IN-A-COLD-CLIMATE-DVD-DOCUMENTRY-REG-0_W0QQitemZ6437066430QQcategoryZ617QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem Since such people like this head clearly support abuse of teenagers in love like this hence the expulsion so he can feel all macho why dont the kids get together to teach him a lesson and get their freinds reinstated and apologised to? Why did the teacher not simply suggest a better place to make love, give them condoms and see if the needed a morning after pill and make sure they knew all the needed to know so no pregnancies? The listing of honour killings etc is showing how the head teacher thinks. He is NOT operating in the students best interests like all who think like that. He just wrecked their education and ruined their first love. If I was the parents I would be furious as would want first times to be special and to have the life I never had. He is operating on the same principles as those who stone teenage girls to death for making love. And therefore probably supports such attitudes. You mention loose morals... Whats immoral about being in love? and making love? its part of life and a nice part and perfectly moral as long as not hurting anyone like no rape or forced arranged marriage. As said no mention of the kids dealing crack or bullying others... thats immoral. As for stds and pregnancies... ever hear of condoms, the contraceptive injection... The teachers job in care of teenagers is to make sure they know all there is bto know about sex ed and realtioships so no emotional problems or pregnancies or stds as they know what they are doing like any 24 year olds in a married couple. And loco parentalis WOULD INCLUDE ALL THE SUPPORT NEEDED FOR THEM TO DEVELOP EMOTIONALLY AND SOCIALLY. I WOULD BE HORRIFIED IF i HAD A KID WHO WAS SHY AND CRYING THEMSELVES TO SLEEP AS THEY COULD NOT GET PEOPLE THEY HAD FEELINGS TO DATE THEM, i WOULD BE TERRIFIED THEY WOULD END UP ANNOREXIC, BULEMIC, BE SELF HARMING, NEED COUNCELLING OR END UP KILLING THEMSELVES AS THINK THEY WERE GOING TO BE ALONE FOREVER 1 second ago I would want to meet the boy girl making my duaghter son so happy. Stick The crappy grammer etc is more typing fast not looking at keyboard. Its not the physical sex but emotions that go with it that I would want to develop. For relationship confidence and maturity. As said seen to much hurt in others be it girls stonned to death, friends self harming, others suicidal as alone with nobody to be close to especailly in late teens to support anything else ****************************************** cream bun and Sir Bobby. A PARENTS JOB IS TO PREPARE THEIR KID FOR LIFE THAT INCLUDES RELATIONSHIPS IT INCLUDES SEX. ANY DECENT PARENT WOULD WANT THEIR POST 16 YEAR OLD OLD CHILDREN HAVING SEX UNDER THEIR ROOF BEFORE UNIVERSITY. So the parents can be there fore them to do their job of helping them deal with all the issues and feelings and problems surrounding sexaul actitity inc what to do when relationships break up. And at home you know the kid is safe. Stds and pregnancy should not be a problem if sex educated properly and any responsibile parent would already have put a kid on depro injection from the age of around 13 in preparation for this. IF THE TEENAGERS CANNOT HAVE PHYICAL INTIMACEY THEN ALL MARRIAGES AND FAMILES OF STAFF SHOULD NOT EITHER.. As for rules. Sorry that went out with the ONly obeying orders Yellow stars on jews, no black people allowed on busses if whites wanted seats How about islamic law that would have the kids stoned to death for sex outside marriage as seen in the link above. sO NO RULES ARE NOT RULES. THEY SCHOOL WOULD HAVE TO SHOW THE KIDS BEING BULLIES, PUTTING OTHERS IN UNJUSTIFIED DANGER ETC. INFACT IF A TEACHER i WOULD TEACH THEM ABOUT THE 60S CIVIL RIGHTS MOVIEMENTS AND UNION, THE POWER OF THE MOB AND STICKING UP FOR EACH OTHER. AND HAVE THIS COMPARED TO WHEN GAYS USED TO BE ARRESTED

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dont really think physical sex was on the curriculum there is a time and place for everything thats nothing to do with repression dont even try to compare the pilght of young muslim girls

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 4

running away..or suicide?

i feel so trapped.. i was raped by some one i trusted, another person i trusted [a friend], told everyone personal secrets.. so i am not very good at trusting people.. also my father hurts me when he comes home.. well i'll just say i get an awful lot of bruises. i hate school, i get bullied alot.. i have stopped self harming at the monent, but i am finding it really hard to cope i really want to run away from everything, should i run away, or commmit suicide? ohh and no - one evar found out about the rape ..so its trapped in my mind and i am scared he might do it again..

Answer:
you should talk to someone that you can trust. It might be a nurse at school or a counselor. Or someone on a child abuse hot line. Check your phone book. There is a lot of help available to you that does not involve the two alternatives you mentioned. Suicide is never a good way out and running away can expose you to many many dangers. I really beg you to talk to someone.

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 5

Teenage suicides?!?

My last rant on this subject. The Lancet has published facts that boys aged 15 - 17 are commiting suicide at a rate 18 times higher when they are incarcerated in Young Offenders Institutes in the UK. Attempts at suicide are now at 45% higher than on the outside. Girls of the same age (15 - 17) are at 22% higher suicide rate, whilst self harming is now at a rate of 67% higher than those on the outside. Bullying by staff and fellow inmates, drugs, and low self esteem are quoted as the main reasons. I have one question only - Who is watching the watchers? Comments please.

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Just curious to know if you work in corrections? These are horrible statistics. Something needs to be done for sure. Although I believe strongly in being punished accordingly for your crimes I wish so badly that there was some way or somehow they can figure out to actually rehabilitate these young ones so hopefully they will not doing something worse when they become adults.

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 6

deppression/suicide?

i have been diagnosed with depression however do not understand the cause of it. my mother was mentally abusive and also suffers from deppression and i was bullied for two years in and out of school. ive become more withdrawn preffering my own company as my friends dont seem to understand what im going through and just put me down. ive become more suicidal and have recently started self harming again which makes me feel better sometimes i have been reffered to councelling however its takes me a long time to open up to people as i have trust issues. i also suffer from OCD which has gotten worse over recent weeks. i really dont know what to do or were to turn.

Answer:
You need to pray...Just when it feels like it's at it's worse...It will get better...Do not give up on yourself...Set some goals and reach a few...Don't settle on anything...You can fight this

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 7

bed wetting at 15?

i am now 15 and im turning 16 in feb, and i have a problem with bed wetting its getting me bullied and i have been going through a rough time lately and ive even thought bout suicide and i self harm aswell and i dnt kno wat to do... my little brother bullys me for it and i cant stand it i jus want to kill myself and i am scared im going to..... help me please... no nasty comments... xx

Answer:
Please get help--if you are thinking about suicide, this is a very serious thing. Please consider calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) or talk to an adult you trust right away. As far as the bed-wetting, it could be a reaction to stress, or it could be some sort of minor medical issue. I would suggest that you go see your family doctor, as (s)he can almost certainly help.

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 8

what can i do ?

i am 13 and all i do is sit in my room and got to school in the week and on the weekends see friends from other schools and sleep.i self harm(cutting) and have a problem controlling my anger.i get bullied and dont fit in at school.my family abuse me physically and sexually.i have attempted suicide once but couldnt do it and called an ambulance.i spend half my time crying.i cant take the pain anymore what can i do?

Answer:
The obvious answer would be to find a counselor that you can talk to and help you work through your problems. Another idea is to find something physically draining to do that you enjoy. Know that you are not alone and most everybody has been a victim of abuse in some way or another. It is really terrible that it was your own family...people you are supposed to be able to trust and rely on. You need to make your own family and friends now...good people that can understand you and help you become a good person. Maybe you can help other people that have been through the same things. I personally do not feel that cutting is harmful. It is the anger and emotional pain behind the cutting that is the most harmful. It's a way of trying to change the emotional pain into physical pain. Please do get some kind of help or this will ruin your life. It already will be a part of your life forever and will affect decisions you make in the future but if you can find a way to work through it, you will be a better person...a person that you can like. At school, join clubs or volunteer or something to help you make friends. I was a quiet, shy person in school and I found out at my reunion that some ppl thought I was stuck up. They didn't know I was shy and some ppl that I thought didn't like me, actually did and we are good friends now and can laugh at how we were in school. Don't presume to know what other ppl think of you unless they've told/shown you first-hand. Bullies should not get away with what they do. You SHOULD report them but I know that is something hard to do at your age. Talk to the school counselor. That's what they are there for!!! It's hard but you have to take that step in order to get better.

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 9

I need help or just someone to talk to?

Okay.. I'n 15 and have been bullied about many things since the age of 4 (as soon as i started primary school) it continued into my secondary school where other students in my class started a new way of how they were going to do it and started saying that i'm a lesbian, (which i am not) and getting girls in my class to touch me and pretend i'm their girlfriend and things. I also have alot of stress from various things and school and stuff.. I'm always really depressed and have attempted suicide in january/february of this year, and also last week, and i self harm, but am trying very hard to stop.. I just need help really, i've been advised by friends to see a counsellor, but i don't want to, so was just.. i don't know, i'm a bit confused.. Lol, yeah, it is Paramore as my picture

Answer:
you poor soul havnt u got an understanding mum or dad u can confide in i read lots of stories like yours on here and it saddens me u have to come on here and pour your heart out you must see someone soon honey or it will just get worse take the advice from your friends believe me things will get better keep your chin up good luck xx

Bullying Self Harm And Suicide Question: 10

how to cope with unhappiness??

depression is such a strong word but it's how i feel.im 15 so i suppose its normal but why do i have to go home and cry for hours at a time? im freakishly ugly and get bullied a lot for it. my nose is huge and im full of freckles with a rubbish figure. self-harm has become a common problem with me and i've been throwing my meals away and losing weight but it makes me feel better. no-one knows about this because i get called a self obsessed attention seeker when i mention it to my parents. i've seriously considered suicide recently but it might be a step too far! what can i do?

Answer:
e-mail me jackro76@yahoo.co.uk

Bullying Facts

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Why is Harry Reid and the dems now bullying ABC for rep
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Bullying ..[[true story]]?
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Bullying Guide: Learning About & Dealing With Bullying

We have gathered a list of bullying facts to help you get a better understanding of bullying:

* Research has shown that 1 in 6 children are bullied in school.

* Bullying in the workplace varies from country to country, in Norway 5% of the workforce admit to being bullied while in the UK and USA 20% of the workforce say they have encountered bullying in the workplace.

* 1 in 30 workers are serial bullies.

* Bullying can continue for years.

* 84% of workers at some time in their life encounter intimidating behaviour.

* 73% of the workforce are unhappy and say the workplace is oppressive.

* 65% of the workforce won’t speak up out of fear.

* 43% felt a great deal of pressure especially when it came to meeting unrealistic targets.

* 40% of the workforce say they have encountered abusive language.

* 38% of the workforce have been on the receiving end of hurtful jokes or have been the victim of pranks.

* 23% have come across threatening behaviour in the workplace.

* 15% have been on the receiving end of a physical assault.

* 66% of the bullies encountered within the workplace were managers or supervisors.

* 1 in 4 primary school children are bullied more than once or twice a week in any one school term.

* 1 in 10 primary school children are bullied persistently.

* Over 25 children every year commit suicide because of bullying.

* More than a quarter of children get threats of physical violence while in school.

* Bullying against boys is a more frequent occurrence than by girls.

* Around 10% of children have time off school due to bullying.

* Up to 40% of children think teachers have no clue that bullying is happening within the school.

* About 17% of all calls to child help lines are made by children who are being bullied.

* More children in the age group of 12 call child help lines regarding bullying than any other age.

* Almost one third of secondary school children have reported being the object of sexual jokes, gestures or comments.

* Victims of bullying are more likely to suffer from common illnesses such as colds, sore throats and stomach problems.

* By the average age of 23 children who had been bullied in school were found to still suffer from depression and stress related illnesses.

* Nearly 60% of boys who were classified as bullies when they were younger had been convicted of at least one crime by the time they were 23.

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Bullying Facts Question: 1

Can someone please give me some facts/statistics about bullying?

can anyone please help

Answer:
RECENT STATISTICS SHOW THAT: 1 out of 4 kids is Bullied. The American Justice Department says that this month 1 out of every 4 kids will be abused by another youth. Surveys Show That 77% of students are bullied mentally, verbally, & physically. In a recent study, 77% of the students said they had been bullied. And 14% of those who were bullied said they experienced severe (bad) reactions to the abuse. 1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some "Bullying." 8% of students miss 1 day of class per month for fear of Bullies. 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school. 100,000 students carry a gun to school. 28% of youths who carry weapons have witnessed violence at home. A poll of teens ages 12-17 proved that they think violence increased at their schools. 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month. More youth violence occurs on school grounds as opposed to on the way to school. Playground statistics - Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. Adult intervention - 4%. Peer intervention - 11%. No intervention - 85%.

Bullying Facts Question: 2

Why is Harry Reid and the dems now bullying ABC for reporting facts?

http://reid.senate.gov/newsroom/record.cfm?id=262624&&year=2006& I guess the dems don't want us reminded about the blowJ Willy and his negligence.

Answer:
They know that their lies are going to come out and they are crying about their boy Clinton being exposed for how stupid he was when he was screwing around with Monica and not worrying about Osama and the terrorists who were planning on doing harm to the USA!!!!!

Bullying Facts Question: 3

Please help me fast!!!! Its about Bullying?

ok i need some help i need ten facts on bullying real fast i'm not some kind of person that doesnt do their homework but this is an emergency i've been trying to find facts everywere i have done so much research but i can't find ten facts, i've only got 5. Please help me. Also i need to know how to bully someone, its for the same essay. Im not going to start bullying someone so yea. Please help me cos i really need to finish this asignment. PLEASE HELP

Answer:
http://www.safeyouth.org/scripts/faq/bullying.asp

Bullying Facts Question: 4

Bullying...?

I'm 15 and i know what it's like to be bullied. I found that the more you get bullied, the more you get used to it.. till you get to a point when you don't care anymore.. but NOONE should have to put up with it :[ My 7 yr old cousin came has been getting bullied.. because she's sooo quite in school, so people pick on her. :@ I've always liked being "different" and i've always liked wearing alternative clothes and listening to alternative music so because i'm not the same as everyone else people in school take the piss out of me every now and then. Soooo many people get bullied i witness it almost everyday.. the only thing that makes me laugh is the fact that the bullies are the ones with the problem! And they know it! So they take everything out on others cause it makes them feel good. This isn't even a question... but if you're getting bullied you're not alone..

Answer:
I was bullied at school... Like you a ware some prety weird cloths and have a rather obscure outlook on life. I had the strenth to ignore the bullies and the Power not to get mad... I take pride in the fact that through all that hell I still came out with good grades and now have a good job. I had the inner strenth to cope... they didnt. Bullies are week. I Pitty them. for someone to be so frustrated at there own lives... and their problems with the basic work of school... all they can do is resort to being a cave man... picking on the people who are diffrent. please ask your Cousin "If the people bully you, Why? ... Because your diffrent?... Whats diffrent? ... Is it that you have the intellegence that they dont... can you actualy understand things they cant..." the answer should be yes... I will never bully either of you, I have no reason... i can cope with my life... one day you will too... and dont worry about the bullies... they will all have a wonderfull carrear at some burger joint or on a cinima counter while you are in your Armoni office

Bullying Facts Question: 5

Bullying ..[[true story]]?

Ok, This is a serious question .. CousinA is getting accused of bullying cousinB. I Know for a fact that cousinA is doing nothing because she sits beside me on the school bus and cousinB goes to a different school. CousinB has threatned cousinA that she would get her kicked of the bus before this all started. Now, CousinA is being told that if this keeps going on then she will be kicked out of school. My school believes cousinA but CousinB's school believes cousinB. Now, Me & cousinC are sort off stuck in the middle of this. Is cousinB actually the bully in this situation.

Answer:
Well, if CousinA sits w/you on the bus, and doesn't pick on her then yes, CousinB is probably the bully... Good luck! :)

Bullying Facts Question: 6

Did you ever experience ongoing bullying as a grown up?

Bullying is an ugly matter of fact unacceptable in children. Society often concludes that bullying stops when children become adults. I know there is a focus on sexual harassment which is a form of bullying, but apart from this, have you ever been bullied and how did you react?

Answer:
I am the bully...it's fun

Bullying Facts Question: 7

My Cyber Bullying Newspaper Report...???

For english i have to write a newspaper report on Cyber Bullying, these are the requirements: ~ Include background detail to the issue ~ Present the key facts for the both sides of the issue ~Use a tone that is objective and authorative Can you please put in the paragraphs and make it make sense! MY NEWSPAPER REPORT ON CYBER BULLYING: It should come as no surprise that there is a major concern in our society about cyber bullying – but is there a valid reason for concern or not? This informative text is written to inform every one of both sides of the argument. Young people are using the internet more than ever; most also have access from home. For many children the internet is not only a convenient and fun after school activity, it is also a major part of their social lives. Cyber bullying takes place online and through text messages. Cyber bullies can be anyone, your classmates or total strangers can bully you online. The affects of cyber bullying can vary from a low self esteem, change of interests and depression. 13 year old Ryan committed suicide after being constantly abused online for 3 months, by his class mates. Ryan’s parents were shocked to find out what had caused such a tragedy. As you can see cyber bullying can lead to such extremes as suicide. (It doesn't have to be perfect, and i am in Year 9)

Answer:
I'm not able to write a paper for you (perhaps 'homework' section can help?), but there is a pretty well known case of cyberbullying that tragically led to a 13 year old, Megan Meier, ending her life. http://www.meganmeierfoundation.org

Bullying Facts Question: 8

Indiscriminate bullying of my niece? Further comments about bullying of her mother.?

My niece is being bullied. See previous comments and answers. There is a person who is supposed to be giving advice but simultaneously is bullying my sister. I have already mentioned that she is doing her best to resolve the situation. Yet I am getting unhelpful comments from a person who wants to do a character assassination of her. I want answers about bullying, but not a continual assault on my sister's failings. I feel that such people are bullying her because she is already doing her best, yet in one reply a person three times chastised my sister. I also know that she has gone through a difficult time and to explain this would take about three thousand more characters of writing space. I feel that people can have tough times and they try to haul themselves back up. Also it is judgemental to hurl abuse at her when you dont know all the facts concerning her life. She is sorting out her daughter's life as much as she can, and needs positive support. Any comments?

Answer:
The first thing your sister needs to do is ignore these stupid comments that people are puitting on here. I have noticed that no matter what the question, some idiot will put a nasty comment to the asker attacking them for whatever reason. That is just something you need to accept when you are going to ask a wide audience for advise. There are so many varying opinions that you are always going to find people who disagrees with what you are saying. In regards to your niece's bullying, the best thing do, if the bullys are from school, is go and see the school. If it still continues, she has to keep on going to school and complaining and, eventually, to Education Authority to have it dealt with. Tell her to keep a diary of all the incidents to strengthen her case. If the kids are not from school (or even if they are) she should try talking to the parents. HOwever, I know that it is likely that the parents won't do anything. I fthey won't, call the POlice. Especially if the bullying is physical. Good Luck.

Bullying Facts Question: 9

Whats your views on Bullying??

Hii, What are your views on bullying? Is it write? Is it wrong? Have you ever been bullied? if yes how old? Please email stampoutbullying2007@yahoo.co.uk < my online petition ( i use this for my school work and exams as scientific facts etc) Thankyou

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Bullying in schools and on the streets is blighting the lives of hundreds of thousands of children and young people. Victims feel that they are ignored and some are even stopped from going to school by head teachers on the grounds that it is for their own protection. This is a very negative approach to bullying and can encourage even more bullying as the bullies will think they are above the law. I think there should be a policy of zero tolerance, bullying should come under the law the same as any other violence. Since it is children doing the bullying a separate scheme should be set up just for school children between the ages of 10 and 17. This is how it could work: In the first instance there will be a warning, secondly a fine and then Community Service. The police will visit every school at the end of lessons to speak with those accused of bullying. Every school will keep a Bullying Book where all reports of bullying will be recorded along with evidence from witnesses if available. Once the complaint has been recorded the offender(s) will be informed of the complaint against them and told to stay behind after school, parents will be informed. If they admit the offence they will be given a warning and it will be written in the book. If they deny the offence but it has been witnesses, then they will receive a warning. If they deny the offence and it is not witnessed, a record is made of their statement .in the book. If a person has a second complaint made against them, it will be entered in the book and then they will be instructed to remain behind after school where they will be interviewed by a police officer. If found to be guilty they will incur a £40 fine which has to be paid within seven days. Failure to pay the fine will automatically result in the child serving a period of 5 to 15 days Community Service. If a third complain is made against an individual, they will automatic be given Community Service. For children aged 10 to 12 years old they will serve 5 days Community Service. Children aged 13 to 15 will serve 10 days. Children aged 16 to 17 will serve 15 days. Since Community Service is a positive scheme were they will be doing something positive to repay society in a safe and controlled environment, this should not be seen as a punishment, but more of a learning opportunity where they can reflect on their action and hopefully adjust their future behaviour.

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Survivors of Bullying: How did you overcome? What did you learn from the experience? What is your story?

As a child I was always perceived as being "different": too smart, sensitive, artistic, "otherworldly," etc. So, I am a survivor of severe bullying who, due to a disability, still occasionally has to deal with bullying in subtle and not-so-subtle forms. Thank God I became a teacher, writer, poet, and singer--who still has a heart. I am recording a cd for children ("tweens")--roughly ages 8-12. It is a story about a little girl who finally learns to value herself, stand up for herself, and organize the other kids in her school and neighborhood who have suffered at the hands of bullies. If you are a survivor of bullying, how did you overcome? What did you learn? Will you tell me your story? If you don't want to post an answer, you can also email me. This is important online research for an important cause. Bullying is on the rise. It reflects the fact that violence, in many forms, is on the rise in our society. Will you be a part of the solution? Thank you. Thanks, everyone. My email address is indigogriot@yahoo.com Peace to you.

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I was sexually abused at home (incest by 3 relatives, my grandfather and two much older brothers). That made me a timid person. Then when I went to school, I couldn't even sit down on the bus because the kids didn't want me to sit next to me. So I stood alone, or with a friend who went thru the same thing. We had to sit in a corner against the school building to get away from bullies, but they would come up and taunt us. In gym class, we were always the last to get picked for team sports. Nobody would work with us on class projects (we were not usually at the same recess, or in the same classes, so we usually experienced the bullying alone). Even teachers got in on the act - I was a brilliant student, and if I won a contest, I never got a prize, but others did. Teachers saw me being bullied, and did nothing. The bus drivers saw me standing in the bus aisle to school, which I'm sure was illegal, and did nothing. I missed about 30-40 days of school every year, but I got away with it because I was such a good student. My parents never went to my parent-teacher conferences, and maybe they would have heard about the bullying there. I did eventually end up going to college, but it was hell getting my degree, because I went on to develop bipolar disorder, which was not diagnosed for a long time. I went to grad school, on the basis of my GRE test scores, which were as high as the university geology and geophysics dept. had every seen, so they overlooked flunked courses. But after 3 or 4 years, the bipolar was so bad, I had to drop out (was kicked out, kind of) and worked a bit as a geologist, then became totally disabled. I can't even handle a part time job. I had great trouble selling doll clothes I sell at craft shows last year. I'm learning oil painting, and it's going great, but there are long periods of time I can't do it. I think the bipolar is more severe because of the constant fight or flight hormones at home and at school. The only break I got was hiking in the woods, which I couldn't do in winter. So my life got trashed thru bullying stress which almost certainly made the bipolar very bad. (poor childhoods are proven to make bipolar worse). I have had counseling, but they only want to talk about dealing with the sex abuse or the bipolar, and drop the ball on bullying no matter how much I say I want to work on that. I still think everyone hates me, that's the first thing when I get depressed. When I'm well, it's ok though. But I am depressed most of the time. I wanted to be a scientist since I was 6, (It was TORTURE going thru college with such despair from bipolar ) I wanted children, too,so I lost a lot. So I did not overcome bullying. I do have a terrific husband who is retired and so can pay attention to me a lot, and a nice old farmhouse in the country, and do get to garden and stuff. So my life is good, except for the bipolar and bullying and sex abuse crap that I can't control. I'm 43, and my husband is 68, so there is some bipolar unorthodoxy coming out of me, but the marriage is terrific. And I appear to be as gifted at oil painting as I was at math and science, so this may actually be a viable career for me someday. Of course, then I would lose medicare, and not be able to get my pills anymore. :-( So I dunno. I'm glad if people will work on the bullying issue. That's where the school shooters are coming from.

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