Comments for bullyfreeworld.com - free from bullying http://www.bullyfreeworld.com Bullying Guide: Learning about and dealing with bullying Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:21:19 +0300 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Why Am I Being Bullied? by bullyfre http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/why-am-i-being-bullied/comment-page-1/#comment-235 bullyfre Fri, 16 Jul 2010 00:21:19 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=20#comment-235 Posted for Paula I need some help. There is a neighbor boy with 3 sisters who repeatedly verbally bully him. He is the oldest and yes has issues. To be honest he knows if he was my kid i would beat his ass. Which he respects me, comes to me and my husband when he is upset. His mother calls my husband to handle him or talk to him when he does something while she is at work. Long story to all this. Basically, Mom is believing what the girls say no matter what. He does nothing write and even takes verbal abuse from mom. I am not really sure that she realizes she is doing all this because she was abused mentally and physical as a child. The girls will post things on FB that they don’t what him around or to go places and sure enough with hours he is grounded and will have to stay home alone. All the children are in counseling however, the councilor is an IDOIT!!!!!! MOM and step dad have a drug past, step dad is no longer living in the house. BUT everyone mom and kids are using the man, Pathetic… Mom is hardly home and when she is he is always in trouble. I have tried to tell her that when the kids tattle on each other punish both of them, It is stupid stuff like he won’t give me the phone or she has been on the phone all day. I did this with my girls when they were younger and it put a stop to the fighting because they both got in trouble so it wasn’t worth it to pick fights. However, she doesn’t she believes what the girls say and nothing the boy said. The kids al know they system and how to play it. I’ve talked to the boy and told him flat out “ I know you know what you are doing, You’re not stupid, and I always get that shitty grin… I feel like I need to do something or say something but so far she has never paid any attention to what I have said. The boy does have a temper and so does mom. I just realized something, she was going to have him put in a boys camp but when she found out she would have to give up her child support, she changed her mind. However, she keeps threaten the boy to send him a way. Part of me wants to tell the boy that she won’t because of that but on the other hand it does help keep him in check so to speak. I’ve tried to explain that to him that his mom is just going through somethings and she is having a hard time and just behave but when I found out the girls posted they didn’t want him around this weekend and two hours later he comes over and said I can go now because of what the girls told mom. Basicly, He told the x-boyfriends daughter, she left move in, to leave, She calls me to have my husband talk to him, cause the 18 yr old girl doesn’t need that. O COME ON… Makes me what to tell her to get her head out of her ass, SORRY…) So after I talked with him and explained she has thing on her mind, she loves him etc. I told him to try this, later before he goes to bed to tell her “mom it’s ok if I don’t go this weekend I know you don’t want me around either. Basicly to put a guilt trip on her, and if that doesn’t work so he can go then I would tell him something else on Friday. I haven’t asked him if any thing has changed yet. But I want to tell him to tell her “Mom why don’t I go live with ___ (cousin) I am sure she would you the money you get for me to do thing with me and not just the girls. O I know this is so wrong but what she is don’t is wrong too. Question is there any law or anything that sais basically this “ If the parent does nothing about another family bulling and allows the bulling or verbal abuse and the bullied child hurt one of the other children in any way the parent will also go to jail and loose all the children. “ I want something to send to her to make her aware that she needs to put a stop to it. Looking for advice. Thanks Paula Posted for Paula

I need some help. There is a neighbor boy with 3 sisters who repeatedly verbally bully him. He is the oldest and yes has issues. To be honest he knows if he was my kid i would beat his ass. Which he respects me, comes to me and my husband when he is upset. His mother calls my husband to handle him or talk to him when he does something while she is at work. Long story to all this. Basically, Mom is believing what the girls say no matter what. He does nothing write and even takes verbal abuse from mom. I am not really sure that she realizes she is doing all this because she was abused mentally and physical as a child. The girls will post things on FB that they don’t what him around or to go places and sure enough with hours he is grounded and will have to stay home alone. All the children are in counseling however, the councilor is an IDOIT!!!!!! MOM and step dad have a drug past, step dad is no longer living in the house. BUT everyone mom and kids are using the man, Pathetic… Mom is hardly home and when she is he is always in trouble. I have tried to tell her that when the kids tattle on each other punish both of them, It is stupid stuff like he won’t give me the phone or she has been on the phone all day. I did this with my girls when they were younger and it put a stop to the fighting because they both got in trouble so it wasn’t worth it to pick fights. However, she doesn’t she believes what the girls say and nothing the boy said. The kids al know they system and how to play it. I’ve talked to the boy and told him flat out “ I know you know what you are doing, You’re not stupid, and I always get that shitty grin… I feel like I need to do something or say something but so far she has never paid any attention to what I have said. The boy does have a temper and so does mom. I just realized something, she was going to have him put in a boys camp but when she found out she would have to give up her child support, she changed her mind. However, she keeps threaten the boy to send him a way. Part of me wants to tell the boy that she won’t because of that but on the other hand it does help keep him in check so to speak. I’ve tried to explain that to him that his mom is just going through somethings and she is having a hard time and just behave but when I found out the girls posted they didn’t want him around this weekend and two hours later he comes over and said I can go now because of what the girls told mom. Basicly, He told the x-boyfriends daughter, she left move in, to leave, She calls me to have my husband talk to him, cause the 18 yr old girl doesn’t need that. O COME ON… Makes me what to tell her to get her head out of her ass, SORRY…) So after I talked with him and explained she has thing on her mind, she loves him etc. I told him to try this, later before he goes to bed to tell her “mom it’s ok if I don’t go this weekend I know you don’t want me around either. Basicly to put a guilt trip on her, and if that doesn’t work so he can go then I would tell him something else on Friday. I haven’t asked him if any thing has changed yet. But I want to tell him to tell her “Mom why don’t I go live with ___ (cousin) I am sure she would you the money you get for me to do thing with me and not just the girls. O I know this is so wrong but what she is don’t is wrong too. Question is there any law or anything that sais basically this “ If the parent does nothing about another family bulling and allows the bulling or verbal abuse and the bullied child hurt one of the other children in any way the parent will also go to jail and loose all the children. “ I want something to send to her to make her aware that she needs to put a stop to it. Looking for advice.
Thanks Paula

]]> Comment on Bullying In The Family by Jean S. http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Jean S. Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:21:11 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-234 I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON"T DO IT> I am sorry u r going thru this. So am I. Please try to get out of there. Go to a church. If u r pregnant the catholic church will try to help u.My family drove my brother to suicide. PLEASE DON”T DO IT>

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by Love http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Love Tue, 18 May 2010 22:01:17 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-232 I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home - and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote "Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe. In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. 'I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,' Twemlow says. He defines teacher bullying as 'using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.'" Myself? I've had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can't count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I've had teachers who have told me to 'mind my own buisness' or 'take care of myself' when I've stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher - who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs - said loudly to the class, "Look, Love's taking a crap!" I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom - the BATHROOM - and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn't so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher. I think that teachers, like any other bully, can sense weakness. I have a good friend who was physically abused at home – and at school by I believe it was three different teachers. It might have been two. I have been doing some reasearch on bullying by teachers. I found this website: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/teachers-who-bully with this quote “Teacher bullying gets little attention, say Stuart Twemlow, MD, a psychiatrist who directs the Peaceful Schools and Communities Project at the Menninger Clinic in Houston. But his new study, published in The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, hints that the problem may be more common than people believe.
In his anonymous survey of 116 teachers at seven elementary schools, more than 70% said they believed that bullying was isolated. But 45% admitted to having bullied a student. ‘I was surprised at how many teachers were willing to be honest,’ Twemlow says.
He defines teacher bullying as ‘using power to punish, manipulate, or disparage a student beyond what would be a reasonable disciplinary procedure.’”
Myself? I’ve had a couple of problems with teachers, and I would like to add that teachers can be bystanders too. I can’t count how many teachers have ignored me when I told them that some peers were physically beating me. I’ve had teachers who have told me to ‘mind my own buisness’ or ‘take care of myself’ when I’ve stepped in to help my peers who are being teased or the such by our peers. After being on the volleyball team for a few years, I had the volleyball stance perfected. When the gym teacher – who gave the popular girls who did nothing As and the less popular kids who worked their butts off Cs – said loudly to the class, “Look, Love’s taking a crap!” I vowed never to play volleyball again. I had a teacher who put me in the corner during a field trip because I ran off to blow my nose. When my peers who wondered why the good girl was in the corner came over, I was sent to the bathroom – the BATHROOM – and told to keep quiet. At this point she was yelling at me. She continued to yell at me the bus ride home and tell me that if it wasn’t so close to the end of the day she would have had the principle pick me up and such. When I was singing under my breath to comfort myself she yelled at me to stop yelling, so I stopped talking. She told the principle I was yelling on the bus. When I came home crying to my mom and she called the school, her story quickly changed. She even accused me of lying, which was ridiculous because everyone knew that I did not lie (I was in 5th grade.) We had a similar conflict a couple years later when she was no longer my teacher.

]]> Comment on Bullying In The Family by unknown http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-231 unknown Tue, 30 Mar 2010 18:46:07 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-231 i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time ... i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out... i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore... i dont know whether im feeling sorry for myself or what, but for a long time my family have been making me feel very small so i lack alot of confidence, i mean dont get me wrong they do and give me alot of things but they use that against me alot of the time … i try and sort things out with them and it just ends in an argument. my brother gets away with what feels like everything, he is the elder one and he has struggled a bit through life but he loves nothing better than seeing what i have to go through with my family always being made to feel in superior to them. so of course my brother feeds off that whenever he can to get my parents support to make me worse. im suffering from depression really quite badly and i am four months pregnant and it was also another thing i got pressured into by them, if i didnt keep it i got chucked out… i dont know what to do anymore im scared and i jus want things to change. i just feel like it must be my fault all the time but i dont know anymore…

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by Kathleen Sweeney http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Kathleen Sweeney Thu, 25 Mar 2010 15:11:46 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-230 My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland. My daughter is being bullied by her cookery teacher. Yesterday she told the teacher she couldnt decide on one or two layers of iceing for her cake. The next minute the teacher flew into a screaming fit and started pointing into my daughters face which made her feel frightened. Today the other teacher in the same department decided upon herself to take up the rest of the attack and sent my daughter to another room, she hadnt even opened her mouth.My daughter was so distressed that she came home in floods of tears. My husband and i went up to the school and one of the head teachers cant do anything about it untill the teacher concerned puts in a report. I feel so let down and helpless. I have told my daughter to give the class a miss and stay out of her way because i feel the teacher is going to lose control and that terrifies me. I dont know what to do. Kathleen, Glasgow Scotland.

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by Shawn Loydall http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Shawn Loydall Thu, 25 Mar 2010 14:59:55 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-229 I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me "skitzo". I have autism and it's extremely difficult to cope with as it is. I am an F.E student at a specialist speech, language and communication school and I am currently being targeted by staff for complaining about a member of staff labelling me “skitzo”. I have autism and it’s extremely difficult to cope with as it is.

]]> Comment on Bullying In The Family by VIRIDIANA http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/bullying-in-the-family/comment-page-1/#comment-228 VIRIDIANA Wed, 17 Mar 2010 01:08:22 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=5#comment-228 I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE'S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON'T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED I BEEN BULLIED BY MY OWN BROTHER HE EVEN BROKE MY ANKCLE BEAT ME ON THE FLOOR NOT AS BAD AS HE COULD OF HE SAYS HE HAS BIG TIME BAD ASS PRISON PRISON TATTOOS HE REPLIES HE’S CHASED ME TO BEAT MY ASS AND TROWN STUFF AT ME AND SAYS SORRY IT WON’T HAPPEN AGIN UNLESS I ASK FOR IT ITS HAPPEN 3 TIMES LAST TIME FOR HEARING WHAT HE HAD TO SAY WHILE HE WAS DRUNK DURING THAT TIME HIS GIRL LEFT HIM WELL GOTTA GO I HATE EXPLAINING NO SEGNIFICANT REASON WHY I SOULD GET BULLYED

]]> Comment on Why Am I Being Bullied? by Christian http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/25/why-am-i-being-bullied/comment-page-1/#comment-227 Christian Sun, 07 Mar 2010 12:43:55 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=20#comment-227 I am always bullied in school and i am really sick of it! i have been bullied for 7 YEARS!!! people tease me a lot! my niece told me that boys punch and girls tease and that's true! she said that bullying is child abuse. if my classmates keep this up... i am gonna send a letter to the principal and tell the principal how feel about being bullied! my classmates are pulling my confidence down!!! I am always bullied in school and i am really sick of it!
i have been bullied for 7 YEARS!!!
people tease me a lot!
my niece told me that boys punch and girls tease and that’s true!
she said that bullying is child abuse.
if my classmates keep this up…
i am gonna send a letter to the principal and tell the principal how feel about being bullied!
my classmates are pulling my confidence down!!!

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by adrianne http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/comment-page-1/#comment-225 adrianne Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:22:22 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-225 There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, " I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that." When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D's on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child There was an incident within the last 2 weeks involving the same teacher that I have suspected bullying my 8 year old little girl. She sent an orange form home with my child that stated in her handwriting that, ” I sent another child to tell her she was on the wall and she told the child that she was not going to do that.” When I contacted the teacher via telephone, I was mocked, there was no information that she gave me to promote clarification. She then wanted to schedule a conference with the principal and would not answer 4 other phone calls within school hours. At the beginning of this year my child was the smartest kid in the class, quoted by her teacher. Now for some reason I have an A,B Honor Roll Student to seeing a report card with 3 D’s on it. It also seems that she is punished for being absent with an ongoing battle with Gastric Reflux that the staff has known about and has ALL required medical documentation. Why my child

]]> Comment on Is Your Child Being Bullied By A Teacher? by johnbuck http://www.bullyfreeworld.com/2008/05/24/is-your-child-being-bullied-by-a-teacher/comment-page-1/#comment-224 johnbuck Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:34:10 +0000 http://bullyfreeworld.com/?p=12#comment-224 hi my brother is 10 years old and is being bulled at school by his head master wat can i do he is realy scard ov him ? hi my brother is 10 years old and is being bulled at school by his head master wat can i do he is realy scard ov him ?

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