May 25, 2008 – 11:17 pm
Why Being Bullied
Questions & Answers (Q&A)
Bullying Guide
There are many different reasons why bullies target people but some reasons are consistent in most case of bullying, so what draws a bully to their target and why? Here are some of the reasons:
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* Bullies are opportunists and usually it’s a case of you were in the wrong place at the wrong time and the bully found that they can intimidate you easily.
* The bully is jealous of you and secretly wishes they were like you.
* The bully is afraid of exposing their inadequacy and you only make them feel more inadequate especially if you are excellent at your job or school work.
* You are popular and therefore get more attention than the bully and this is how the bully wants to be.
* You are independent and don’t need to get strength from others, bullies often get strength from their “gang of followers” who find it funny that you are tormented.
* You have many friends who like to be with you just for you.
* You have nice possessions, the bully is often jealous of those who have what they don’t.
Do any special events cause bullying?
As a bully is usually jealous of others achievements there are many events that can trigger bullying such as:
* Your performance at school or work is highlighted by such as awards or praise.
* If for any reason you suddenly become the focus of attention, this often occurs with female bullies.
* Standing up for a friend or colleague who is being bullied.
* Telling tales, this can be incompetence at work for instance or something that is done illegally.
* Displays of affection and trust from others.
* Seeking advice from trade union officials during disputes at work.
* Refusing to obey orders you don’t think are fair.
* Gaining promotion in the work place.
Qualities that bullies find irresistible:
Bullies are particularly drawn to people with the following qualities:
* Popularity - This brings out the jealousy side of the bully.
* Intelligence - This only enhances the bully’s inadequacies.
* You always give 100% and will do anything to help others - This brings out jealousy In bullies.
* You are imaginative and creative - Again shows the bullies incompetence.
* You have a strong sense of right and wrong - The bully will never admit to being wrong.
* You prefer to talk rather than fight - The bully sees this as a sign of weakness.
* High level of tolerance - The bully will try and break you down through bullying to prove he is stronger than you.
What the bully really is:
* A convincing liar who will say and do anything to get out of trouble or around problems in their life.
* Is excellent in deceiving others particularly peers.
* Emotionally insecure and untrustworthy .
* An arrogant person who believes themselves to be untouchable.
* Has a need to control people and alienate them from others.
* They are always takers and never givers.
* Someone who poisons peoples minds with lies about you.
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Why Being Bullied Question & Answers
Why Being Bullied Question: 1
Being Bullied in School. Why? I have been bullied before. Since I was in middle school. I am now a senior in highschool. I don't understand it. They make fun of me for the stupidest reasons. The first is the fact that they tormented me and my friends for being gay. They threw things and hit us when we walked by. They also told me I was ugly. Now these were some of the ugliest girls in the school. I don't thinki'm ugly
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Please tell me if you disagree. Why do people choose to be so cruel? I have cut myself and have been in psychiatric hospitals for what they did to me. They crushed my self esteem for a long time. These people were unrelentless. They made my friend commit suicide after bashing him twice without punishment. And still it continues.
Answer: People are cruel because they fear what they don't understand. Usually, people are cruel and do things to others because it takes the attention off of them. In a lot of cases, these same people who are doing the bullying are just as insecure, if not more so.
Little sister, you are beautiful and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You believe this, so that's the majority of the battle. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, though. It's sad that so many of our youth are lost to suicide because they couldn't handle life and the difficulties of it. If someone could have given them an encouraging word and some genuine love, they still may be here. We'll never know.
You be encouraged, little sister. Know that there is someone who cares for you and is praying for you. Also, listen to Jill Scott's song, "Hate On Me". It speaks volumes to the haters out there. Be strong. Peace!!!
Why Being Bullied Question: 2
how do u stop being bullied from other kids older than u and younger than u?
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Why Being Bullied Question: 3
Why am I always being bullied? why is it always me? Ok, so basically I have practically been bullied all my life. And I am sick and tired of it. I wasn't bullied when I was in kindergarten. Everyone loved me. And then, come elemantary school people started teasing me and ridiculing me, because of the clothes I wore, my personality, I didn't fit in, how I looked, my knowledge about things in life, etc. It hasn't stopped sicne. i used to be a loner and cried myself to sleep everyday. I've had a ton of guys reject me, and I wonder if I will ever get a boyfriend. I don't know why. i don't think I'm ugly, most if not all people tell me I am gorgeous. And, my personality is not that bad I think. To this day, some people still bully me. It doesn't affect my life much now, but it does bug me makes me sad. I've fought and fought a lot. It even got physical. I just hope something good comes from this. If you want to know, I am 14 years old.
Answer: Well basically in some point in our lives we have all been either seen people being bullied and not done something about it, which makes us just as bad as the bully, or like in your case been bullied.. And sometimes aculey most of the times it happens to shy, quit, not really outgoing loud type of people.. and its just how your personality is. If i were you I would think of it this way.. what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.. the more experiences you have the more lessons learnd.. the more smarter you get.. and that is the best gift in life.. to look back and learn from your experiences and to develop in to the wonderful person you are becoming. Everyone gets rejected some point in there life.. guys and girls.. there is not one person who can say they never felt rejected before.. either by friends, family, crushes, boyfirends, girlfriends etc.. we all go through it, and we all learn from it. And its defanlty not because your ugly. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.. what i may think is pretty you may think is ugly.. it all depends on whos looking at it and the persons prefrences.. so dont think that no guy will ever like you.. because that is not true.. you have your whole life ahead of you and future.. and hopefully you will use your past.. of being bullied and redeculied into life long lessons.. that you can teach others and share to them and maybe help them out. Of course good will come from this.. it already has.. and you dont even know it yet. You learned that not everyone is going to like you and that life is filled with ups and downs.. and you learned what its like to not fit in.. and you can learn to tell others about this so they can be like wow i thought i was the only one going through this.. and you can learn to help them.. there is good after every storm. And at 14 years old there is so much ..more exciting things to look forward to in your life... and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel and it will shiiiiineee!. Work hard in school, get a good job, work partime while in school.. be more outgoing.. and believe me people will come pouring in.
Best of wishes kesha.
Why Being Bullied Question: 4
Why does it seem that Portugal is being bullied such as being labeled as cheaters? Lately, any headline involving the Portugal team involves anger or hostility from other teams, or are being blamed for the opposing team's misfortune (i.e England) And WHY is everyone FREAKING hounding Ronaldo? Leave the guy alone!!! I smell a strong whiff of JEALOUSY...
Answer: I agree! A lot of the more immature and hotheaded English fans just can't seem to blame their own team for the loss and have to resort to petty name calling and scapegoating of the opposing team. Watching the footage, in any normal situation, it would not have been such a big deal if a player made a suggestion to the ref. Too bad ROONEY couldn't control his temper; his own actions got him sent off. In the case of the ENG/POR game, Rooney blatantly stepped on the guy's balls; that was NOT a diving incident. Some fans just don't realize that in every match there has to be a loser.
Why Being Bullied Question: 5
why is my friend being bullied? my friend is being buliied for being skinny ive known ma friend for years and i know know she cant put on weight and she eats loads shes funny out going very pretty and i have stuck up to the bullies they still keep bulling i have told her to tell her mum but she says im 18 and can look after myself the truth is she cant everytime i see the bullies corner her she doesnt stick up for herself im very upset by this
Answer: Hello
Bullies usually pick on someone weaker than them, and they are usually in a group. As on their own they are just chicken themselves. They do it for power. They do it if someones prettier than them, brainer and talented. They pick on people who are different to them, size, weight, looks, wears glasses, has a disability, is in a lower set to them or higher, faily background, colour and theres so many reasons mate .
I was just like your friend when i was at school. Im skinny and cant gain weight and never could, guess i never will!!! And i eat alot. I used to get called names such as witch (although i turned out to be one Lol), rakey, nasty comments were said such as you smell, go have a bath.
Some of the girls in my school used to tell me to do their homework for them or they'd beat me up. Silly me though i used too. It wasnt just me who was bullied it was also my two mates aswel. It made me very down but i always tried to put a brave face on. I didnt want the bullies to see i was really scared of them. So its more than likely that your mate is doing this aswel.
I put up with it from my 1st year of high school till my 4th year. I think your mate needs to realise that if she DOESNT start to stand up to people who try to bully her NOW, she will experience this and always fall victim to bullying through her life. Workplaces are worse than school or college. I stood up to my bullies. When one of them handed me her homework one afternoon i just turned round and said to her, "no you do it. im not doing it anymore". I remember she said to me that i thought i was really hard. I remember saying to her im not at all hard but im not a bully either and i dont think myself perfect. She punched me in the face (which gave me a black eye) and i still refused to be bullied anymore.
To cut along story short her and her mates did try my patience a few more times but after i stood upto them they realised they were wasting their breath. It also encouraged my two mates to stick up to them and eventually they left us alone. (unfortuantly they started on someone else then).
So tell your mate she needs to stand upto them. You can tell the police or another trust worthy adult, but in the long run its better she does the standing up herself.
If she gets to a point where shes so down and depressed and thinking suisidal thoughts REPORT IT TO THE POLICE PLEASE.
Good luck to your mate x
Why Being Bullied Question: 6
Why do I always get picked on or being bullied? For some odd reason, I seem like a good target for a bully to pick on me. I don't know why. I'm petite, female, and a minority. I always get picked on, but I can't figure out why.
Is it because I'm quiet? How do I get rid of bully?
The more I ignore them, the more these bullies pick on me at school. What do I do?
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Why Being Bullied Question: 7
why is it acceptable that Dirk appears to being bullied? on tonights CBB Clio teased Dirk,along with Danielle and Jo,thinking it was hilarious.why isn't it all over the news? that poor man has sat on his own and had the p**s taken out of him.oh yes,i forgot,he's white,like the bullies.thats why its acceptable.apparently its not bullying when your the same colour etc.have i got my point across? does anyone else agree?
well said Blondie_C
Jon,i'm sorry i totally agree,
mrs G why wasnt Shilpa told to get a backbone was it because she was female and a different race?
Answer: Yep i totally agree with you i really feel for poor jade at the end of the day with jade is what you see is what you get!
i was backing jade all the way and she has had so much stick, but i bet nobody has even batterd a eyelid about clio, i think it is F***ing wrong.
Why Being Bullied Question: 8
Why I'm I being picked on/bullied? What could possibly be the reasoning? Any any any advice please!!!? I've really been in distress lately. I am a senior in high school. I am of small-medium build (thin, 5'8'') good looking, nothing about me that anyone would find to be "abnormal", as for most bullying cases. However, throughout my high school years, various people seem to find enjoyment "picking on" me and treating me like utter garbage. Lately there is this semi-big softmore that finds enjoyment with patting me on the back really hard or acting as if he is going to punch me, every chance he gets. It is very pathetic. My self esteem has gone down the tubes, even when I really try not to let it get to me. This is all I can think about and it is driving me nuts! I know I am better than this kid will ever be in his life, but I just do not see the reasoning. I stay out of people's way, mind my own business. No one seems to get this kind of treatment at my school. It's a very small and tight knit school. I just cannot get in this kid's mindset and understand why anyone would do this.
Answer: Unfortunately some people never change. I would ignore him as much as possible and hang out with your friends more.
I am 29, I went to high school in a small community and had sort of the same thing happen. I had this guy that lied and said that I had a crush on him and would do anything with any guy if he would give me a ride home before I had a car. Which was not true, he was two years my senior, but was a total idiotic creep. I ran into him last summer when I went back to see some family and friends and guess what he was still a creep! Seriously some people just never get over themselves. I would say ride it out, you don't have that much longer and you will find next year that high school is overrated. Enjoy your adult life.
Why Being Bullied Question: 9
Why does prince Harry get bullied for being Ginger headed? I put a question in asking why red heads get insulted by society most of you replied and said there was not a problem well read the Daily Record and i rest my case!
Answer: he deserves it, not for the color of his hair but for the contents of his brain.
Why Being Bullied Question: 10
Why is my son being bullied? My 9 year old son Cecil came into my study this afternoon and said - 'Father, why did the common children in the village throw thigns at me today?'
Dear Yahoo Answerers, I must admit a tear came to my eye.
I took the boy and sat him down. 'My dear boy' I replied 'The common street urchins are a lowly and embittered species, who look at you in your top hat and feel nothing but jealousy. Now, because they lack basic intelligence, the only thing that they can do is try to destroy that which they are jealous of. But my boy, fear not, for a gutter dwelling peasant will never get the better of a Beauville-Lobe!'
With that, young Cecil straightened his cravat and stood up proudly. Now, I would like to know how I can make sure the fellow faces no further onslaughts. Were my words to him enough?
Answer: Because he lacks self-esteem and the other kids are picking up on that. He just need to stand up for himself and the bulling should stop.
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One Response to “Why Am I Being Bullied?”
people pick on me because of my wheight and Im bigger then them but I do not want to go down to their low
By austin on Jun 16, 2008