Comments for bullyfreeworld.com - free from bullying http://www.bullyfreeworld.com Bullying Guide: Learning about and dealing with bullying Mon, 08 Sep 2008 17:01:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on Bullying In The Family by catherine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/#comment-35 catherine Mon, 08 Sep 2008 11:03:01 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-35 I come at the end of a large family. 2 brothers and 6 sisters! Anyone who says that the youngest in the family is always spoiled, I would say come and talk to me. I had 9 mothers and that's the best way I can put it. They all had a comment to make about everything good and bad that I did. To try and describe the effects this had on me would take forever so let me put it this way. I am 38yrs old with a family of my own and to this day I try not to give them any reason to talk about me. I go out of my way to do anything they ask me. The problem is that now 2 sisters in particular, have kids that are absolute brats. Two yrs ago, they started bullying my child. It is done so subtly that it is extremely hard to catch them. But the effects on my daughter are very evident. She stopped going to ice hockey practice because they would bang into her on purpose but say that they were just tackling. This came to ahead when the coach saw my daughter fall on the ice and saw one of her cousins kick her hard. She came over to my daughter and told her that she should stand up to her. The trouble is that for some reason, this cousin can get the rest of the cousins to be nasty to my daughter and not talk to her. I genuinely cannot understand how a child can have this much power.The lies she tells are amazing! I decided after the ice hockey incident that I would approach my sister and try to sort it out. BIG MISTAKE! What she through up at me was unbelievable! She would not listen to anything but attacked me with everything she could think off, my husband and child got the brunt of it. Even writing this makes me shake. When the mothers do nothing even when you produce proof, then it answers the question as to how the child has so much power. I wonder could anyone answer me this and give me some advice. My daughter has decided herself that she no longer wants anything to do with her cousins and I honestly cannot say I blame her. Does this seem too extreme? I would welcome advice. I come at the end of a large family. 2 brothers and 6 sisters! Anyone who says that the youngest in the family is always spoiled, I would say come and talk to me. I had 9 mothers and that’s the best way I can put it. They all had a comment to make about everything good and bad that I did. To try and describe the effects this had on me would take forever so let me put it this way. I am 38yrs old with a family of my own and to this day I try not to give them any reason to talk about me. I go out of my way to do anything they ask me. The problem is that now 2 sisters in particular, have kids that are absolute brats. Two yrs ago, they started bullying my child. It is done so subtly that it is extremely hard to catch them. But the effects on my daughter are very evident. She stopped going to ice hockey practice because they would bang into her on purpose but say that they were just tackling. This came to ahead when the coach saw my daughter fall on the ice and saw one of her cousins kick her hard. She came over to my daughter and told her that she should stand up to her. The trouble is that for some reason, this cousin can get the rest of the cousins to be nasty to my daughter and not talk to her. I genuinely cannot understand how a child can have this much power.The lies she tells are amazing! I decided after the ice hockey incident that I would approach my sister and try to sort it out. BIG MISTAKE! What she through up at me was unbelievable! She would not listen to anything but attacked me with everything she could think off, my husband and child got the brunt of it. Even writing this makes me shake. When the mothers do nothing even when you produce proof, then it answers the question as to how the child has so much power.
I wonder could anyone answer me this and give me some advice.
My daughter has decided herself that she no longer wants anything to do with her cousins and I honestly cannot say I blame her.
Does this seem too extreme?
I would welcome advice.

]]> Comment on Workplace Bullying Or Harassment: The Differences by catherine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/workplace-bullying-or-harassment-the-differences/#comment-34 catherine Mon, 08 Sep 2008 09:59:51 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=21#comment-34 To Anonymous: You sure are, and make no mistake. In my opinion, they know they're not really being very nice to you, but want you to feel all the responsibility for it. You are absolutely right! Unless your actions are directly and purposely effecting them in a negative way, you do not have to justify them. There are many different ways of thinking and behaving, and for one person or group of people to believe that their way is the only way is positively narrow minded. So, try not to worry yourself too much. Seems to me, the problem is theirs. I hope you feel better. To Anonymous: You sure are, and make no mistake.
In my opinion, they know they’re not really being very nice to you, but want you to feel all the responsibility for it. You are absolutely right! Unless your actions are directly and purposely effecting them in a negative way, you do not have to justify them. There are many different ways of thinking and behaving, and for one person or group of people to believe that their way is the only way is positively narrow minded. So, try not to worry yourself too much. Seems to me, the problem is theirs. I hope you feel better.

]]> Comment on Workplace Bullying Or Harassment: The Differences by Anonymous http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/workplace-bullying-or-harassment-the-differences/#comment-33 Anonymous Thu, 04 Sep 2008 02:55:01 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=21#comment-33 I'm sick of having to justify my personal actions to others in my office, just because they may seem strange to them or are unusual to them. These are the same people who never ask me to go for coffee or lunch and then turn around and say 'why do you eat lunch on your own'. I'm not sure if this is bullying but it makes me feel victimised. I’m sick of having to justify my personal actions to others in my office, just because they may seem strange to them or are unusual to them. These are the same people who never ask me to go for coffee or lunch and then turn around and say ‘why do you eat lunch on your own’. I’m not sure if this is bullying but it makes me feel victimised.

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by catherine http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/#comment-32 catherine Thu, 28 Aug 2008 12:24:22 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-32 My story begins with my daughter being bullied by two girls in her class. I advised my daughter to ignore them as much as possible which she tried. They would approach her in the yard, intent on annoying her. Suffice it to say, everything they did was sneaky. But half way through the school year, when they did not get a reaction from my daughter they went a step further! They approached their teacher and told a lie on my daughter. My daughter, who has never been in any kind of trouble(thank God), was understandably very upset, to the point of asking would I go down to the school. Of course, I went and spoke to her teacher. The teacher and I decided to let the vice-principal deal with the matter as we had discovered that they had changed their story 4 TIMES. Having told the teacher not to make a big deal of it, but to make sure they did not do it again, even to another student, I thought the matter was dealt with. I was wrong!! The vice-principal heard these two girls changing their stories 4 times and instead of making them apologize to my daughter, made them all apologize to each other!! I was annoyed but thought that I would leave things alone and see how they went. They just went back to doing what they always did. I tried to talk to the vice principal about it in private but she was having none of it. She insisted on going down to my daughter's classroom and taking the teacher out and my daughter. I felt so intimidated and I can only imagine how my daughter felt. She told me she TOOK ISSUE with my questioning her method of dealing with the situation which she refused point blank to call a BULLYING SITUATION. She refused to call what the girls had done A LIE. I was a MISUNDERSTANDING. I told her in my book, a lie is a lie. Unable to take any criticism at all, she proceeded to say that maybe I had too much free time on my hands (I can only imagine she meant because I am a stay at home mum)and listen too much to my daughter. My daughter did nothing wrong, and I felt I had to defend my daughter and myself. These same two girls smile in my face and continue to annoy my child in the class and the yard. If I thought I was imagining this vice principal's annoyance at being brought to task by me, the school magazine at the end of the year proved me wrong. My daughter wrote a hallow'een poem and won a prise along with 8 or 9 other students. Everyone of them had their picture in the magazine. Except my daughter! although her photograph had been taken with the rest of the students. She couldn't understand it at all! Well, if nothing else, this has been very therapeutic. Would welcome comments. My story begins with my daughter being bullied by two girls in her class. I advised my daughter to ignore them as much as possible which she tried. They would approach her in the yard, intent on annoying her. Suffice it to say, everything they did was sneaky. But half way through the school year, when they did not get a reaction from my daughter they went a step further! They approached their teacher and told a lie on my daughter. My daughter, who has never been in any kind of trouble(thank God), was understandably very upset, to the point of asking would I go down to the school. Of course, I went and spoke to her teacher. The teacher and I decided to let the vice-principal deal with the matter as we had discovered that they had changed their story 4 TIMES. Having told the teacher not to make a big deal of it, but to make sure they did not do it again, even to another student, I thought the matter was dealt with. I was wrong!! The vice-principal heard these two girls changing their stories 4 times and instead of making them apologize to my daughter, made them all apologize to each other!! I was annoyed but thought that I would leave things alone and see how they went. They just went back to doing what they always did. I tried to talk to the vice principal about it in private but she was having none of it. She insisted on going down to my daughter’s classroom and taking the teacher out and
my daughter. I felt so intimidated and I can only imagine how my daughter felt. She told me she TOOK ISSUE with my questioning her method of dealing with the situation which she refused point blank to call a BULLYING SITUATION. She refused to call what the girls had done A LIE. I was a MISUNDERSTANDING. I told her in my book, a lie is a lie. Unable to take any criticism at all, she proceeded to say that maybe I had too much free time on my hands (I can only imagine she meant because I am a stay at home mum)and listen too much to my daughter. My daughter did nothing wrong, and I felt I had to defend my daughter and myself. These same two girls smile in my face and continue to annoy my child in the class and the yard.
If I thought I was imagining this vice principal’s annoyance at being brought to task by me, the school magazine at the end of the year proved me wrong. My daughter wrote a hallow’een poem and won a prise along with 8 or 9 other students. Everyone of them had their picture in the magazine. Except my daughter! although her photograph had been taken with the rest of the students. She couldn’t understand it at all! Well, if nothing else, this has been very therapeutic. Would welcome comments.

]]> Comment on The Effects Bullying Can Have On Your Health by john http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/the-effects-bullying-can-have-on-your-health/#comment-31 john Sun, 24 Aug 2008 15:08:23 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=17#comment-31 Hi, Are you a christian? And you saying that people still bullying you inside the church? You should be save now since you are out of the church. Hi, Are you a christian? And you saying that people still bullying you inside the church? You should be save now since you are out of the church.

]]> Comment on The Effects Bullying Can Have On Your Health by Niguwan Baro http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/the-effects-bullying-can-have-on-your-health/#comment-30 Niguwan Baro Sun, 24 Aug 2008 07:48:50 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=17#comment-30 Some years back 1987 I did something I shouldnt have and since than the bullying continued until now. I admitted my faults and prayed about it. I've gone to church and joined pray groups but it still continued even in church so I'm currantly out of church. Please I need some encouraging notes. Some years back 1987 I did something I shouldnt have and since than the bullying continued until now. I admitted my faults and prayed about it. I’ve gone to church and joined pray groups but it still continued even in church so I’m currantly out of church. Please I need some encouraging notes.

]]> Comment on Workplace Bullying Or Harassment: The Differences by Wayne http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/workplace-bullying-or-harassment-the-differences/#comment-29 Wayne Wed, 06 Aug 2008 19:19:49 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=21#comment-29 work in an educational system where there is no union for protection of one’s workplace rights. The chair of the department has written two negative evaluations on me and both contain very general and vague statements that have no factual circumstances to back up his statements. He has on two occasions told me that by going to HR and the Dean’s Office in confidence is not to his detriment but to mine. His deputy chair also wrote some very demeaning statements in his recent annual report and then sent them to an email server where twenty-four faculty members could view them in a software called tex. How should one proceed on this sensitive issue? Is there a legal case for suing and can one sue the individual that has posted false information about them on an internet server? Please let me know what is your advice and suggestions. Thanks. By Wayne on Aug 6, 2008 work in an educational system where there is
no union for protection of one’s workplace
rights. The chair of the department has
written two negative evaluations on me and
both contain very general and vague statements
that have no factual circumstances to back up
his statements. He has on two occasions
told me that by going to HR and the Dean’s Office in confidence is not to his detriment
but to mine. His deputy chair also wrote
some very demeaning statements in his recent
annual report and then sent them to an email
server where twenty-four faculty members could
view them in a software called tex. How
should one proceed on this sensitive issue?
Is there a legal case for suing and can one
sue the individual that has posted false
information about them on an internet server?
Please let me know what is your advice and
suggestions. Thanks.

By Wayne on Aug 6, 2008

]]> Comment on Bullying Out Of School by Anonymous http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-out-of-school/#comment-27 Anonymous Tue, 05 Aug 2008 13:23:20 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=8#comment-27 You should report this to your teacher counselor. Do not be afraid, they are just try to test you if you are easy to pick on. You should report this to your teacher counselor. Do not be afraid, they are just try to test you if you are easy to pick on.

]]> Comment on Bullying Out Of School by jack http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-out-of-school/#comment-26 jack Tue, 05 Aug 2008 07:05:56 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=8#comment-26 had football conditioning and near the end if the practice my friend starts to drink from a gallon of Gatorade and bunch of other people were so I thought it was one my friends so I took a good gulp from it and afterwards a sophmore comes up and starts yelling at me for drinking and I was trying to explain that I didn't know that it was his and I thought it was my friends then later when I'm walking back he pushes me over the railing and then he says he Is going to make my freshman year a living hell please help!! had football conditioning and near the end if the practice my friend starts to drink from a gallon of Gatorade and bunch of other people were so I thought it was one my friends so I took a good gulp from it and afterwards a sophmore comes up and starts yelling at me for drinking and I was trying to explain that I didn’t know that it was his and I thought it was my friends then later when I’m walking back he pushes me over the railing and then he says he Is going to make my freshman year a living hell please help!!

]]> Comment on Cyber Bullying by jeanass http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/cyber-bullying/#comment-25 jeanass Sun, 03 Aug 2008 10:36:01 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=9#comment-25 cyber bulling will not always be cought but i hope one day they can go on everyones email,myspace and see if there doing anything to hurt ant one and i hope they catch sexual preditors because my daughter has a myspace and she is ten TEN and those of you who let your kids have amyspace at ten have you been cought no you havent so those sexual preditors are after then i remember when i was a kid some one did that to me ihad my mom get on and report him cyber bulling will not always be cought but i hope one day they can go on everyones email,myspace and see if there doing anything to hurt ant one and i hope they catch sexual preditors because my daughter has a myspace and she is ten TEN and those of you who let your kids have amyspace at ten have you been cought no you havent so those sexual preditors are after then i remember when i was a kid some one did that to me ihad my mom get on and report him

]]>